I want my mom to find out about...how do i let her know?!


Question: I want my mom to find out about!.!.!.how do i let her know!?
i want my mom to find out that i cut, what is better!? i dont want to tell her in person because she will flip out on me, so is it better to tell my teacher or counsler so she tells my mom that way itll be easier for me to let her know, which one should i do, if u have experience with this please tell me what to do if u dont them u can just tell me what u think!. oh and i more thing if u cut or used to and your mom found out how did she react or dad!? thanx =]Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
Hey,

Well done for being brave enough to try and address your issues!. Telling either your teacher or counsellor would be a good way of letting her know - although it might be a good idea to think about whether you want the conversation in your school records!. your teacher will be understanding and supportive but s/he will have a duty to tell their immediate boss and make a note of it!.
Alternatively you could write your Mom a letter, just be honest, try not to be too alarmist - start by telling her you are OK and that you are telling her because you want her help!. She will probably be horrified that you have suffered enough to want to do this to yourself but loving and supportive!. She may feel guilty or powerless that she can't take the pain away!.
You sound like you are doing the right thing!. Be brave it'll be horrible while you wait for her to know, but worth it I am sure you'll feel relieved once it's in the open!.
Whatever happens, you can do it and people do care!.
Ash

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Hi,

Just thought I'd check how you are today, did you tell someone!? I hope you did, however if you haven't managed it yet please don't beat yourself up!. You are doing well, you have as long as you need to get help!.

Stay strong

AshWww@Answer-Health@Com

If you are too ashamed to tell your mother, that in itself should tell you something!. Ususally, when you are ashamed of something, it's your conscience telling you it's wrong!. That being said, you DO need to tell someone!. Maybe you should try writing your parents a letter!. Sometimes it's easier than having to face someone, just to write it out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If you tell her why you cut, I'm sure she'll understand!. You should tell her yourself, because it'll make her feel worse that you went to a councilor before you went to her!. She's your mother, she'll be there for you! Good luck telling her!Www@Answer-Health@Com

i use to be the same i use to cut and i never wanted to tell my mum!.!.!.!.!. my mates knew and took me to the counsler but that only made matters worse!.!.!.!.!.i know its hard and you may think your mum may flip out but parents cease to amaze us!. I didnt tell my mum that i was cutting!. but i told her about having depression i was scared of telling her i was more then scared i was sure she was going to have a break down when i told her but instead!. she looked and me and said its ok bubba youll be alright well sort everything out and gave me a big hug!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.with the cutting thing what made me snap out of that was this little thought!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.
id rather have scares on the inside that can be mended and hidden rather then have scares on the out side that are there to rimind me of the past, i cannot hide the out side ones and they will just be reminders of the bad!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.

Just talk to your mum tell her straight out!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. youll be surprised to the way she would really react it may be hard to start to tell her but u will feel better once you do!.!.!.!. if u cant tell her just ask her ask her for helpWww@Answer-Health@Com

Do you know why you cut!? Because if your gonna tell her about this you will have to tell her the reason and let her in on your pain this way she can help you!. I dont think she would benefit from hearing it from someone else do you!?
Im sure she would want to know about this its such a big thing!. I know if my son ever went through this i would want to be there for him as much as i could!.
It all depends on your relationship with her how you should tell her!. Im sure you know the answer to this question better than anyone on this site, you just want reasurance like we all do for difficult things!. But the truth is only you know whats best!.
Good Luk!. Im sure you will be fine!. xWww@Answer-Health@Com

sweetie, first of all I am sorry that you are dealing with this!.
Your mom will not flip out on you!. And if she does, then she is not the best mom! She may be upset and not quit understand why you are doing this, but she will not be mad at you whatsoever!.
You definitely need to let her know, so you can get psychological help!. I am a psych!. major in college, and trust me, this cutting that you do will only get worse if you do not recieve help!.
If you are that uncomfortable about telling your mom, then talk to a school councelor or a teacher that you feel comfortable talking to!. Whoever you decide to tell will help you, trust me!.
Your family will want to give you all the help you can get!. This is a serious thing that you are doing, so PLEASE get help! Talk to anyone that you trust!
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com

My sister used to cut and when my mom found out her response was "whats wrong with you"!. She did kinda flip out!. But understand even if your mom does flip out that she still loves you and will do anything she can to help you!.

I would write a note!. Something short, something simple!. Like "Mom we need to talk!. Its about something serious!. I don't want you to get mad at me!. But I need your help and understanding!."

It is also good if you set up a time you know you and your mom can get together and talk!. When you do walk up to her, give her a big ole hug and say something like "Mom I love you I need your help!. I have a problem with cutting myself"!.

Doing this will help deaden the impact of her reaction!. Just understand that she may still react bady and say somethings that might make you upset!. Yet still realize that she is your mom and that she loves you and she wants you to be well!.

In light of the dangers cutting can cause I think it is better to put up with the bad reaction than use that as an excuse to continue to cut yourself!. The worse thing you could do at this point is to use the excuse "I don't want my mom to get mad at me!." that is unexceptable!. Either you're willing to admit you have a problem to her and that you need help!. Or you need to stop fulling yourself and realize that you have a compulsive addiction!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Well, although i dont like cutting!. I commend you on having the courage to want to inform your mother even if not in person!. If you tell your counsellor she can not actually inform your parents i dont think because of confidentiality agreements, however, she may be able to set up a meeting with your parents, herself and you (of course with your approval)!. I think organising a meeting would be best, because they may not totally flip if their is someone else present and if things get to heated the councellor will always be there!.

I have never cut myself, although my friends have!. Unfortunately i can't tell you how their parents reacted because they never found the courage and honesty to tell anyone at home!.

Good luck! xoxoWww@Answer-Health@Com

I think that as hard as it may bee, you HAVE to tell your mom on your onw!. Oherwise, shell feel untrstworthy and even worse!. SHe'll flip out but YOu can just live through it!. IF yourmom finds out by someone else, I'll ebt you that she'll be 3 times more disspointed!.

ALthough if you INSIST that you dnt want t tell her yersef, then tell somone with a bg mouth who you know will tell your momWww@Answer-Health@Com

Hi I'm 13 and I cut too!. I've been trying to stop, let me tell you it's SOOO flippin hard! You deff want to tell her so you get the support you need!.
So I decided to go to my mom a few months ago because I was really worried about my cutting it was getting out of control!. I went to her one night and I started crying and asked to see a therapist!. She asked why and I lifted my shirt to show her a stomach full of cuts and scars!. She just sat there and looked at me and said things like " Eww how can someone do that! That's just sick!" "What did you even do that with!?" That was it I told her she was supposed to support me and help me and I walked away and went to bed!. Never came up again, Never got the help I asked for, Never got any support!. She is in denial over everything!.
It depends with you!. Are you close with your mom!? I'm not!. If you aren't you might want to tell a teacher and have them tell her!. If it's hard for you to go up to a teacher maybe have one of your cuts showing alittle during that class so they can see and usually they will ask you about it after class!. Then explain how you don't want to tell you mom but would like her to know!.
If you are close with your mom just set her down when Shes NOT STRESSED about anything or this may be too much for her to handle too!. And just explain to her!.
For her it will be very surprising and she prob will cry and ask questions about why you do this and what you use how often how long have you been doing it and what you want to do to get better!. So be ready to answer those questions!. If you need any other help feel free to email me =)Www@Answer-Health@Com





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