What's wrong with being passive agressive?!


Question: What's wrong with being passive agressive!?
I am definately guilty of this!. Its a good way to get out aggression without being an out and out bia! Why is this bad!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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For one thing, holding in the agression isn't good!. It is unhealthy to hold in anger!. Also, when you are dealing with people, it is very confusing when someone is passive aggressive!. You never know what the hell they want but then you can always tell they are pissed off about something!. I have lived with several passive aggressive people, it is much more annoying then someone telling you when they have a problem with something!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

A person who uses passive-aggressive method to cope with stresses on them does this by 'attacking' others through passive means!. Thus the aggressive intent is cloaked by the passive method!.

Passive aggression often appears when a person is asked to do something which they want to avoid for some reason (such as priority of other work)!. By appearing to agree but not making any real commitment, they can avoid the action!. A more severe form of passive aggression is to agree to commitments and then not do anything to fulfill them!. A toned down version is to do the minimum possible whilst putting on a grand show of appearing to be fully engaged!.

So do you like to be treated this way!? I certainly don't However, what you're saying is you're using avoidance, not passive aggressionWww@Answer-Health@Com

It's dishonest!.

If you have strong feelings about something a person has done, learn to discuss it with them!.

On one hand, you need to be tactful with people who don't deserve to be lambasted, but at the other extreme, if someone is verbally or psychologically abusing you, you need to be able to get it out on the table in no uncertain terms!. If people who do that to you are not allowed to get away with it, in most cases, they'll think twice about dogging you in the future!.

My wife once worked for a guy who joked about stuff that he was actually serious about!. She was so trusting that she never really picked up the fact that he was serious!. Eventually the situation got so far down the road that one little mistake on her part resulted in her getting fired!. So much for that manager's honesty - in the end, the company went belly up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I agree with eRica and would like to further what she had to say!. I too struggled with being passive/aggressive and what happens is after keeping things on the back burner for too long, well, it begins to "scorch", and you come out striking, sometimes verbally, though at other times physically, which is so wrong!. Everyone needs to learn to set up boundaries and instead of lettng people run you over - or you running them over - you simply say what it is you have to say in an assertive fashion!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Because it comes off in a bad way for you!.

It makes a person seem like they are too chicken to come out and actually say when they have a problem, so they think they are sly about it, and do come off as being b**chy

I find it hard to respect people like that, sorry! I really like it better when someone comes out and says what the problem is!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Ppl tend to not like, trust, or respect you so much and you tend to always be angry and resentful!. Why not learn how to stand up for yourself, be honest, and place your needs openly on an even keel with everyone else!. Why!? In the end, the passive-aggressive person almost always looses!. The alternative, btw, is not to be a bia!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

When your aggressive, you can hurt peoples feelings, make yourself look bad, cause relationship problems, make you blind to the good things in life, etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

As a reformed passive aggresive person, the worst thing is that often times we put our true feelings on the back burner in order to appease others!. This leaves us constantly dissatisfied and frustrated or feeling beat down!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

because with passive people they sit back and chill
agressive people are agressive and so when the passive person has had enough they become agressive so who knows what will happenWww@Answer-Health@Com

Some might think you always have ulterior motives and that you are not trustworthy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

What is right with being passive aggressive!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

People want to pummle you!.That's why!Www@Answer-Health@Com





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