What to do..please can only intelligent, enlightened souls reply?!
Question: What to do!.!.please can only intelligent, enlightened souls reply!?
i met a man a year ago!. he def doesn't have a girlfriend or anything!. i know his friends and i would know!. we really got on!. over the past year he will phone me, it's now for an hour a week!. his dad has got a degenerative illness and he finds it hard to cope with!. i like him so much!. but he never wants to meet!. when i asked him outright about this he said he does want to and we should!. he said he gets panic attacks and on the times we were going to meet he thinks it's too good to be true and panics!. i believe him!. i am convinced that there is nothing underhand about him!. despite the fact he is lovely, intelligent, funny and very attractive he seems to have no confidence at all!. i suspect he's depressed!. please don't tell me not to bother cos he's too much trouble or that he's messing me about or that he has a girlfriend!. he doesn't!. i've ruled them out!. but how do i handle this and how do i handle that i am a sensitive bright girl but i do seem to attract complicated troubled soulsWww@Answer-Health@Com
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sweetie i not going to tell you the thing you dont seem to want to hear because you asked not to hear those thing!.!.!.i respect that!.!.!.
if he has depression, panic attacks he needs to get some therapy, maybe meds for both of the disorders!. if the panic attacks are bad that could be one reason he doesnt want to meet up with you!.!.!.he may be afraid of having an attack in front of you or in public!.!.!.they arent pretty!. i have had panic attacks for years, but my meds keep them under control!.
i wish you all the best in this situation!. it is hard to see someone you truly like!.!.!.suffer and not want to do things!.
i would never say dont bother with someone with mental illness because i have tons of mental illnesses!. we are human just like everyone else on this planet!. we get our hearts broken, we have a life, friends, family, we love others!.!.!.if someone says why bother with him!.!.!.blow it off!. you know what you feel and how you feel!.!.!.DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHTWww@Answer-Health@Com
if he has depression, panic attacks he needs to get some therapy, maybe meds for both of the disorders!. if the panic attacks are bad that could be one reason he doesnt want to meet up with you!.!.!.he may be afraid of having an attack in front of you or in public!.!.!.they arent pretty!. i have had panic attacks for years, but my meds keep them under control!.
i wish you all the best in this situation!. it is hard to see someone you truly like!.!.!.suffer and not want to do things!.
i would never say dont bother with someone with mental illness because i have tons of mental illnesses!. we are human just like everyone else on this planet!. we get our hearts broken, we have a life, friends, family, we love others!.!.!.if someone says why bother with him!.!.!.blow it off!. you know what you feel and how you feel!.!.!.DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHTWww@Answer-Health@Com
if you know his friends can you not get them to take you with to his house unannounced to give him less chance to panic!?
youre gona have to take it really slow, suggest a trip to a public place in case its intimacy hes afraid of!.
i know you dont want to hear this but maybe he genuinely doesnt want to meet you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
youre gona have to take it really slow, suggest a trip to a public place in case its intimacy hes afraid of!.
i know you dont want to hear this but maybe he genuinely doesnt want to meet you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
tell him to relax, calm down, ask him to book an appointment a GP to see what there advice is, tell him you will go and see him at his house, and tell him not to be nervous you adore the bloke and think his the best thing thats come into his life, that will raise his spirits a little bit, things like thatWww@Answer-Health@Com
Force yourself upon him!. Either force it or lose him because hes to afraid to meet up with you!. You may have to force it a little to get him more comfertable with your company!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Have you ever seen him, he might be ashamed of his looks or have issues with the way he looks and fear rejection!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
have you tried having a night in with him!? that might just give him the confidence he needs because it sounds like a confidence problemWww@Answer-Health@Com
i think you should surprise him, hes just too shy =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try to think of going somewhere to meet that is not to much like a date so there isn't as much pressure!. Ask him if he would like to go ice-skating or something like that!. I am sure there must be something that he is interested in that will not seem like a date and relieve the pressure a little!. I hope you do manage to get together!. There are so many people that are together that are not suited to each other it is a shame when two people who seem to be well matched are not together!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow, I was that way when I met my husband !. When we were dating, i would get panic attachs so bad and not be able to function!. But i loved him and wanted the relationship but was sending mixed messages!. We do want the relationship but hurts from our past have been so painful its a way of us not trusting we wont get hurt again!. I went on meds for depression an anxiety lexapro a great drug!. I am married now and its a miracle!. My husband was like you so patient he knew i was a great person and liked him but had problems!. You are a plus in this persons life and they will remember you for that patience!. Its a hard place to be but with meds and counceling i came thru!. Blessings to you and you friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
why don't you write to him!. and tell how you really feel!. then he can keep on reading!. over and over again!. that way he wont have panic attacks!. the maybe he will open up to you!. good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe Im an old cynic but I had to reply & warn you there may be some other reason this guy doesnt want to meet!.!.!.!.!.!.its easy to believe what you want to but I think you should consider is he being honest !?!?!?!?
I dont want to worry you & if he is genuine I wish you luck as I suffer from depression but I suggest you check him out for your own sake!.!.!.good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
I dont want to worry you & if he is genuine I wish you luck as I suffer from depression but I suggest you check him out for your own sake!.!.!.good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com