I am going trough a very hard time with my 10 year old son. My heart is braking !
Question: I am going trough a very hard time with my 10 year old son!. My heart is braking I need help!.!?
My son was born healthy a normal 9 pound baby!. I prepare my body for this pregnancy out of three children he was the only planned pregnancy, a few years ago he started to struggle in school he could not focus and his grades were real bad, I took him to his doctor and after many test and evaluations he was diagnose with A!.D!.H!.D I thaugth that by him getting on meds everything would be fine, but it's gotten worse he continues to struggle especially in Math!.!. I had many meetings in shcool with him OK this people in school they actually told me that they can't help my son his teacher most of all actually saids that he can't teach my baby, so his therapist told me that she taught my son also has something called auditory dilexia, and he is going to be evaluated for depression and anxiety!.!. My son tries very hard he even cries when he can complete his homework I cry too because it brakes my heart!. His teacher the one who told me he cant help is very hard on my son!.!. please continue to read!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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as somone who is in my third year of a teaching degree iam disgusted by what you have written the person who is teaching yur son is not teacher he is not fit to call himself teachers asshole !. if you are in aposition to do so i would take your child out of that school and then sue the teacher and the school !. which country do you live in may i ask!. if you are unable to afford to sue then try to inform others of what this teacher is doing and ii am sure yu will find support !. if the school principal willl not help go higher this disgrace of a teacher ust be fired for your child and every other child sake you love your child do not let anyone run him down you go back to the school and tell that teacher your son will not learn anything untill he learns how to be a teacher if he continues to abuse your son and refuse his notes go to the department of education and as a last resort the press its funny how reporters can scare all bad people !. im sorry to read this and i hope this appalling teacher is fired asapWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am really sorry, but try to encourage him ut his self esteem up!. Those are realluy important factors that u have to know !Www@Answer-Health@Com
grammar lessons!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
How about breaking/breaks for starters!Www@Answer-Health@Com
What about the father, ask the boys father for help too!.
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Are U willing to pay if so please I mean please taake him to this website www!.lumosity!.com and play the mind exercise games the first week is free then U got to pay 9$ a month!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
how about a little do it yourself help for your son!.!?
there are very advanced and sophisticated ways that are easy to do that might have a dramatic effect on changing the way your son views himself and his situation!.
NLP is a way to reformat negative situations and also to create positive mental states to boost self esteem and motivation!.
there's a book called NLP(the new technology of achievement) by Andreas and Faulkner and it contains many simple and effective techniques for improving quality of life even with people with limitations!.
i think if you bought it and read it and used the techniques on/with your son(and yourself) they would have a tremendous impact and by being proactive ,you'll be in charge and not at the mercy of people who might not know what is best for your son!.
I'm not a professional in the mental health field but have had a lifelong interest in training the mind for success and happiness and NLP is absolutely one of the best techniques available!. Look up NLP on wikipedia or elsewhere!.
you can get a copy on Amazon for less than $20!.good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
there are very advanced and sophisticated ways that are easy to do that might have a dramatic effect on changing the way your son views himself and his situation!.
NLP is a way to reformat negative situations and also to create positive mental states to boost self esteem and motivation!.
there's a book called NLP(the new technology of achievement) by Andreas and Faulkner and it contains many simple and effective techniques for improving quality of life even with people with limitations!.
i think if you bought it and read it and used the techniques on/with your son(and yourself) they would have a tremendous impact and by being proactive ,you'll be in charge and not at the mercy of people who might not know what is best for your son!.
I'm not a professional in the mental health field but have had a lifelong interest in training the mind for success and happiness and NLP is absolutely one of the best techniques available!. Look up NLP on wikipedia or elsewhere!.
