Honestly, would you not go out with someone simply because they were cutting?!
Question: Honestly, would you not go out with someone simply because they were cutting!?
Cutting= inflicting pain on ones self using a razor, scizzors, knife, or anything else sharp!. (for those of you who dont know)
So my question is, would you not go out with someone because of that!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
So my question is, would you not go out with someone because of that!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I guess I'm biased too because I suffer from SI (self-injury) but I don't see why that would affect my choice in a partner!. If anything, I think it would make me want to help them and comfort them, not stay away from them!. In the past, I had one boyfriend really uncomfortable with my problems, because he was a wuss, and scared of blood, and it made him sick to see cuts everywhere!. My husband on the other hand, although the reason and logic behind the SI makes no sense to him, he realizes its my way of dealing with things, and even though it may not be healthy, it doesn't affect who I am, and he loves me regardless of that issue!.
I think not dating somebody because they are a cutter is like not dating somebody because they are a smoker!. Its personal preference and offends some people more than others!. You just have to respect the other person's choice!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think not dating somebody because they are a cutter is like not dating somebody because they are a smoker!. Its personal preference and offends some people more than others!. You just have to respect the other person's choice!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First, there really isn't anything simple about cutting!. I wouldn't go out with someone who is a cutting, because of the deeper issues that they have and would most likely also bring into the relationship!. Two people might not have such a healthy relationship, if one or both aren't healthy yet as individuals!. I would definitely try to be a friend to them though first, and offer to help them through the issues that are causing them to cut in the first place!. Then after that, who knows what the future would hold for the two of us!.
I hope this helps you!.!.
P!.S I have to friends who are, or were cutters I should say!. Neither are in relationships, but both are working hard on recovery and both are having great lives!
be well :o)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I hope this helps you!.!.
P!.S I have to friends who are, or were cutters I should say!. Neither are in relationships, but both are working hard on recovery and both are having great lives!
be well :o)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I wouldn't deny that person a friendship, but I wouldn't get too emotionally involved, or date a self cutter!. When you date, you are essentially looking for a life partner, a mate!. I wouldn't risk my own sanity or my future family by possibly falling in love with a self cutter!. I would wait until that person got mental help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
sounds harsh,but i wouldnt!.my friend married a cutter!.he was depressed and could not work for most of his adult life and wound up commiting suicide at 36,leaving my friend a young widow!.another man i know,married his college sweetheart,and thought her cutting would stop!.she is now in her l8 40's,with scars covering her arms!.when she wears summer clothing,everyone stares at the scars shes patterned her arms with over the last 25 years or so!.his life has been a series of crises and dramas and hospitalisations because of her issues!.if someone u know cuts,please encourage them to get help-tell their parents even if u lose the friendship!dont let it go on so that they go further into depression,alienating their spouses and scaring their children!Www@Answer-Health@Com
The sympathetic loser in me says yes, so I could try to get close to them and encourage them to stop!.
But the realistic side of me says that's probably not a great idea, being tied down to someone who is unstable and depressed (I know this from experience)!.
I'd proceed with caution, definitely!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
But the realistic side of me says that's probably not a great idea, being tied down to someone who is unstable and depressed (I know this from experience)!.
I'd proceed with caution, definitely!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would still go out with that person!.
Honestly, we all have different ways of dealing with stress!. Cutting is not a healthy way; however, often times ots a temporary thing!. So I would still go out with person, show them support, and enjoy their company!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Honestly, we all have different ways of dealing with stress!. Cutting is not a healthy way; however, often times ots a temporary thing!. So I would still go out with person, show them support, and enjoy their company!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ummm if i knew they were doing it before we started dating i wouldnt start dating them, i'd befriend them and help them, that will make a future relationship alot stronger also!.!.
my best friend used to burn himself!.!. hes got insane scars all over his body!.!. i think a lot of times people that do that are alone and just need to KNOW!! someone cares!
good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
my best friend used to burn himself!.!. hes got insane scars all over his body!.!. i think a lot of times people that do that are alone and just need to KNOW!! someone cares!
good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Yep, cutting is dumb!.!.!.!.why would you want to hurt yourself like that!.!.!.it is just a way to get attention!.!.!.especially if they tell people they are cutters and have it in obvious places! And why would you want to get involved with a person has those issues!?!? They need to get help!Www@Answer-Health@Com
honestly would YOU!? ppl who cut have serious issues!. and by getting involved in that will really drag u down and depress u!. dont ya think!? who wants more stress in your life!? i think even if i liked a person before i knew he was a cutter, that would be a big turn off!.!.!.!.!.heyWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think it'd be good to HELP the person and be there for them, yes!.
But Never go out with them because you feel sorry for them!.
If you want to help them/like them, go for it!.
Help them get better with your love and friendship!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
But Never go out with them because you feel sorry for them!.
If you want to help them/like them, go for it!.
Help them get better with your love and friendship!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well thats kind of a red flag!. It signals issues, namely depression!. So I would just try to be a friend to them!. Someone who cuts probably doesn't need to be in a relationship until they get better and are ready for love!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If I knew before dating them, definitely not!. If I didn't know before or it developed during the relationship I would try to help her!. If nothing helps I'm afraid I would have to leave!. I couldn't be with someone who couldn't oversome something dumb like this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I wouldn't go out with a person like that!.
Besides, what kind of person cuts themselves and what kind of pleasure would you get out of it!. Sorry, but they're freaks!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Besides, what kind of person cuts themselves and what kind of pleasure would you get out of it!. Sorry, but they're freaks!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If I knew about it before anything serious had developed, I'd probably have second thoughts!. But since my girlfriend used to cut and we're still together, obviously I didn't stop seeing her because of it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hmmm they are self harming freaks and they obviously are sucidal!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
if i knew someone thats doing that, for sure id try to help her, maybe shes facing momentary troubles, and with little help, she overcomes whatever her trouble was, and then who knows!.!.!. maybe timeWww@Answer-Health@Com
i think cutting yourself doesnt really solve anything!.!.except just!.!.well acually it doesnt do any good AT ALL!.!.it wouldnt really matter if someone went out with a cutter because if they did do that you could help them with there problemWww@Answer-Health@Com
If someone is cutting they need help!. If they are someone you really enjoy and love go out with them and help them!. Either way get them some help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
no i wouldn't!. they would have issues and issues aren't cool to date!. you would get yourself into something you have no business being in!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
personally no, it means they are self destructive and more then likely will try and take you down with them!.
Ask them to get help, if they refuse, don't take the chanceWww@Answer-Health@Com
Ask them to get help, if they refuse, don't take the chanceWww@Answer-Health@Com
i would never be involved with someone who would do something as disturbed as that!. I wouldnt even want to know someone like that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
not because of the self harm, not because they were troubled but because i like them, then if we go out i will help through there troubles, i cut to so we would be helping each otherWww@Answer-Health@Com
i would go out with a cutter!. hell i will only go out with people with a good heart mind and soul!. i like everyone and no that would not turn me off at all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
only after they not only seek medication
but that medication better workWww@Answer-Health@Com
but that medication better workWww@Answer-Health@Com
I would perfer someone that was cutting!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i would at first then tell them if they didnt stop id leave!. either Mr!. Razor or meWww@Answer-Health@Com
how can you love someone that doesnt love them self in a nonconseded wayWww@Answer-Health@Com
To the contrary, I would avoid going out with someone who was doing that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
yes, I will not go out with them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
yes and noWww@Answer-Health@Com
OMG who would go out with a depressed loser!?Www@Answer-Health@Com