A question about alcoholism and drug addiction?!
Question: A question about alcoholism and drug addiction!?
I have a son that is 30 years old and is addicted to drugs and alcohol!. Right now, he is in a hospital about an hour and a half from here being prepped for exploratory surgery!. He is throwing up blood and his liver may be failing!. His friends have asked me not to come because I agitate him, and he is already very agitated!. I don't mean to, but it seems that he hears everything I say as an accusation or criticism!. For instance, if I ask him how his son is doing, he thinks I am accusing him of not taking proper care of his son!.
His friends tell me not to pressure him, but it's hard!. The doctor says he has less than 5 years to live if he doesn't make immediate changes!. Should I continue to try to get him into rehab, or just ignore the situation!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
His friends tell me not to pressure him, but it's hard!. The doctor says he has less than 5 years to live if he doesn't make immediate changes!. Should I continue to try to get him into rehab, or just ignore the situation!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
its not a "this or that," its a continuum!. No pressure from you will get him into recovery, it has to be from his own situation!. Offer your love, without offering enablement!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If this were my kid, I would drive the hour and a half and be in the hospital while he has the surgery, even if I don't have the chance to see him!. Things could go very well or very badly and I'd want to be close by either way!. I say get in your car and start driving!
And yes, continue to try to help him!. Find a counselor for yourself who can help you become re-involved in your son's life, and help you find ways to help that won't be rejected!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
And yes, continue to try to help him!. Find a counselor for yourself who can help you become re-involved in your son's life, and help you find ways to help that won't be rejected!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try and talk to one of his friends and explain your worries!. Explain what you think he needs and try to get them to help him!. Or ask them to talk to him for you!. You could also write him a letter expaining how you feel!. Good luck and enjoy the time with him if you can no matter how long that is xWww@Answer-Health@Com
I reccomend you try your hardest to get him into rehab and get him seeing professionals !
As bad as he thinks you are at the moment, he will thank you later for saving his life!. It is your duty to step in, and take care of him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As bad as he thinks you are at the moment, he will thank you later for saving his life!. It is your duty to step in, and take care of him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well I have been through that and lost!. Go to see your son and be positive, maybe keep the visit short!. Tell him you love him!. Remember its the years of Drugs and Alchol addiction talking!. They often strike out at the ones they love the most!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Oh my, thats awful! I'm so sorry!.
He needs to know how much you love him and care for him and want to be there for him!. If he only hears accusation in your voice, maybe writing it in a note or letter would help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He needs to know how much you love him and care for him and want to be there for him!. If he only hears accusation in your voice, maybe writing it in a note or letter would help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com