What to do about extremely severe social anxiety?!


Question: What to do about extremely severe social anxiety!?
We can't afford to go to a psychologist or doctor right now and I've missed over a month of school - first half of the year was due to depression and not being able to move in the morning; now this half of the year is because I've been afraid to go to school, since i switched!. I don't fit in with anyone and there are many people who hate me!. Either I'm super quiet or I overreact when someone asks me a question I find a bit offensive!. Such as one day I was the only one at the lunch table and the girl who hates me said loud enough for me to hear, "awh, look at that lonely b**** over there!." and started to laugh!. I couldn't work up enough courage to say anything, so I just sat there!. Every day at school is complete torture because I always feel like everyone thinks I'm weird!. I hyperventilate whenever I'm asked to read aloud!.
If I keep missing school I'll fail, but I just can't go because I'm so scared! Should I drop out and homeschool myself until next year!? I'm seriously lost!Www@Answer-Health@Com


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I'm sorry to hear that my dear!. School, specially high school is really a tough part of life!. A lot of people are very insecure and they compensate by acting tough!. For those of us who are not aggressive enough to stand up to them, we think we are the problem, but rest assured that you aren't!. It is very hard to fit in an environment where everyone has their own cliques!. You are not alone!. I hyperventilate too when I have to present - even now at board meetings! I just breathe deeply and laugh at myself!. I don't care what my coworkers say - if I'm hyperventilating, that's out of my control!. You have to learn to laugh at yourself because life should never be too serious!. Don't be afraid of anyone or anything!. Life is about you not anyone else!. Care only about yourself and the people you love and who love you!. The rest aren't worth sh*t!. You know what I'm saying!. Talk to your parents!. If you really are miserable in school, homeschooling is not a bad idea!. Hey, I bet Bill Gates got laughed at big time in school too, maybe that's why he dropped out!. Look who's laughing now!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

Social anxiety is easily treated by your family doctor!. Ask for a prescription of Celexa!. It removes your anxieties with no side effects if you take it in the right size dose!. Start at the smallest dose possible, then work up from there as needed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

there are free clinics that offer mental health care!.
look one up online in your area!.
it sounds like you're in high school and under the age of 18, so you will qualify for free care!.

it breaks my heart that you're going through this, i can't imagine how hard it is!. find a free clinic in your area and see a psychologist!.
i hope it gets better!. keep your chin up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You're being bullied!. Tell your teacher about it!. Let her handle it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

hun, you do need to go back to school!. just remember one thing!. the reason that they are bullying you and trying to make you feel bad, is that you are being yourself! and they are being just like everyone around them!. you have to be yourself, and please try to stop worrying about what they think!. it just doesnt matter!. PROVE THEM WRONG!. i had a bad school experience myself for many years!. the key is to just be yourself!. i hope this helps you!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Call your school phycologist and guidance conselor they can help you!! There are many things in your community that you can use as a resource like social groups for kids similar to you!. A free therapist than can come to your house!. There are so many resources just please have your mom call like your school phycologist and you can talk to her on the phone you dont have to go to school!. Wait until you are ready and please dont drop out and homeschool yourself!?
Maybe a normal school is to big for you is there a smaller school by you like a different program like a theraputic school!? Im sure there is! There are so many options you can find out about and you school phycologist can help,
Good luck with everything and I know what ever is meant to be will find its way!. You will get better , i know that for a fact!. A member of my family has had a situition much worse than you and everything will get better i promise, i know how you feel and i beleive that its hard!!! I have faith that everything will be better!! Just use your resources in your community to help you out!.
Good luck !Www@Answer-Health@Com

its very sad how quickly people would resort to meds!.!.!.and for teenagers its worse!. u dont want this issue to escalate into a bigger one wit med addiction!.

there are meds u can take if u r absolutley unable to control this witout them

but i say to just relax and take things easy!. try to make friends everywhere u go!.!.!.and dont think that everyone is out to get u!.!.even if they are!. i know this is easier said than done!.!.!.but its better to do this and know that u did it on ur own!.!.!.!.instead of some stupid pills to make u even worse!.

good luck!.!.!.and if that doesnt work!.!.!.get homeschoold!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Tell your parents you need to move schools!. Or go to the princepal and tell him about your issue!. We couldnt afford psychiatrists either back in school!. And they actually have a psychologist at every school!. And if you tell your princepal your issues, he will find a solution and help you!.
Ive been through the same thing myself, and it is HELL!
but the main reason these girls tease you, is because they are jealous of you in some way!!!
so ignore them, because you know one day you will be better than they are!!
Theyre parents neglected them growing up, and theyre rude because they dont know how to express themselves except out of hate!.
Go look for a group, and some friends in the school, who like the same things you do!.
Trust me ive been there, but if i were to go back and tell my old self something back then, it would have been "This will all pass!. There is life after school"!!!
I Promise--this is the worst of life!. and it will get better!!
Good luck sweetie!.!.
If you need to talk please email me!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com

