What can i do if im lonely and bored?!
Question: What can i do if im lonely and bored!?
sometimes i feel bored doing the same things by myself (reading, drawing etc!.) and i am a lonely person with no friends my age!. i feel like i am already old (im 23)!. my only friend is an older lady who is like a mother but she is busy a lot!. i am nearing the end of the semester and i am ALWAYS alone and nobody seems to want to even talk to me, much less say hi!. it is a big university!. anyway, i wont be going to class anymore, so what can i do to not feel so bored and lonely in a small town!? i think maybe im BPD cuz sometimes i email my older friend and tell her all of my miserable feelings then email her again about how angry i am that she didnt address my feelings!. i told her i felt like "my life is passing before my eyes" and she said nothing back about it!. i hate her sometimes!. i feel like i hate her!. i dont know what i want from her!. i go back and forth depending on my father and her then hating them again!. i hate people!. i dont know what i want!. im lonely!. i have a mood disorder!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Hey you got some bad answers there didnt you! one guy even recommended you play the xbox!!!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. thats some quality advice right there!.
Look I dont wanna preach and tell you to go join some clubs and all that crap because thats silly pop psychology people read in the agony aunt section of glossy magazines!. They dont understand that its just not that simple!. College can be a cruel and lonely place if youre not the kind of person who makes friends easily!. Its hard when everybody else seems to be getting along just fine with other people and then theres you all by yourself!. For what its worth I dont think you have Bi-polar disorder or any other disorder!. You just sound like you need a good friend!. Unfortunately good friends dont exactly grow on trees and not everybody has somebody who they can turn to!.
I was in your position when I was in college so I know how you feel!. I found it hard to make friends and the only aquaintance I did have was this mature student dude who was friendly towards me alright but I couldnt really class him as a proper friend!. I know what its like to have to do stuff on your own becuase there aint nobody else around!. Things like going to the movies by yourself or going to a concert!. I mean you gotta get on with your life and do things that you'd like to do!. You cant not do stuff just because theres nobody to do it with!. But what can happen is you become resentful!. You go about living your life quietly by yourself and all around you theres people in groups or even worse, couples in love getting all frisky and lovey dovey right in front of you!. So I understand how that can make you feel even more isolated and aware of your situation!. And I think thats were your anger is coming from!. It makes sense and anybody would be the way you are if they were in the same situation!. This is because people are social creatures and are happy when they have friends and family to fill their lives with!. And they are even happier when they have an intimate relationship with somebody of the opposite sex!. Somebody who really knows them!. To be truly seen by another human being is nourishment for the soul!. This is why people are desperate enough to engage in things like internet dating, speed dating, singles nights and all manner of undignified activities!.
And people will do these things because they just wanna be connected to others or feel like they belong!.
But not everybody is willing to put themselves out there like that!. And I think youre one of those people!. Youre not a people chaser!. You can handle being by yourself!. I know youre having a bit of a struggle with it but by in large youre ok!. Thats something special becuause most people cant handle being by themselves at all!. They run after others all their lives!. Ive seen it up close, I know these people and their lives arent as happy as they appear to be from the outside!. When youre by yourself you truly get to know who you are and that is an amazing thing!.
I know this sounds contradictory: On one hand im saying you need people in your life to be happy but on the other hand im saying you need to be ok by yourself!. The answer lies someplace between the two!. Ive seen the effects of social isolation, I see it every day!. And in fairness its mostly men who experience this kind of isolation because men arent good talkers and they sure as hell arent ones for reaching out to others!. Instead they'll drink themselves to death!. Men use alcohol to take the edge off their loneliness!. Women can use alcohol aswell but by in large I think women use food to fill the void created by feeling isolated or unloved!. I just mention this so youre aware of what can happen when people feel lonely!.
Anyway I think youre doing better than youre aware of!. So I think you could go see the college counsellor!. I know thats a pain in the *** and all and its something you dont wanna do but they are really nice people!. I went to see the college counsellor and I have to say it was possibly the best decision ive ever made!. You'll gain perspective on things and you'll be able to vent your anger which will feel great!. I know college counsellors work throughout the summer so there'll be no problem there!.
I think doing that for the moment would be enough and if you want you can e-mail me and let me know how youre getting on because id love to hear from you!.
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Look I dont wanna preach and tell you to go join some clubs and all that crap because thats silly pop psychology people read in the agony aunt section of glossy magazines!. They dont understand that its just not that simple!. College can be a cruel and lonely place if youre not the kind of person who makes friends easily!. Its hard when everybody else seems to be getting along just fine with other people and then theres you all by yourself!. For what its worth I dont think you have Bi-polar disorder or any other disorder!. You just sound like you need a good friend!. Unfortunately good friends dont exactly grow on trees and not everybody has somebody who they can turn to!.
