Would this be a screwed up person? PLZ HELP?!
Question: Would this be a screwed up person!? PLZ HELP!?
My friend says all this has happened to him in his life!. He comes across so sincere when he told me but what sort of state of mind would his be!.
Raped as a child, grandparent gets Alzheimers, grandparent dies, turns into a male anorexic, gets raped by a man, turns into a rentboy, self harms and takes overdoses, goes mad and nearly gets sectioned, is in a fire and robs some of his punters!. Grandma dies and he says he is starting to rebuild his life!.
After all that, would he be messed up really and put a brave face on or is he really now getting into reality and normal!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Raped as a child, grandparent gets Alzheimers, grandparent dies, turns into a male anorexic, gets raped by a man, turns into a rentboy, self harms and takes overdoses, goes mad and nearly gets sectioned, is in a fire and robs some of his punters!. Grandma dies and he says he is starting to rebuild his life!.
After all that, would he be messed up really and put a brave face on or is he really now getting into reality and normal!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
If he needs drugs and alcohol to get through his days then no, he is not over it!. The drugs and alcohol help him to deal with the pain so it doesn't seem so bad to him; but it is nothing more than a self-destructive crutch!. He needs help and counseling!. I don't think anyone could cope with all of that on their own!. He probably seems quite calm and normal but that is only due to the influence of the drugs!. It is much easier to take drugs than it is to keep a clear mind and face your problems!. See if you can persuade him to get counseling!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
has he given you any reason to not believe him!? if not then trust him because he is reaching out to you for support and help!. You don't just "get over" that type of trauma- he is actually just self suppressing and medicating with the drugs/alcohol!. It won't get any better for him!.
Encourage him to get help- help him find a nice psychatrist who can properly treat him!.
If he has given you reason to not believe him then cut him completely out of your life!. It could be a ton of trouble for you if you get involved with him as a friend or more!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Encourage him to get help- help him find a nice psychatrist who can properly treat him!.
If he has given you reason to not believe him then cut him completely out of your life!. It could be a ton of trouble for you if you get involved with him as a friend or more!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hello there,
It does seem a lot to have happened to him doesn't it!? I wouldn't neccessarily disbelieve him, but if you want to help him, I would try to persuade him to get professional help!. It sounds as if he could have a lot of anger and frustration in him!. If you try to take it further with him, there is a chance that you might be on the receiving end!. That would be very difficult within a friendship!. Stick with him if you like him, but someone else ought to do the therapy!. Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
It does seem a lot to have happened to him doesn't it!? I wouldn't neccessarily disbelieve him, but if you want to help him, I would try to persuade him to get professional help!. It sounds as if he could have a lot of anger and frustration in him!. If you try to take it further with him, there is a chance that you might be on the receiving end!. That would be very difficult within a friendship!. Stick with him if you like him, but someone else ought to do the therapy!. Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am an x druggy and alcoholic, I have been through exsteme incest , bla bla bla crisis after crisis, I am now a counselor for addictions and this person has to want help !. Nothing you do will help !. Live and Let Live they are very aware of what they are doing, In time this person will get help if they want to do so!.
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April!.29!.2008!. The person knows there is help out there!. Let Go and Let God do his job!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
gracy
April!.29!.2008!. The person knows there is help out there!. Let Go and Let God do his job!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Unfortunately his story is more common than most would like to think!.
It is a background that would be difficult to put behind him without help, but nothings impossible!.
As a friend you could tell him you have discovered a study on Mind/Emotion that you would like to get involved with but you would like to do it with a friend!.!.!.to bounce idea's off!.
This subject is basically that you see your mind as a garden & thoughts as seeds!. Those seeds are recognized as POSITIVE-NEGATIVE!.
They are food seeds !.!.!.& weed seeds that choke out the food we need to survive!.
Also see the mind as a computer & you can progam into it where you want to go!.
You take control of the mind by making a list of traits you want others to know you as!.
Write them down!.!.!.look up All meanings in dictionary/thesaurus because this will help decide what you need to do to achieve these!.Then you practice to bring these into who you are!.
With 2 doing it together you can joke about doing it wrong or letting yourself down, to keep the subject lighthearted!.
Louise Hay writes many books (especially one called Heal Yourself) that young ones today like!.There are many self Improvement books (library)
Thankyou for being his friend & please dont get sucked into this world of destructive emotion & drugs!.
Honesty has to be a basic rule you set if you want to help & even if you know he wont like what you say, say it!.
IE if you know he's telling lies & you know its not true!. (I'm not talking about what he has told you) but generally!.
Just say, come this is not going to work without honesty!.(Friendship) Most people have had negative attitudes & beliefs programmed in them by all in their life & sick social beliefs but we can decide for ourself who we are & where we want to go!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is a background that would be difficult to put behind him without help, but nothings impossible!.
As a friend you could tell him you have discovered a study on Mind/Emotion that you would like to get involved with but you would like to do it with a friend!.!.!.to bounce idea's off!.
This subject is basically that you see your mind as a garden & thoughts as seeds!. Those seeds are recognized as POSITIVE-NEGATIVE!.
They are food seeds !.!.!.& weed seeds that choke out the food we need to survive!.
Also see the mind as a computer & you can progam into it where you want to go!.
You take control of the mind by making a list of traits you want others to know you as!.
Write them down!.!.!.look up All meanings in dictionary/thesaurus because this will help decide what you need to do to achieve these!.Then you practice to bring these into who you are!.
With 2 doing it together you can joke about doing it wrong or letting yourself down, to keep the subject lighthearted!.
Louise Hay writes many books (especially one called Heal Yourself) that young ones today like!.There are many self Improvement books (library)
Thankyou for being his friend & please dont get sucked into this world of destructive emotion & drugs!.
Honesty has to be a basic rule you set if you want to help & even if you know he wont like what you say, say it!.
IE if you know he's telling lies & you know its not true!. (I'm not talking about what he has told you) but generally!.
Just say, come this is not going to work without honesty!.(Friendship) Most people have had negative attitudes & beliefs programmed in them by all in their life & sick social beliefs but we can decide for ourself who we are & where we want to go!.Www@Answer-Health@Com