If I go to 'MIND' will they tell my doctor?!
Question: If I go to 'MIND' will they tell my doctor!?
I'm having a few problems and think I may be Bi-polar!. I'm very down at the minute but there are times when I just can't sit down, my thoughts race and I have a ton of Ideas!. I have been this way for about 9 years but never gone to the doctors about it!.
I'm not a very social person and tend to keep myself to myself!. I'm living with someone at the minute that I love but every now and then I get really angry and we fight!.
I tried working in regular jobs, but it just didn't work!. Now I'm quite comfortable in a delivery job (nights), It's better money anyway!
I don't want to hurt or lose him but at the same time I really don't want to go to the doctors for them to label me 'ill' and put me on medication!. We can't have children and want to adopt in a few years but if I go to the doctors and refuse medication we'll have no chance!.
I honestly think talking to someone about it and working through it will help a lot, but will they inform my doctor!?
Thanks
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I'm not a very social person and tend to keep myself to myself!. I'm living with someone at the minute that I love but every now and then I get really angry and we fight!.
I tried working in regular jobs, but it just didn't work!. Now I'm quite comfortable in a delivery job (nights), It's better money anyway!
I don't want to hurt or lose him but at the same time I really don't want to go to the doctors for them to label me 'ill' and put me on medication!. We can't have children and want to adopt in a few years but if I go to the doctors and refuse medication we'll have no chance!.
I honestly think talking to someone about it and working through it will help a lot, but will they inform my doctor!?
Thanks
xWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Hi
Self diagnosis is never a good idea but I can understand your reasons for not wanting to have any mental illness on record, especially if you are looking to either adopt or foster, in the future!.
Try this link to the Mind website
Understanding bipolar disorder:
http://www!.mind!.org!.uk/Information/Bookl!.!.!.
the information is easy to read and understand!. It may also give you some insight into the illness and to whether or not your symptoms match!. There will also be some links to useful organisations to help you!.
I think going to 'Mind' would be a good thing to do, as they are understanding, very knowledgable and are much less formal than the health services!.
Unless you appear to pose any threat to either yourself or anyone else they are very unlikely to contact anyone without first telling you!.
I work for my local mental health charity after using them for my own mental health illness for many years!.
I would contact another worker only if I had the permission of the client, unless it was felt that it was an emergency situation!.
Usually on the first visit you can have a look round and a chat to workers and/or other people there and get a feel of the place to see if it is for you or not!. So please go along and find out how they can offer you help, they really can offer you lots of support and help you if you want to try and find alternatives to medication!.
Hope this helps!.
Take care and good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Self diagnosis is never a good idea but I can understand your reasons for not wanting to have any mental illness on record, especially if you are looking to either adopt or foster, in the future!.
Try this link to the Mind website
Understanding bipolar disorder:
http://www!.mind!.org!.uk/Information/Bookl!.!.!.
the information is easy to read and understand!. It may also give you some insight into the illness and to whether or not your symptoms match!. There will also be some links to useful organisations to help you!.
I think going to 'Mind' would be a good thing to do, as they are understanding, very knowledgable and are much less formal than the health services!.
Unless you appear to pose any threat to either yourself or anyone else they are very unlikely to contact anyone without first telling you!.
I work for my local mental health charity after using them for my own mental health illness for many years!.
I would contact another worker only if I had the permission of the client, unless it was felt that it was an emergency situation!.
Usually on the first visit you can have a look round and a chat to workers and/or other people there and get a feel of the place to see if it is for you or not!. So please go along and find out how they can offer you help, they really can offer you lots of support and help you if you want to try and find alternatives to medication!.
Hope this helps!.
Take care and good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Medication or some form of counselling is probably best for you!. As for adopting I know some who have bought up children juat as well as a 'healthy' person!. Don't be ashamed of what you have-if you have bi-polar!. Mind and your doctor will be able to give you the information and the help you need!.
There is also a bi polar web site-not sure what exactly it is!! Am sure you will find if you google!!
Hope it goes well for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There is also a bi polar web site-not sure what exactly it is!! Am sure you will find if you google!!
Hope it goes well for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
if you dont want them to know they wont tell them, they have all asked me is it alright to share this information with your GPWww@Answer-Health@Com
no there confidentialWww@Answer-Health@Com
Reguardless, I would go to the Doctor and let him know that you sometimes feel sad to the point of crying for no apparent reason (weather it's true or not)!. Also, advise him that you feel very uncomfortable in certain circumstances!. Ask him if he could give you a sample of Atavan, a mild nerve pill!. I did this, and found that it allows me to put my thoughts into perspective, stabilizes my moods, plus '' takes the edges off'' in social settings!. It also helps me to relax and acts as a stress releiver, especially at night!. I have a few neices that have been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder, and I too question myself if I could be bi-polar!. Maybe, maybe not, all I know is Atavan works for me!. You will not be ''labled'' and, what IF you adopt and continue to have your mood swings, knowingly without treatment!. You may continue to fight/argue or disagree and express yourself in a manner not suuitable for your child!. You need to remember that children are products of their environment!. Things that you do, say and express will become etched into the impressionable mind of your child!. Those impressions will be carried throughout the entire life of the child!. They will be what they see!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I haven't got a clue if they will tell your doctor!.!.!.!. BUT
I am here to argue the case for a "Label" because I have two children with autism and I fought for the label for them because it would help others to understand them better!. You say you feel it could be bipolar but you may be totally wrong, it might not be about medication!.