You can not home school your self!. Your parents need to help you and I understand there is a fee for it!. I too suffer from social problems!. I have found that the best thing to do for me is to just ignore them and go about my business!. I truly have found that I am better at some of the things than they are that make me suffer!. Some of these were relatives of mine but did not have the knowledge to know it!. But I kept quiet and went on!. I today am 67 yrs old and feel that I have done a fair job at handling it by myself!. I told myself they put their pants on the same way I do, one leg at a time!. Trust in the Lord and don't let these bullies get you down!. Get back in school ASAP!. Pray for self confidence!. The Lord said to ask and you would receive!. I can help you pray!. Love and best wishes!. Hope to hear from you soon and that you have got it all under control with the help of God!. Walk with him and he will lead you and your tongue!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Social Anxiety is a horrible problem, I have sufferred from it for years!. Go to Mental Health or get a referral from your doctor for Mental health, usually they'll get you hooked up with the proper steps to take!. Join a group for Anxiety and find others near you that suffer from it!. It's a lot easier to tackle once you have a support group!. Trust me!.
Also, try keeping a journal!. Write down the things that bother you and ideas around how/what would make the situation better!. try turning your negatives into positives!. When you look at a pretty girl walking past you, your first thought is usually not, ?h what a slut!", but rather nothing at all - so chances are, when you walk past someone else, or sit down near someone , they're not thinking, "Oh what a b*tch"- so relax a little and try to think positive!. It'll pay off - promise!Www@Answer-Health@Com

"I hyperventilate whenever I'm asked to read aloud!." Describes panic attacks!. View the techniques for control of panic attacks, in section 8, in my website, at ezy build, below, which I created to contain all the information that there isn't enough space for, here!. Begin, on this first occasion, only, by holding your breath for 5, or 10 seconds: this will give you the confidence to realise that YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR BREATHING, but not pass out, or die (your autonomic nervous system resumes breathing, if you become unconscious)!. Understand panic attacks, and what triggers them, in your life (if it is unresolved anxiety, or stress, see sections 6, or 42, respectively)!. The paper bag method works for most people: try it!.

If you are fairly suggestible, the following are reliable: http://www!.hypnosisdownloads!.com/
Your last alternative is psychotherapy, to address its fundamental cause: read section 1, and examine the http://1-800-therapist!.com/ website, and use the locators, and phone book!. I used to suffer from panic attacks, until I questioned what had changed in my life, at, or just before that time, to trigger them!. For some people, this is enough!. These days, I have instilled the habit of, whenever a situation occurs where panic is likely, I visualise a large, "STOP!" sign, as vividly as possible, followed by repeating to myself: "stay calm" in my mind!. You could try the same method!. It usually takes 30 - 40 repetitions, for most people, to establish a new habit!. I also suggest that you learn, then practise the controlled breathing technique, until competent, then employ it, at the very first sign of a panic attack!.

Practice one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed!. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you!. There is also a version for use in public places, (if you like, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind)!. Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris also refer: "Even though I sometimes suffer from panic attacks, I deeply and completely accept myself!." Note: the controlled breathing only helps with the symptoms (as do medications/herbal remedies): you need to address the underlying cause, and this requires some form of therapy, and Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy has proved effective!.

Advice from a published psychiatrist on controlled breathing!. (1!.) Get a clock, or watch with a second timer!. (2!.) Practise for 5 minutes, 4 times daily, until proficient!. (3!.) Take a small breath in, and hold it, for 6 seconds!. (4!.) Think to yourself: "RELAX", just before breathing out!. (5!.) Try to feel a sense of releasing tension, as you breathe out!. (6!.) Breathe in for 3 seconds, then out, for 3 seconds!. Try to make your breathing very smooth, and light, as you breathe in through your nose, and out through your mouth, or nose!. (7!.) For the next minute, continue to breathe in, and out, every 3 seconds!. (8!.) Go back to step 3, at the end of the minute, and proceed through to step 7, doing this for 5 minutes!. Use this at the very first sign of a panic attack starting, or any time you feel anxious, or tense!.

Because many people can't access/afford professional therapy, I include the EFT, and EMDR variant for them to try, free of charge!. Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy is generally available in most areas, but EMDR (see section 33) may well be worth trying, and is becoming more widespread!. (The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is currently the subject of much study by neuroscientists, to discover how it works!. Don't dismiss it, merely because it seems a little strange: give it a tryout!)!. Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, or using it on its own, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!.

Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: a thousand and one: this takes approximately a second)!. Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally if you like) 20 times!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!. Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!.

It may also help to minimise, or eliminate sugar, and caffeine products from your life!. Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a little honey, because these will reduce "sugar spikes", which later deplete you of energy!. Minimise/eliminate consumption of highly processed foods, particularly grain products, such as white bread, donuts, cake, cookies/biscuits, or anything with sugar!. Opt for more wholefoods, non-starchy vegetables, and fruit!. ~~~ See social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you!. It is called "Act as If!." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing!. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone!. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior!.

Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior!. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy!. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit!.

Try this for a month, in every situation you can!. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing!. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave!. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot"!. But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy)!. Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally!. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often!. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me"!.
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind!.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication!. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger!. Rewind your mistakes!. Let's say you want to change an annoying laugh that you have, when you hear something funny, your old laugh will come out!. You have to immediately think of what you wanted to happen, (i!.e!. your new, practiced laugh) and then do it immediately!. It will be a little bit late, but slowly you will start to pair the two together, and eventually your brain will become conditioned to switch the first for the second!. It usually takes 30 - 40 repetitions, to instill a new habit, with most people, so I estimate a similar amount, in the reprogramming process!. They don't hate you, but many are indifferent, and some may dislike you!. Join mutual interest groups, clubs, sports, etc!. Visit your school counselor for suggestions!. Systematically explore the Wikihow articles, through section 9, on surviving high school, making friends, starting conversations, and so forth!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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