Is There Anyway To Help A Friend With Depression?!
Question: Is There Anyway To Help A Friend With Depression!?
He's had it for 4 years, has been diagnosed with part anorexia, has tried committing suicide on many occasions, can't sleep at night and to top it all off, had major brain surgery in November and is stuck at home a lot!. He relies on me and and my friend Tanya to constantly be at his beck and call and is bringing us down!. He complains he has no friends but he does, he just doesnt appreciate them!. He drinks a lot of Sprite which heightens his blood pressure and causes pain in his head where he had sugery!.
Is there anyway left to help him!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Is there anyway left to help him!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Corrine, I'm going to be truthful about this!. I think that he's a complete waste of time!. It's one thing for your friends to make the choice to support you and comfort you when you're depressed - it's another to depend and expect them to be there for you!. I've seen how Tanya is - she cries sometimes just because of the sheer expectance from him and I don't want you to be the same way!. If it's bringing you down, then distance yourself from him!. Say to him straight, "Look, Matt, I can't keep this up!. It's bringing me down and I don't want to keep doing this!. I'll be here as a friend but I don't want to feel I have to be there!." I've had depression in the past as well as paranoia and recently it came back!. However, I don't ring my friends near midnight and whine onto them about my problems!. Someone who publicly announces them obviously is doing it for attention!. If he had that bad problems, he wouldn't tell them to people!. I feel sorry for him with his brain surgery but that can't be used as an excuse all the time!. For example, the time when he tried to saw his leg off and then rang Tanya!. If he'd have wanted to seriously die, he wouldn't have rang her would he!? It annoys me because there are so many worse off people in the world, people our age are finding out they have a year to live due to cancer!. They would do anything for life and he's wasting his life!. My advice!? To tell him you don't want to be relied on, distance yourself from him and get happy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I can understand what he is going through with the depression!. Not the surgery and not drinking sprite!. You can not understand what a person is going through even though talking to them!. Even a therapist, psychologist or whatever person you can think of!. I can only stop and that's when I don't want to exist!.
Things will not be better!. Others can over come it and others don't!. Others who doesn't ends up in a mental facility!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Things will not be better!. Others can over come it and others don't!. Others who doesn't ends up in a mental facility!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't wish to underestimate the extent of your friends sickness, it sounds as though there is a good helping of self pity along with it and a wish to attract attention!.
These attempts at suicide were no doubt coupled with that, because if he was determined, not that I wish him harm, I am not acquainted with him, just giving an outsiders opinion on what you have stated, you are close to him so can decide for yourself about what I write!.
If he drinks fluids to excess he would be better off drinking water!.
Myself I don't sleep well, I used to, but have had a few misfortunes and have a lot of nightmares, I am not unduly distressed, but this isn't about me!.
It is unfair that you have to upset your life for someone else it even sounds as though he isn't too appreciative of your help, and takes it too much for granted!.
Seems very much as though he should have a professional carer, have you gone into that!?, or you and your friend should be getting and allowance for your efforts!.
One way you could help is to get him to drink more water instead of carbonated drinks if they affect him like that, even in his state he should realize that!.
If he has other friends it would help you if they would take over from you occasionally,you shouldn't have to do it all your selves!.
Wish i could think up some helpful advice I'm not too good at advising, I live alone, but fortunately am extremely fit for my age, and make myself go out for at least a 2 Kilometer walk daily if not further, which helps me a lot
Honestly wish I could help you more, but no doubt you will have a lot more suggestions from folks who have been through similar situations as you!.
Best of luck, take care of yourselves as well as your friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
These attempts at suicide were no doubt coupled with that, because if he was determined, not that I wish him harm, I am not acquainted with him, just giving an outsiders opinion on what you have stated, you are close to him so can decide for yourself about what I write!.
If he drinks fluids to excess he would be better off drinking water!.
Myself I don't sleep well, I used to, but have had a few misfortunes and have a lot of nightmares, I am not unduly distressed, but this isn't about me!.
It is unfair that you have to upset your life for someone else it even sounds as though he isn't too appreciative of your help, and takes it too much for granted!.
Seems very much as though he should have a professional carer, have you gone into that!?, or you and your friend should be getting and allowance for your efforts!.
One way you could help is to get him to drink more water instead of carbonated drinks if they affect him like that, even in his state he should realize that!.
If he has other friends it would help you if they would take over from you occasionally,you shouldn't have to do it all your selves!.
Wish i could think up some helpful advice I'm not too good at advising, I live alone, but fortunately am extremely fit for my age, and make myself go out for at least a 2 Kilometer walk daily if not further, which helps me a lot
Honestly wish I could help you more, but no doubt you will have a lot more suggestions from folks who have been through similar situations as you!.
Best of luck, take care of yourselves as well as your friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com