I uhhh think i want some help from all of you?!


Question: I uhhh think i want some help from all of you!?
im 13 and im obsseed with either cutting my self, choking myself until i cnt get a breath in, and jabbing really sharp saftey pins in my fingers and wrists!. id like some help from you, not a doctor, or anyone else who would think im tht crazy!. please!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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Do you feel better or worse after you hurt yourself!? Do you hide your wounds from others or leave them out in the open!.

I don't think you're crazy, I think you're either depressed and looking for a way to deal with emotional pain or you're looking for attention!. Neither is bad, but the methods you use definitely are!.

It sounds like you have extremely low self esteem and self worth!. You may feel that you need to "punish" yourself, whether or not you did anything wrong!.

I myself have dealt (and still do) with depression, crap self esteem and self injury!. Reading about others, especially as young as you are really bothers me!.

So please, the next time you feel the urge to do anything, ask yourself "Why!?" Do you deserve it!? I think not!. You may feel like you're worthless and should just die, but that really isn't the case!. Probably exactly what you don't want to hear, but you gotta look on the bright side!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I really wish people wouldn't be so negative in the Mental Health section!.!.!.

Contrary to popular belief, cutting, while a popular form of self injury (also known as self mutilation or self harm) is not the only method!. The real problem is not what you're doing, but what's causing you to feel the need to do this!. I know, when I really need it, I don't necessarily cut if the situation does not allow it - biting, scratching, pins, wrist-banging, it all offers some sort of release!.
A lot if times self harm is a coping mechanism, meaning it's how you deal with overwhelming emotions, etc!. For other's, it's to ward off the feeling of numbness!.

I'd love to talk with you directly, please email me (possible through my profile)!. A good conversation sounds like what you're looking for, and I may be able to help you whether it be with figuring out the "whys" or perhaps how to quit!.

Check out a few links I've found useful, including a forum for and by self-harmers!.

I know you don't want a doctor, but I would strongly recommend a psychologist, or going to your school counselor!. They can help you or direct you to some one who can, and if you're worried about somebody finding out, don't - they are bound legally to keep everything confidential, even that you're a patient!.
How do I know that these people won't think your crazy!? Well, my counselor does not!.!.!. and I'm studying to be a Psychologist!. I don't think you're crazy ;)

The links:

http://www!.palace!.net/~llama/psych/injur!.!.!.
http://self-injury!.net/
http://www!.sifriends!.org/category-view!.a!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

wow!. well, i think what you are looking for is a way to release frustration!. the thing is, that those needs tend to escalate as your body becomes immune to the "shock" of each behavior so you will tend to get more & more extreme in your self-hurt to feel it!. what you really need to do is replace these behaviors with other things that will have a similar effect while being safe!. like, explosive running (sprinting), theatre (being onstage in front of an audience), anything that will put your body in a shocking scenario will release endorphins & adrenaline & give you the "release" you're looking for!.!.!.!.!.!.
in any case, you need to stop what you are doing!. and yes, if you cannot find a healthy alternative you may need to go to a psychologist!. if you decide to see a doctor, i would suggest that you see a therapist first who will try to treat your behavior WITHOUT drugs, however, if that doesnt help, your last alternative may be to see a doctor who will treat you carefully with medication- best of luck to you-Www@Answer-Health@Com

I think when we are young our minds are like the software in a computer being fed with information and assumptions!.
If you are going through this process in an enviroment wich is upsetting/negative you can start believing the wrong messages, and get more and more upset in your subconscious mind!. I think for you to feel like hurting yourself this process must have got you terribly upset underneath!. Still even though your feelings tell you to hurt yourself, your common sense knows that that cant do you any good!. I promise you that you are a good unique person underneath!. Every person is like a unique seed that grows into something special - you are just in a rough patch of ground and finding it hard!. You do need to talk it through with a physcologist who is mature and respects you as a person!. With this person you need to try and correct the messages you have been getting from your enviroment!. You need to find the truth about yourself, not lies caused by people or places that are unwell!.
When that happens its like the seed is transplanted back into good ground, and it can resume growing into what nature intended it to be!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

This is a somewhat common issue, you like to hurt yourself to a extent so that you feel you have some control over your own pain by causing it and stopping it when you chose!. this usually is done by people that are being abused mentally or physically by someone else!. by hurting yourself it makes it seem that you are in control of your own pain rather than dealing with the pain you are actually feeling by being mentally abused or physically abused by others, solutions to stop such acts are confronting why you feel this way and trying to deal with the people that make you feel as such, or distancing yourself from those people if possibleWww@Answer-Health@Com

I know you said that you don't want to go to a doctor but honestly your best bet is to talk to a psychologist, if you are worried about being on meds I would definitely recommend a psychologist as opposed to psychiatrist because psychologists use therapy instead of medications!.

And if you still do not want to talk to a professional i would suggest talking to a friend/family member that you feel comfortable with because someone that is an actual part of your life would be more helpful than a bunch of strangers that know nothing about you but what you tell us!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i don't think you are crazy because i have the privilege of seeing into people's lives intimately every day and there is no such thing as normal!. what you describe is a well-known behavior - you are not alone!. But you should go to a counselor or a doctor or another professional who can help you deal with this!. Something needs to be addressed!. good luck to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I'd love to help you Nikki!.

But the best help will come from your doctor/therapist!.

I know that's not what you want to hear/do, but I promise they won't think you are crazy!. It's there job!. It's why they're there!. To help you!.

I don't think you're crazy at all!. You're smart enough to realize something is wrong!. And you were brave enough to seek help!.

I wish you the best with everything!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You're not crazy, but you do need professional psychiatric help!.

Anyway, that's your decision!.

Read this book:

David D Burns, MD:



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