Was I molested?!


Question: Was I molested!?
I know this kind of sounds weird, but please hear me out!.
I'm 15 years old!.
I have a boyfriend of almost a year and a half now!. I really, really like him!. We have NOT had intercourse, nor has there been any kind of touching!. We do lie on top of each other sometimes and make out!. However, when this happens, I feel so bad, and I really don't know why!. I just have to stop, and I just want to lay there by myself for a while!. It's very strange!. The only reason I doubt this is my conscious is because I know that more than half my school would've done more with their boyfriend by now, and we haven't, I'm very proud!.
Also, whenever the thought of me having sex crosses my mind, I get really scared and uncomfortable!. I can't really describe this well, because I don't like thinking about it in the first place (I'm not sure if this is just normal teen stuff!.!.!.!?)
I'm not promiscuous, I get good grades, I handle stress well!. I'm very shy and self conscious though!. Kind of awkward around people!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
That is a very good question!. A lot of times that could happen!. It is your brains way of protecting you!. And a lot of times the person will have dreams about it!. Was there a point in your childhood that it could be something else!? Like when do you first remember learning what sex is!. But this could happen, i took psychology and learned all about it!.

On the other hand, you might just not be ready for that yet!. Just because other people would have messed around with your boyfriend doesnt mean you should!. You should do it when your ready!. I think this is what it is, probably not you being molested!. Your young, give yourself some time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Despite the psychobabble that seems all the rage in the popular press, if you were molested, you would remember it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I don't think your father molested you but maybe he sleep on top of you and you didn't like the way he did because it wasn't like a father but more like a drunk stranger!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

NO, believe me you wouldn't forget something like that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Sex is a very serious thing and if you are not ready you are experiencing a totally normal reaction!. You have a fear of it because you know you are not ready!. A lot people that were molested are usually promiscuous!. Not that its their fault but when your innocence is stolen from you by a person you trust then you feel like its a normal thing to do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Simply you have morals!. You are not the immoral average immature teen!. You have insecurities because you are human!. Having feelings of guilt is normal!. Girls are all supposed to live on a pedestal and behave like saints!. It is a double standard that in reality those who judge are the ones that make same responsible young girls like you feel insecure!. The peer pressure at your age is brutal!. It sounds like you may have been a victim of mental abuse because you are very hard on your self!. You need to surround yourself with friends and family that will not judge you and that will love you unconditionally!. You are a normal teen!. The doubts you are experiencing are part of the awkward phase that all teens go thru!. The fact that you are humble enough to speak out and admit that you think something is wrong with you is refreshing and mature!. You are in touch with your emotions!. Your homones will shift and your emotions will feel like a rollercoaster!. Use your head and remember most teens are not as sincery as you!. As a matter of fact most adults probably aren't either!. You are probably awkward around people because many of your peers are out to put others down to build themselves up!. Just remember the more secure person asks questions like you did!. Now go out and be 15 and take your time!. Maybe the idiots that have caused you to believe that something is wrong with you will see that they need to emulate you to be better people!. HugsWww@Answer-Health@Com

well theres no point in getting too worried bout something that may not have happened, but I had all those same problems as u, & just had a 'feeling' that id been molested, and it turns out I had!.!. My mum had never sed anything b4, then 1day wen we got extensions, I had 2 go sleep in my room that I had when I was little and I kept having nightmares and getting really scared and my mum told me that id been molested by my alcoholic dad in that room!.!.so, trust ur instincts on this 1!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Your 15! Don't be pressured to do anything!. If you like your boyfriend, than you like him!. But you don't have to have sex!. With the being molested thing!. Most people remember that, but if your still not certain than you can go and do hypnotism!. I know how stupid that might sound, but apparently it has worked many times!. You should also talk to your parents!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Sometimes when a person goes through a very painful experience, he/ she blocks it and really can't remember what happened!. Maybe you were molested or maybe you're just not ready for being with someone!. Maybe you just you have some issues you need to work on before being with someone!. So just take it easy and don't do anything you're not sure of!. You're still very young and have your whole life ahead of you!. This is just the beginning, don't run when you can walk!. And maybe it'll be a good idea to talk to someone who can really help you!. Take care!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