I would say go to a private counsellor and see where you go from there!.
And any condition doesn't have to affect adoption because I was a witness for someone a few years ago who was on anti depressants and she was single and able to adopt!. But you do need to sort yourself out first!. Good luck xxWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am here to argue the case for a "Label" because I have two children with autism and I fought for the label for them because it would help others to understand them better!. You say you feel it could be bipolar but you may be totally wrong, it might not be about medication!.
I would say go to a private counsellor and see where you go from there!.
And any condition doesn't have to affect adoption because I was a witness for someone a few years ago who was on anti depressants and she was single and able to adopt!. But you do need to sort yourself out first!. Good luck xxWww@Answer-Health@Com
Being Bipolar does not make a person any less of a parent!. If you are, in fact, manic depressive, then being medicated would be a good thing!. (Even though the disease is telling you otherwise!. I think most mental illnesses come with built in guards that tell us we shouldn't go on meds!. It's to protect the illness, not us!.)
If these mood swings are causing you problems, then you need to see someone!. I would recommend going to a therapist!. By law, a therapist is not allowed to divulge your information to anyone unless you give them permission, or unless you are planning to hurt yourself or someone else!. Someone like that could help you sort through your problems, tell you for sure whether you are bipolar or not, and discuss your medication options!. They will also be a great help when you decide to adopt - as having a new member in the family will likely send your emotions spiralling!.
The key is to find the right therapist!. Someone who meshes with you!. It might take more than one try!. Start with these basics - do you prefer a man or a woman!? How far are you willing to go!? What kind of approach are you looking for!? And then make phone calls!. Don't be afraid to ask questions!. Anyone who won't answer some basic questions for you over the phone probably isn't your best bet!.
Trust your instincts, not just about whom you see, but in general!. If this wasn't a problem, you wouldn't have posted anything here!. You know that for the sake of your relationship, and your future relationships with your children, that you need to get help!.
Best of luck to you,
BobbiWww@Answer-Health@Com
If these mood swings are causing you problems, then you need to see someone!. I would recommend going to a therapist!. By law, a therapist is not allowed to divulge your information to anyone unless you give them permission, or unless you are planning to hurt yourself or someone else!. Someone like that could help you sort through your problems, tell you for sure whether you are bipolar or not, and discuss your medication options!. They will also be a great help when you decide to adopt - as having a new member in the family will likely send your emotions spiralling!.
The key is to find the right therapist!. Someone who meshes with you!. It might take more than one try!. Start with these basics - do you prefer a man or a woman!? How far are you willing to go!? What kind of approach are you looking for!? And then make phone calls!. Don't be afraid to ask questions!. Anyone who won't answer some basic questions for you over the phone probably isn't your best bet!.
Trust your instincts, not just about whom you see, but in general!. If this wasn't a problem, you wouldn't have posted anything here!. You know that for the sake of your relationship, and your future relationships with your children, that you need to get help!.
Best of luck to you,
BobbiWww@Answer-Health@Com
A therapist won't know who your doctor is unless you tell her/him!. It's not a piece of into they ask for as far as I know, and if they do, you can either not provide it or find someone else!.
As for adopting, find out what the requirements really are in your state!. I have bipolar disorder!. I would not inflict an unmedicated version of my illness on a child!. Doing so would be a selfish act that in no way had the best interest of the child at heart!. Medicated and responsibly managing the illness, that's an entirely different story!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As for adopting, find out what the requirements really are in your state!. I have bipolar disorder!. I would not inflict an unmedicated version of my illness on a child!. Doing so would be a selfish act that in no way had the best interest of the child at heart!. Medicated and responsibly managing the illness, that's an entirely different story!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hiya, if you go to a therapist they will ask for your doctors details!. They will only make contact with him/her if they suspect that you may harm yourself or others and will thus breach confidentiality!. Have you tried using a telephone help line for someone to talk to!? i!.e!. Samaritans!?
If you think you may be bi-polar, perhaps it would be best to go and see a doctor!. Suffering for 9 years must be really hard, and they may be able to help!. In terms of adoption, I would say that if you are receiving treatment and getting on well then they cannot descriminate against you!. If however, you hide this and continue to suffer in silence it may have an impact on the child you adopt!. I would say it would be best for you to deal with this before you seek to adopt!. Also, it is apparent that you are looking for help by your posting on here!.
Hopefully you will seek out help and feel much better and be able to adopt a child in the future :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you think you may be bi-polar, perhaps it would be best to go and see a doctor!. Suffering for 9 years must be really hard, and they may be able to help!. In terms of adoption, I would say that if you are receiving treatment and getting on well then they cannot descriminate against you!. If however, you hide this and continue to suffer in silence it may have an impact on the child you adopt!. I would say it would be best for you to deal with this before you seek to adopt!. Also, it is apparent that you are looking for help by your posting on here!.
Hopefully you will seek out help and feel much better and be able to adopt a child in the future :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com