How can I be sure if this was real?!


Question: How can I be sure if this was real!?
I have this memory from when I was younger when I was about 8, that I started to remeber a couple of weeks after my friend told me she was molested!. And I dont know if it was real or not, it seems real, i still remeber what I felt (physically)!. But I don't know if it was anything bad!. But I can't talk to people about it, I get scared, I dont know why!.

Now it's in my mind all the time, and I have all these weird feelings and I don't know what to do anymore!. Should I tell my mother!? I would be too shy, how do you even say someting like that to your mother!? And what if I'm wrong!? what if it wasnt anything bad at all!? then I would have wasted everyone's time including my mother's and maybe a therapists, in which case I would not need any help, and it would just be very embarassing!. What should I do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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There may be no actual way to "make sure" it's real!. It's possible it did happen, but its also possible that what you heard from your friend, along with other past experiences (such as movie watching) put suggestive thoughts in your head!.

If the memory involves someone who still has contact with you, it's best to tell your mother, so that she can determine if something needs to be done to protect you and make sure you are not alone with that person ever again!. Don't take chances because you don't want to inconvenience others!. They will be glad to help you!.

If you don't really know who it was in your memory, you can still tell your mother basically just what you told us, including that you aren't sure if it is real!.

If you know who the person is, but that person is deceased, or otherwise not in contact, your mother still may be able to help you figure out if anything needs to be done to help you stay safe in the future!.

You need to figure out together if this "memory" is distressing enough for you to go to a therapist or not!. If it's bothering you that much, therapy may be an appropriate intervention for you!.

However, If this memory is not really creating a significant change in your ability to go about your life, it doesn't necessarily require therapy!. You can always go for what is called a screening, or evaluation to see if it is indeed appropriate or not!. That generally requires only one or two sessions with a therapist, and is specifically used to help you find out if therapy is right for you!.

If you believe that you know how to avoid people who may hurt you and believe that you can go about having normal, healthy relationships with others, including romantic partners, therapy at times, can do more harm than good, by forcing back memories you have since moved past!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Well do you have an image in your mind of who did this to you!?
If so and you really do think it may have happened then you should tell someone!.
It's a toughie though and you really do need to be sure before you attatch something like that to someone!.
Look on the net to see if there's any helplines you can call for advice!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I think you should tell your mother!. If you think this may have happened to you, and its bothering you, you have to talk to someone about it!. Just tell your mother your not sure and just wanted someone to talk about it with!. She'll understand!. And if something is emotionally bothering you whether it happened or not, you wouldnt be wasting anyones time by telling them!. hope that helps ^_^Www@Answer-Health@Com

it sounds more like fear than a memory!. im concerned though that this fear may be followed by demonic opression!. i sound crazy right!? --- i'd advise you talk to any random christian, face to face and talk to him/her about it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Tell your mother and get a therapists help!. Dont be shy about it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Lay off the X and go see a counselor!. A counselor may be able to help you figure it out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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u should talk to the person who got "molested" and it will make u fell better!.!.GarunTEED!!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Honey, a lot of people repress things that happen to them until one day something triggers a memory!. Do not hesitate to tell your mom exactly what you said on here!. She needs to know!. My mom was molested when she was little and repressed it till she was 41!. It really messed her up for a while!. She had to be put into a hospital for 30 days because she became suicidal!. Please seek help!. Don't keep it bottled up inside!. It could do damage that could take years to overcome!. If it's nothing then at least you know!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Well, there's nothing to be embarassed about by mistaking an emotion or memory from years ago! I think it would be good to talk to your mom about it - tell her you are not sure if it happened or not, but it's something you vaguely remember - you could have watched a movie or something when you were that age and you are thinking of that - but either way, maybe your mom could actually shed more light on it! She might remember you saying something to her when you were 7 or 8 about it, and she could have dismissed it then, or perhaps you already talked about it and it was so disturbing to you that your brain blocked it out - and if not, and it is something that your brain is identifying with for some reason, your mom might be able to help you find a solution for why you are feeling that way!. Tell her you want it to be a secret for now while you are pulling ideas together, and it's nothing set in stone, but you value her opinion! She's your mom, and when they are called to action, can be more helpful than you would think!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Something must be jogging your memory!. Our minds are so powerful!. Perhaps you have suppressed this memory for so long that now you don't know if it's true or not!. Perhaps you're really not ready nor able to deal with the physical or mental aspect of this!.

If your not sure if it's good nor bad, you should not feel embarrassed to talk to your mom!. You will not be wasting anyone's time!. You may not be wrong!.

You should just bring it out into the open!. Are you afraid of what you might find out!? Is that why your reluctant to talk to anyone about it!? It's best to find out now, so if it's good or bad, you'll know!. Then you can deal with it mentally and emotionally!.

I hope this helps you out!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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