I was in your position when I was in college so I know how you feel!. I found it hard to make friends and the only aquaintance I did have was this mature student dude who was friendly towards me alright but I couldnt really class him as a proper friend!. I know what its like to have to do stuff on your own becuase there aint nobody else around!. Things like going to the movies by yourself or going to a concert!. I mean you gotta get on with your life and do things that you'd like to do!. You cant not do stuff just because theres nobody to do it with!. But what can happen is you become resentful!. You go about living your life quietly by yourself and all around you theres people in groups or even worse, couples in love getting all frisky and lovey dovey right in front of you!. So I understand how that can make you feel even more isolated and aware of your situation!. And I think thats were your anger is coming from!. It makes sense and anybody would be the way you are if they were in the same situation!. This is because people are social creatures and are happy when they have friends and family to fill their lives with!. And they are even happier when they have an intimate relationship with somebody of the opposite sex!. Somebody who really knows them!. To be truly seen by another human being is nourishment for the soul!. This is why people are desperate enough to engage in things like internet dating, speed dating, singles nights and all manner of undignified activities!.
And people will do these things because they just wanna be connected to others or feel like they belong!.
But not everybody is willing to put themselves out there like that!. And I think youre one of those people!. Youre not a people chaser!. You can handle being by yourself!. I know youre having a bit of a struggle with it but by in large youre ok!. Thats something special becuause most people cant handle being by themselves at all!. They run after others all their lives!. Ive seen it up close, I know these people and their lives arent as happy as they appear to be from the outside!. When youre by yourself you truly get to know who you are and that is an amazing thing!.
I know this sounds contradictory: On one hand im saying you need people in your life to be happy but on the other hand im saying you need to be ok by yourself!. The answer lies someplace between the two!. Ive seen the effects of social isolation, I see it every day!. And in fairness its mostly men who experience this kind of isolation because men arent good talkers and they sure as hell arent ones for reaching out to others!. Instead they'll drink themselves to death!. Men use alcohol to take the edge off their loneliness!. Women can use alcohol aswell but by in large I think women use food to fill the void created by feeling isolated or unloved!. I just mention this so youre aware of what can happen when people feel lonely!.
Anyway I think youre doing better than youre aware of!. So I think you could go see the college counsellor!. I know thats a pain in the *** and all and its something you dont wanna do but they are really nice people!. I went to see the college counsellor and I have to say it was possibly the best decision ive ever made!. You'll gain perspective on things and you'll be able to vent your anger which will feel great!. I know college counsellors work throughout the summer so there'll be no problem there!.
I think doing that for the moment would be enough and if you want you can e-mail me and let me know how youre getting on because id love to hear from you!.
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
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get yourself involved in some things!. You have to take the initiative!. Try getting involved in some small groups or volunteer opportunities!. The more you put yourself out there the more opportunities you have to meet up with people you can become friends with!. Think of the things that interest you and join clubs based on those things!.
Don't be afraid, you only have a richer life to look forward to!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't be afraid, you only have a richer life to look forward to!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When I was lonely and bored I took a scuba diving class!.
I had a blast, !.!.plus now Im a certified diver!.
Im not saying take scuba diving!.!.!.!.but maybe you can find some sort of course that interests you like scrapbooking, watercolor painting, crochet, knitting, acrylic painting!.
You said you like art!.!.!.!.go 4 it ?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I had a blast, !.!.plus now Im a certified diver!.
Im not saying take scuba diving!.!.!.!.but maybe you can find some sort of course that interests you like scrapbooking, watercolor painting, crochet, knitting, acrylic painting!.
You said you like art!.!.!.!.go 4 it ?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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23
you have your entire life ahead of you
start out by getting a job to start when the semester ends
you will meet people that way
join a church
join a gym
volunteer
it's not the end of the world being alone and by the time you're 40, 50, you will be able to count all your true friends on your fingers
i am fortunate enough not to have to go out & work but i do work part time at a friend's resort for holiday's & events
read alot - newspaper daily
do crossword / word / jigsaw puzzles
play cards
draw
gardenWww@Answer-Health@Com
23
you have your entire life ahead of you
start out by getting a job to start when the semester ends
you will meet people that way
join a church
join a gym
volunteer
it's not the end of the world being alone and by the time you're 40, 50, you will be able to count all your true friends on your fingers
i am fortunate enough not to have to go out & work but i do work part time at a friend's resort for holiday's & events
read alot - newspaper daily
do crossword / word / jigsaw puzzles
play cards
draw
gardenWww@Answer-Health@Com
Do yoga and be fitWww@Answer-Health@Com