A question for the surviving family members of a loved one's suicide?!
Question: A question for the surviving family members of a loved one's suicide!?
I've heard that the second year after losing someone to suicide is worse than the first year!. In your experience, is this true!? My reason for asking is that my mom is getting close to one year after finding her husband hanging!. This has been a very rough year of course, for her as well as for me: I've been trying to help her pick up the pieces, and being her shoulder whenever she needs me!.
What can I expect during the second year after his death!? I want to be there for my mom, and hold onto my own sanity!. After all, I'm not a counselor, but I have to do whatever I can to help my mom!. Most of the time she seems to be doing great, keeping busy with fixing up her house and helping me with my kids!. But some days she completely loses it and calls me in hysterics, and it's very scary for me to deal with!.
If it helps to know, I'm 35, and my mom's 60th birthday will be just 10 days after the 1st anniversary of my step-dad's death!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
What can I expect during the second year after his death!? I want to be there for my mom, and hold onto my own sanity!. After all, I'm not a counselor, but I have to do whatever I can to help my mom!. Most of the time she seems to be doing great, keeping busy with fixing up her house and helping me with my kids!. But some days she completely loses it and calls me in hysterics, and it's very scary for me to deal with!.
If it helps to know, I'm 35, and my mom's 60th birthday will be just 10 days after the 1st anniversary of my step-dad's death!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I have never heard that the second year is harder than the first!. What i would think is that as time goes on, the healing process continues and internal turmoil would settle down over time!. However, anniversary of the event will almost certainly be difficult every year and I would guess the first one would be the hardest to get through!. I would suggest someone be with her on that day!.
If you are worried about your mother, i here are some things to look out for: Depression (more than two weeks), altered personality or behavior, extremely hyper behavior that lasts at least a week, flat or numb mood/displays of emotion, anything to do with flashbacks or memory loss around the event, saying strange things!.
Remember, being sad or breaking down in tears every now and then is normal!. A day or two of overwhelming sadness is totally normal and, i say this in the best way possible, a healthy sign!. If it lasts for several weeks at a time or a person goes totally emotionally numb, that is a major problem!.
The odds are on yours and your mother's side that you will be able to carry on with life eventually!. Most people are very resilient and do manage to pick up the pieces and move on!. However, do keep a look out for those warning signs in anyone who was affected and try to get that person help if they spring up!. It is a difficult but there is hope that everyone will be ok!. You should also be proud of yourself that you have been there for your mother as much as you can!. It diffidently helps!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you are worried about your mother, i here are some things to look out for: Depression (more than two weeks), altered personality or behavior, extremely hyper behavior that lasts at least a week, flat or numb mood/displays of emotion, anything to do with flashbacks or memory loss around the event, saying strange things!.
Remember, being sad or breaking down in tears every now and then is normal!. A day or two of overwhelming sadness is totally normal and, i say this in the best way possible, a healthy sign!. If it lasts for several weeks at a time or a person goes totally emotionally numb, that is a major problem!.
The odds are on yours and your mother's side that you will be able to carry on with life eventually!. Most people are very resilient and do manage to pick up the pieces and move on!. However, do keep a look out for those warning signs in anyone who was affected and try to get that person help if they spring up!. It is a difficult but there is hope that everyone will be ok!. You should also be proud of yourself that you have been there for your mother as much as you can!. It diffidently helps!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com