People have the misconception that just because a parent sleeps in the bed with their children that they are some kind of pedophile or something which is not even close to being the case sometimes!. If you molested you would know!. I think that you just have pent up aggression so that when you do get angry you just let it out!. I mean who doesnt want to act violently when they are angryWww@Answer-Health@Com

that is for you to determine however I feel if you ever were molested you would probably remember something about it!.I think you are just not ready to take things to the next level with your BF just yet and you should be damn proud to know you are making well choices with your life because this is your life!. Choices you make now will mold and shape your life and define who you are!. Choices you make now will directly effect your futureWww@Answer-Health@Com

i don't even know where to start with this one!.!.!.i was molested 12 yrs!.!.several times a week by my stepfather!.!.!.it has resulted in my life being truly!.!.!.f!.!.up etc!.!.!.anyway, it's possible that it happened as i doubt your mother would make an accusation like tht !.!.at least she cares!.!.i told my mom she slapped me and called me a liar in a drunken rage!.!.!.and it continued until the day i moved out!.!.he even propositioned me on the way to her funeral!.!.!.!.no kidding!.!.!.anyway, since then i've been in relationships with men that will only hurt me etc!. etc!.!.it's possible that your blocking it out as this our mind's way of protecting us until were ready to deal with it!.!.think about it!.!.are there certain smells!.!.cologne etc!. that he may have used that causes a reaction for me it's old spice and brute!.!.also the fact that you haven't had sex and been in this relationship as long as you say!.!.!.though i admire you for not doing it as your young!.!.!.but i can't help but wonder about him, you didn't say if he's pressuring you or seems interested!.!.if not!.!.i'd wonder if he was bisexual!.!.!.etc!.!.not trying to hurt you!.!.!.my first husband was bi!.!.!.and i didn't have a clue then when i was 8 mo!. pregnant he tells me that he tried being straight, but is really gay!.!.!.there's a book called the courage to heal!.!.!.by helen bass and another woman!.!.!.look in the self help section!.!.!.or the library may have it!.!.!.i think you'll find some things in there that you've felt!.!.exp!. that other women have shared!.!.!.i hope not for your sake, but if you find it for sure, or your mind releases it, seek therapy asap!.!.!.so you can save yourself years of going thru a lot of heartache etc!.!.!.and i'd recommend a female therapist!.!.!.i've had males that seemed to get turned on by my talking about it!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Firstly,yes, you're normal to be going through the feelings you have about sex anyway, especially for your age group!. It's normal to not feel ready until !.!.!. well, you feel ready!

Secondly, you may or may not have been molested (you can certainly repress memory of experiences !.!.!. that's happened to me in regards to a shocking experience of seeing someone die that I didn't remember until I was 30, though not in regards to being molested)!. You would know though if thinking about your dad beside you makes you feel uncomfortable, and makes you question things, which may be a lead!.

Children sometimes can pick up information about an adult that makes them more aware of that person !.!.!. that has happened to me also!. In my experience, my father didn't molest me, but I always had a sense to kind of get out of his way when he was drunk!. I somehow knew not to be in the same room with him !.!.!. kids have a sixth sense sometimes about possible danger, with no other way of knowing about it!.

As it turns out, years later, my father has admitted to me that he thought about it, when he was drunk, yet he didn't allow himself to go that far! We both agree nothing actually happened, but it was both horrifying to find out what he'd actually been thinking !.!.!. and yet a relief to know that my sixth sense had been correct, and I'd not been paranoid!.

There's many shades of grey to this very important topic !.!.!.!. it's not a black & white yes or no area (the people who think that have, in my experience, not gone through it) Maybe your situation was something along those lines too, and you're unconsciously aware of it!?

Over time you'll figure out just where things stand!. Let it happen naturally!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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