About temper?!
Question: About temper!?
Do you have an Uncontrollable temper!?
Here is a Zen Story I heard once, and when I received a link to http://www!.101zenstories!.com I found it again!.
A Zen student came to Bankei and complained: Master, I have an ungovernable temper!. How can I cure it!?
You have something very strange, replied Bankei!. Let me see what you have!.
Just now I cannot show it to you, replied the other!.
When can you show it to me!? asked Bankei!.
It arises unexpectedly, replied the student!.
Then, concluded Bankei, it must not be your own true nature!. If it were, you could show it to me at any time!. When you were born you did not have it, and your parents did not give it to you!. Think that over!.
Do you think this story's meaning is correct!? Why!?
How do you deal with anger when it arises!?
As always I ask this Question with Metta/Loving Kindness
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Here is a Zen Story I heard once, and when I received a link to http://www!.101zenstories!.com I found it again!.
A Zen student came to Bankei and complained: Master, I have an ungovernable temper!. How can I cure it!?
You have something very strange, replied Bankei!. Let me see what you have!.
Just now I cannot show it to you, replied the other!.
When can you show it to me!? asked Bankei!.
It arises unexpectedly, replied the student!.
Then, concluded Bankei, it must not be your own true nature!. If it were, you could show it to me at any time!. When you were born you did not have it, and your parents did not give it to you!. Think that over!.
Do you think this story's meaning is correct!? Why!?
How do you deal with anger when it arises!?
As always I ask this Question with Metta/Loving Kindness
(((((May All Sentient Beings Be Happy)))))
Thank-you for answeringWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
To be 100% honest, the moral of that story is NOT correct!. (No offense - just being honest) Personally, I DO have the ability to bring my anger out manually at any time!. In fact, sometimes, if I am feeling particularly self-destructive, I will actually create a reason to show anger (but I'm bipolar, so that just comes with the territory)!. As for how I deal with anger!.!.!.!. I usually slam a door, break something, pick a fight with someone, yell at the top of my lungs, swear like a trucker and just act really nasty to everyone who crosses my path until all the aggression is out of my system; then spend the next 3 days apologizing and trying to redeem myself to the people I offended!. I am definitely aware that my method of anger management is not the healthiest, but my answer to you is an honest one!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i do agree that anger is not our true nature!.
But then, our emotion comprise of sadness, happy, nervous, anger, lost, excitement, etc!.
would you agree that sadness is also the cause of anger!?
how would you feel if someone force you into sadness!?
angry, why!?
would you agree that happiness is also the cause of anger!?
how would you feel if someone take away your happiness!?
angry, what!?
would you agree that anxiety is also the cause of anger!?
how would you feel if you are living in worries all day long!?
angry, who!?
Anger is found in our craving!.
without facing our craving,
without facing our anger!.
and conclude that it's not there!.
this is simply self-denial!
to rid our self from anger,
please check our ignorance!.
sincerely sorry, if i make you angry!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
But then, our emotion comprise of sadness, happy, nervous, anger, lost, excitement, etc!.
would you agree that sadness is also the cause of anger!?
how would you feel if someone force you into sadness!?
angry, why!?
would you agree that happiness is also the cause of anger!?
how would you feel if someone take away your happiness!?
angry, what!?
would you agree that anxiety is also the cause of anger!?
how would you feel if you are living in worries all day long!?
angry, who!?
Anger is found in our craving!.
without facing our craving,
without facing our anger!.
and conclude that it's not there!.
this is simply self-denial!
to rid our self from anger,
please check our ignorance!.
sincerely sorry, if i make you angry!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Temper is also the process where raw steel is heated to a rage and then quenched, which phase/crystalline changes make it more malleable and stronger!. Rage is uncontrollable as is love!.!.but should we not accept responsibility for this dual nature in ourselves!? Zat'no a MU answer!?!.!.ma fav kaon btw is when Joshu confronts a novice who insists on copying his finger upraised gesture!.!.and promptly cuts it off!
Ah think the lesson is 'when two do the same!.!.it is no the same!'!.!.grasshoppa!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ah think the lesson is 'when two do the same!.!.it is no the same!'!.!.grasshoppa!Www@Answer-Health@Com
No, I do have sudden surges of aggression but i all ways contain them inside, i never want to express pure anger in public!. There is no need!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I disagree with the story: just b/c somebody may have an anger problem doesn't mean they're angry all the time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
anger is the face of real truth
it stirs fear into those who dont understand
especially those submerged in self-righteousness
hint hintWww@Answer-Health@Com
it stirs fear into those who dont understand
especially those submerged in self-righteousness
hint hintWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am convinced anger is a sign of fear!. One just tries to defend self by getting angry, otherwise one would simply answer or react to others calmy and simply!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well, yeah, of course we don't come out of the womb angry!.!.!.but we do more often than not come out crying!. temper is one thing which is sometimes difficult to control - but not as difficult as sadness!. I often find myself in content mind, then suddenly something happens!.!.!.an incident, a remark, anything!.!.!.which leaves me in uncontrollable fits of tears!. I just can't control them and it happens in the most unfortunate and embarrassing situations!. And there is nothing I can do to stop it!. I hate myself for it!. I've made such a fool of myself!.!.!.because people expect you to be more composed!. I can't stop the sadness and the slightest thing is a trigger!. Is this suppressed anger!? I don't know!. Just know that nothing makes it go away!.!.!.not even meditating for hours and hours!.!.even tried it for days and it was no help!. I laid all my dragons to rest!.!.!.why will this sadness not leave me alone!?!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com