Am I unloveable?!


Question: Am I unloveable!?
Hi!.The context of this is complicated, and there's no pleasant way of saying this, but I feel unloved by my friends & family!. It's like people have got bored of me or something!. I don't feel like a fun person to be around anymore!.

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Answers:
No one is unloveable!.

Love is a verb!. It is an action that one makes the choice to do!.

My thought is you more than likely are reading more into things than are really there - thus possibly depressed!.

First suggestion - is that you take time to like yourself!. Sounds stupid maybe - but you really need to like yourself!. If you can't even like yourself - why do you think anyone else would!? So - take time for YOU!. Do something special for yourself!. In the past, I have gotten so involved with doing for others that I didn't even put myself on my own list! Put yourself on your list!.

For me - that is coming home from work and taking a nice hot shower - putting on some makeup - some comfortable clothes - and then sitting down to eat a nice meal!. Then I do something that I like - read, watch some tv - play on the computer!. THEN after awhile - I do the things that I 'need' to do - which actually takes less time because I feel pretty good about myself since I took time for myself!.

Second suggestion - do something for someone else!. Sit down and just listen to others talk and really pay attention!. Don't plan what your going to say next - just listen!. Then when they ask your opinion - really think about your answer and talk openly and honestly with them!. They have done several polls through out the years and the one thing that most people are looking for within others is a person that honestly LISTENS to what the other is saying, pays attention to what is going on within the others life and can actually remember things said and comment later on it!.

Third - do something FUN! I have gotten several different people to take me out on their motorcycles - which I LOVE to ride - but don't drive any more (messed up right leg - and with seizures and over 1,000 pounds of bike to control - doesn't seem WISE)!. But I am a GOOD PASSENGER! They have rides on the weekends - and I am a GREAT PASSENGER - and even BETTER partner when it comes to getting where we are going at the meets - and actually know alot of the people at them and can have and get others to have alot of fun!. I have a DRY sense of humor!.!.!.!.!. since I am not a big drinker by any stretch of the imagination - it goes well with others that are drinking!.!.!.!. thus - I am FUN! :)

Just adapt things for youself to place yourself out there where you can be with others and be doing with and for others - and you will find that others find you very loveable!. :)

If your like me - you will find that you have more than a few that will totally disagree with your view about yourself - more than you ever considered!. You will also find - that your life will become much more exciting and FUN - and that there are some real loveable people that have real feelings for you - and that you are indeed LOVEABLE!.

Keep your chin up!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Chances are, your friends and family love you just like they always have!. You just seem depressed!.

Take a B-12, grab your ipod, and go for a run!. Exercise is the best thing you can do!.

Volunteer!. A couple of hours at an animal shelter, a hospice or a soup kitchen is great for putting your problems into perspective!. The United Way will have a bunch of volunteer gigs that need people, as will the local political parties!.

If you feel like you're not fun anymore, do something about it- get some new interests!. Join a gym, take up kickboxing, audition for community theater!.!.!.

Best wishes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

if you feel unloved by others, perhaps it is because you have no love for yourself!. if others are bored with you, are you bored with yourself!? if you don't think you are fun to be around, what are you going to do about it!? You need to have a good internal stability, you need to know and love yourself before you can expect others to want to know and love you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Sounds like depression to me!. When a person gets depressed they are no fun to be around and they tend to isolate themselves from others!. I speak from experience!. Talk to a school counselor or your parent, a best friend, just talk to someone!. Because it will only get worse!. It might be just a short term thing or you might need medication for a while!. In the mean time find things that make you fell good about yourself!. Helping out others with a chore or doing something for someone else is a feel good thing!. Girls pamper themselves with long baths and doing their nails!. You can't expect people to like you unless you like yourself first!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I've actually felt this way at times!. Like no one loves or cares about me!. A lot of people here are correct in saying its depression!. The funny thing about depression is that it plays tricks on your mind!. I'm sure your friends and family really do love you but its just hard to see that through whatever is making you feel so down!. Thats exactly what happened to me!. And I had to constantly remind myself that my family and my TRUE friends really did love and care for me!. And hey, if someone doesn't feel that way about you, then why even have them in your life right!?

Do something that makes you happy, get some sun (known for helping ease depression), exercise, etc and you're bound to feel lots better!

Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

It is time to look at your self!.It isn't others that feel this way about you,its how YOU feel about your self!.It is easier said then done for me to just say!.!.Love your self,and others will Love you back!.Low Self Esteem is a hard thing to get back!.I understand this,and i know in time and some positive out looks,you will regain it back!.No one can hurt you!.!.!.unless you let them!.So pick your head up and look in the mirror and say what a great day this will be and blow your self a kiss!.I feel your pain,but i know you can get threw this! ~*~*~*~*~*~*~Peace!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You aren't unloved :)

When it comes to ourselves, we can be our own worst critic!. We tend to think we are worse than what we really are sometimes!. Sometimes I think I am such a boring person!. But then I hang out with my roommate, and she laughs and laughs from all the silly things I say!.

Having a positive outlook can improve your personality!. Try to smile, and think good thoughts!. People will catch your vibe!. But don't worry!.!. everyone is loved!Www@Answer-Health@Com

hey, i felt like that when i went into depresion!.!.!. but it was actually my fault!.!. you know, for not beiing talkative and keeping myself to myself!.!.
if you think its depression, please talk to someone!.!.!. it REALLY sucks!!!.!. more then anything!!

Don't worry about it, if you had to leave then all your friends and family would be heart broken!! your NOT unloveable!
!.!.!. i love you!! n_nWww@Answer-Health@Com

God loves you and that makes a majority right there!. as for
the rest of the world, don't sweat it!. just go about your life
and concentrate on being your best self!. when you quit
worrying about them you will open yourself up to receiving
back the love you are giving out!.
btw i love you too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

the only reason you are not fun is because you are making yourself not fun by worrying too much!. go out and get really drunk tonight that will make you feel fun and HAVE fun at the same time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

if you feel like your not getting enough attention you might want to listen to them!. or just do something funWww@Answer-Health@Com

Read this Book called " A new Earth" by Eckart Tolle!. Its a wonderful book that will explain why we act the way we do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

you are lovedWww@Answer-Health@Com





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