What is wrong with me? I'm pulling away began cutting began failing in schoo!
Question: What is wrong with me!? I'm pulling away began cutting began failing in school!.!.!.!.!?
Everything started like 4 months ago!. A break up with my first boyfriend which everything(4months of going out) was a lie to see how far he could get with me!. I became really self conscious a few weeks later started becoming even sadder then the past few years then started cutting!. The cutting became a major problem and now I'm still trying to stop!. This whole time I'm pulling away from my friends family and pets which are so important to me!. I come home and sit and think and cry and am just so sad!. I've began failing most of my classes in school( before a straight A student)!. I pretend to be happy around others with the hopes that I will be happy if I pretend(it's not working!)!. Whats wrong with me!? Oh and my personality has changed so much!. I used to be fun and outgoing now I'm becoming shy and listening to other music and wearing other clothes and writing sad poetry!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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OK well you should talk with a therapist, it sounds like you have depression!. I don't want to get you all worried or anything because I am not a doctor I can not diagnose you with it!. I did the same thing (still am)!. I do have depression and that's what happened with me but everyone is different!. Try talking with your school counsler that should help at least a little bit!. You also can talk to me anytime I may not always get back to you right away but I will always get back to you! You already have my email!. Hang in there you WILL get through this!!!!! I promise!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
it's called depression!.
Your basically sad and depressed that the event happened!.
I really don't know how to handle my depression, so I wouldnt be able to help you there!.
As far as the cutting goes, you need to stop!.
the scars don't dissapear!.
Just try to think positive and not negative and bring into reality that your x is a loser!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your basically sad and depressed that the event happened!.
I really don't know how to handle my depression, so I wouldnt be able to help you there!.
As far as the cutting goes, you need to stop!.
the scars don't dissapear!.
Just try to think positive and not negative and bring into reality that your x is a loser!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well all i can say is that you should talk 2 some one about this!. mabey a counselor!? a adult!? ur mom or dad!? b/c cutting is not the way to deal with it!. if u need 2 u can email or im me!.!.!.take care!. just rember alot of ppl care about you!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you need to forgive!
if you don't it will just destroy you!.!. it hurts you not them!. they sleep fine at night, and you!? your anger just hurts you, you have to let it go!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
if you don't it will just destroy you!.!. it hurts you not them!. they sleep fine at night, and you!? your anger just hurts you, you have to let it go!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'd talk to a counselor or pastor or somebody close!. I'd actually try to not talk about it with people your own age for now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't let some dirtbag make you feel bad!.
He didn't treat you right even though you deserved better
he is the one who should be cutting himself, not youWww@Answer-Health@Com
He didn't treat you right even though you deserved better
he is the one who should be cutting himself, not youWww@Answer-Health@Com
dont let a boy do this to you!. There are plenty of other guys out there, not all are jerks!. He's not worth all the pain you're going through!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You probably heard of depression, and it sounds as if you may have it!. But to really know you need to see a doctor!. Its understandable to be upset over a boy, but if all this lasted longer than 2 weeks it is a sign of depression!. But in order to get help and fix it you need to talk to someone, like a doctor, counselor, or your parents!. It is very common and is very treatable!. You need to stay strong, and try to be positive even though I know its hard!. It may be hard to tell people how you feel but maybe you can write it or show your poetry!. It seems like everything your going through I am too!. I did talk to my school counselor and she helped a lot!. Im slowly getting better, and I know you can too! Please talk to someone! Good Luck, and Stay strong!! =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
View the advice on self harm, in section 16, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when you feel the need to self harm/cut!. There are various suggestions, much information, and useful weblinks on my website: far too much to include here, which is why I needed to create it!. Seek therapy, to help you address the actual cause of those problems, rather than using an inappropriate method of treating the symptoms, which others have found, doesn't work, in the longer term, and which leaves behind the extra problem of scarring to deal with, then!. You are probably becoming depressed: visit your school counselor!. My standard post follows: There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider!. With depression, there is a choice of possible treatment types which needs to be made, and you can decide to use either allopathy, (modern Western medicine) with its reliance on antidepressants and therapy, or alternative treatments, which I advise trying first!. This is because antidepressants are known to increase the rates of suicide, homicide, and aberrent behavio(u)r, particularly with young people, and often have unwanted side effects, such as sexual dysfunction, and/or weight gain!.
