How do you deal with a crazy mother?!
Question: How do you deal with a crazy mother!?
My mother is crazy!. My mother demands that we never throw out any trash!. The house is FILLED, wall to wall, with trash!. There is a 5!.5 inch walkway across the living room, no joke!.
The kitchen and bathrooms are absolutely DISGUSTING!. At least two times a year the basement floods and there is wet, smelly clothing down there!.
I cleaned three days over Christmas Break and then she told me all we could truly do is "Rebag and rebox everything"!.
I am 19 and I have a 16 year old sister!. I am in college but my poor sister still has to put up with it!.
Obviously my mother has some mental issues!. I mean, she feels happy living in crap!.
The situtation is so bad that my dad has "moved" to the garage!. That's right, now my father lives in a dark room in the garage because the house was too filthy!.
Who should I contact without totally destroying a relationship with my parents!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
The kitchen and bathrooms are absolutely DISGUSTING!. At least two times a year the basement floods and there is wet, smelly clothing down there!.
I cleaned three days over Christmas Break and then she told me all we could truly do is "Rebag and rebox everything"!.
I am 19 and I have a 16 year old sister!. I am in college but my poor sister still has to put up with it!.
Obviously my mother has some mental issues!. I mean, she feels happy living in crap!.
The situtation is so bad that my dad has "moved" to the garage!. That's right, now my father lives in a dark room in the garage because the house was too filthy!.
Who should I contact without totally destroying a relationship with my parents!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Your father needs to get some balls and get your mom to a doctor!. He and your sister can clean the house, your mom be damned!. I know you love your mom, but she needs some tough love!. The house only got that dirty because you guys listened to her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Social Services, the county health dept!., the police, anyone you can think of!.
The situation is not good for your sister
Your parents don't need to know that it was you who called the report in, and I'm guessing your dad would thank you if he knew!.
Something is very wrong here, and your mother needs professional help!. NOW!. !!Www@Answer-Health@Com
The situation is not good for your sister
Your parents don't need to know that it was you who called the report in, and I'm guessing your dad would thank you if he knew!.
Something is very wrong here, and your mother needs professional help!. NOW!. !!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Oh goodness call the Department of Health!.!.they will tell her that since you sister who is a minor is staying there she has to clean that crap up!. She definitely has some kind of mental disorder!. I have seen episodes on TV of real life psychiatrists going to people homes who do this and counsel them about the situation!. I think that when something is done about it you Father will be more than grateful and so will your sister and most of all you!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'd have to say you're probably right about her having a mental disorder (maybe some form of OCD!?) And I don't envy you the position you're in, but your sister has to be your priority here!. Your parents probably WILL be mad, but you need to contact child welfare and tell them your story (including your not wanting to be the center of a family war) Maybe they will treat it as an anonomous tip!. Best of luck to you!. You're a darn good brother!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'd say you take her to one of those tv shows so she can see the truth through other peoples critical eyes!. Or you can take her to a talk show so that everyone can criticize her thus she'll feel embarrass and change her ways!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Contact the health inspector!. Living in such conditions is extremely bad for your health!. And every mother cares about the health of their child!.
You can also try talking some sense into herWww@Answer-Health@Com
You can also try talking some sense into herWww@Answer-Health@Com
Try to get custody of your sister, SHE COULD SUFFER PERMANENT PHYSICAL AND MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS BECAUSE OF THIS! SEE ABOUT GETTING A LAWYER AND GETTING CUSTODY OF YOUR POOR SISTER!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Call Children's Protective services anonymously!. They will make her clean her house!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your mom needs help, she is sick and I don't mean that in a bad way!. Talk to your dad and see if he can talk her into seeing somebody!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
calmly talk, as best you can!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
try getting a councilor maybe theres a reason behind the trash!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Contact the health department and who cares if they get mad!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I lived in that house too! And my mom still lives that way!.
I once threw out 255 bags of newspaper and burnt it at the beach!.
I also, found $500 cash, and a check for $1200 that never got sent!.
Sit down with your mom, and tell her you and her are going to go through one room on saturday!. And if she is too busy are doesn't want to help you will do it yourself!.
If she starts having a cow, like NO don't you do it!.!. blah,blah, blah
Ask her if she thinks it is okay to live like this!?
That tell her you all can go on the Dr!. Phil's show together,
Or do it yourself, but accept your mom to be pissed at you for a long time!.!.!.
but the mess will come backWww@Answer-Health@Com
I once threw out 255 bags of newspaper and burnt it at the beach!.
I also, found $500 cash, and a check for $1200 that never got sent!.
Sit down with your mom, and tell her you and her are going to go through one room on saturday!. And if she is too busy are doesn't want to help you will do it yourself!.
If she starts having a cow, like NO don't you do it!.!. blah,blah, blah
Ask her if she thinks it is okay to live like this!?
That tell her you all can go on the Dr!. Phil's show together,
Or do it yourself, but accept your mom to be pissed at you for a long time!.!.!.
but the mess will come backWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am really sorry for what you're going through- it's hard enough at that age dealing with "average" parents- so I can't imagine compounding the issues with this hoarding disorder!. It sounds like your mother has a compulsive hoarding problem This is much more complex than a "pack rat!." Children of hoarders face all sorts of difficulties- and there actually are support groups for them!. Your mother needs psychiatric attention, and although she may not listen as much to you, she might seek help if you give the info to your father and he approaches her!. Here is a website to get you started, although there are many more if you just Google it!. Best of luck to you!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your mother need help!.I wounder why you or your dad did not do anything about the rubbish!.Is it because you don't seem to care ab out it!.Your father should take charge and make sure the home is Spick and span!.Why allow your poor mother to keep the house clean all the time!.May be she is just fed up with your father's attitude!.There must be some thing not right since your father has moved to stay in the garage and you did not say if your mother move in to stay with him!.Both your mother and father need help!.Report the matter to your school principal and may be he can help do something about it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know she's your mother and all -----but you need to consider the facts here!. she isn't in her right frame of mind right now as to consider health and safety conditions of the home or the family right now and somebody needs to step up to the plate and discuss these issues with her at a family meeting!. If she declines changing her ideas of living and health standards then as a family you pull together and clean house yourselves as a team and if that is not possible then you need to pull together as a family and get the health department involved for the entire safety of your family and your mother!. she sounds like she needs professional helpWww@Answer-Health@Com