Tests have shown that apart from clinical (major) depression, their results were not significantly superior to those taking a placebo (inert, or "sugar pill")!. Antidepressants retain a degree of long term effectiveness for only around 30% of people!. There is a saying in the mental health field: "If the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail"!. So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to manage their large list of patients, and often allocating only several minutes to each!.
Most of them are only trained to provide antidepressants and referrals for therapy, with those whose depression is resistant to those treatments being advised to have ElectroConvulsive Therapy, (ECT) with its risk of permanent, partial memory loss!. Therapy, while often effective at first, becomes "same old, same old" after a while, for many people!.
I now suggest: (1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, (certified free of mercury) with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their freshly squeezed juice!. If vitamin E is used, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it's synthetic, avoid it!. (2!.) Work up slowly to 30 - 60 minutes of exercise, daily!. (3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!. (4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!. (5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!. (6!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, or a supplement, such as SAMe, taken with a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.
If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S!.A!.D!.) in section 2, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste)!. Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L)!. It should be above 32 ng/ml!.
Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime!. Omega 3 fish oil supplements: EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid (omega 3) ----360 mg!.DHA (docosahexaenoic acid (omega 3)-----240 mg
Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant!.
(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults!.!.!. kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions!.
They should be certified as being free of mercury, and if containing vitamin E, it should be shown as from a natural source; otherwise it is synthetic: avoid it! Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test!. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve!.
If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the neurofeedback, magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see section 33, at ezy build) keeping ECT back, as a last resort!. Read: "Lift your mood now!." by John D Preston, Psy!.D!. 2001, New Harbinger Publications, Inc!., 5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland!. CA 94609 http://www!.amazon!.com/ may be worth trying for this!. I have read many books on depression, but if there is a better, more easily read, and quickly implementable one, I have yet to encounter it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tests have shown that apart from clinical (major) depression, their results were not significantly superior to those taking a placebo (inert, or "sugar pill")!. Antidepressants retain a degree of long term effectiveness for only around 30% of people!. There is a saying in the mental health field: "If the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail"!. So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to manage their large list of patients, and often allocating only several minutes to each!.
Most of them are only trained to provide antidepressants and referrals for therapy, with those whose depression is resistant to those treatments being advised to have ElectroConvulsive Therapy, (ECT) with its risk of permanent, partial memory loss!. Therapy, while often effective at first, becomes "same old, same old" after a while, for many people!.
I now suggest: (1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, (certified free of mercury) with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their freshly squeezed juice!. If vitamin E is used, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it's synthetic, avoid it!. (2!.) Work up slowly to 30 - 60 minutes of exercise, daily!. (3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!. (4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!. (5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!. (6!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, or a supplement, such as SAMe, taken with a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.
If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S!.A!.D!.) in section 2, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste)!. Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L)!. It should be above 32 ng/ml!.
Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime!. Omega 3 fish oil supplements: EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid (omega 3) ----360 mg!.DHA (docosahexaenoic acid (omega 3)-----240 mg
Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant!.
(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults!.!.!. kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions!.
They should be certified as being free of mercury, and if containing vitamin E, it should be shown as from a natural source; otherwise it is synthetic: avoid it! Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test!. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve!.
If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the neurofeedback, magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see section 33, at ezy build) keeping ECT back, as a last resort!. Read: "Lift your mood now!." by John D Preston, Psy!.D!. 2001, New Harbinger Publications, Inc!., 5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland!. CA 94609 http://www!.amazon!.com/ may be worth trying for this!. I have read many books on depression, but if there is a better, more easily read, and quickly implementable one, I have yet to encounter it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com