you can get a copy on Amazon for less than $20!.good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
It is really hard for you to see your son struggle and receive this sort of treatment from the people who are supposed to be there to help him learn!. I am in UK and don't know what the US system is, but over here once the assessments are done your son would receive special learning support!. This would be a trained support assistant to work with him in the classroom alongside the teacher, or the school may have a special needs department!. I hope he gets the same kind of help where you are!. Best wishesWww@Answer-Health@Com
I have never had anything to do with anyone suffering add or adhd, so im probably not the best to answer this, but ive heard many times that changing the child diet to all natural things - so no preservatives whatsoever, all fresh food - no pre packaged stuff at all, can really help - if your at your last tether, maybe this might be something you could try!? Best of luck xoWww@Answer-Health@Com
maybe he has dyslexia i have it so i cant spell but tell him to keep on reading thats what i did and now i love book and reading so much i must read around 4 books a week no joke tell him to keep trying and help him when he gets frustrated if he keeps at it the results will show!. he will get there in the endWww@Answer-Health@Com
I will tell you a great story!.My son who is now 26yrs old was the same!.he was always2 years behind his classmates!.he was self concious,didnt like school and was diagnosed with passive ADD!.i had outside help,i use to read his school story books onto tape,explaining as i went because he found it hard to read,he was pretty much hopeless at everything!.he did his final highschool exam at 18 and got 45 percent!.he failed!.however when he was 16 i found him a job washing cars on a saturday at a holden caryard!.he did that for 2 yrs and they loved him!.they offered him a job as a junior salesman and i was so proud watching him go to work in his suit!.HE IS NOW MANAGER OF THAT SAME COMPANY!.Find something that he loves,my son loved cars!.Also dont get upset in front of him!.my sons speech therapist asked me when he was 12 what are his strengths and i said he hasnt got any(because I thought she was asking accademically) and she said he will succeed because he is a likeable kid!.she was right!.so dont despair,he will do ok!.now your main goal is to find what he is good at and tell him how great he is,build him up!. cheersWww@Answer-Health@Com
If your child is having trouble in school how about getting him tested for an IEP ( Individual Educational Plan they may find him having learning disailities!. I used to struggle in school but now I have one I get extra help from my teachers and I have very good grades now! ?? You can email me if you have questions ?Www@Answer-Health@Com
My daughter had almost the same problems!. I tried one thing that worked better with her:
Change her studying habits at home (location, time)!.
Do not let him study continuously ( Let him take breaks every 20 minutes)!.
Ask his teachers to change his place in the class to be in the front so he can focus more!.
Use rewards for his neatness and being organized specially for his time management !.
Ask him use the internet to help him on his homework by letting him search for websites that are entertaining and educational at the same time!. Avoid or reduce his brain stressing activities such as playing video games!.
Play some music or songs for him when he is studying alone (ADD do like silenced background)!.
Do not show him that feel sorry for him when can not solve homework or it is difficult!. Show him that you are sure and 100% positive that he can do it but his little tired and he have done more difficult ones before!.
My best wishes and good lock!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Change her studying habits at home (location, time)!.
Do not let him study continuously ( Let him take breaks every 20 minutes)!.
Ask his teachers to change his place in the class to be in the front so he can focus more!.
Use rewards for his neatness and being organized specially for his time management !.
Ask him use the internet to help him on his homework by letting him search for websites that are entertaining and educational at the same time!. Avoid or reduce his brain stressing activities such as playing video games!.
Play some music or songs for him when he is studying alone (ADD do like silenced background)!.
Do not show him that feel sorry for him when can not solve homework or it is difficult!. Show him that you are sure and 100% positive that he can do it but his little tired and he have done more difficult ones before!.
My best wishes and good lock!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
OK first of all what hit me was the behavior of the teacher towards your son!. He is being very abusive, and i have to agree with what user "beccycotten84" just said!. You should follow what she said!. That teacher needs to be punished, he is hurting both your son and you!. Something is not right here, ask your son about the teacher, if he is not telling something to you then maybe he is hiding it, just ask him to be sure!.!. Why would the teacher keep your son in the same class again and then behave so harsh on him!? And yeah try to change the school if possible!. I know i would!. Oh before you go let the press people know about the abusive behavior of the teacher!. He doesn't deserve to teach!. That teacher is a disgrace to the human Society!.
Your son will be fine and i pray to Allah, your son will shine in life!. May GOD protect you and your son!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your son will be fine and i pray to Allah, your son will shine in life!. May GOD protect you and your son!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That teacher needs to be more passionet about dealing with kids!.He doesn't sound like a very good teaher to me!.You do need to go to the school board,if nothing else!. You are not getting the help you need and deserve!.There is help out there
!. It's just hard to find the right one or person!.Good luck honey!.
Please hang in there!. You will find the help you need,just don't
give up!.Have a great week!.Love,Tony Rose,From Ky!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
!. It's just hard to find the right one or person!.Good luck honey!.
Please hang in there!. You will find the help you need,just don't
give up!.Have a great week!.Love,Tony Rose,From Ky!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do not distress your self over your kid,he is all right all he needs is the be able to understand you and the people that are involved in his life, He will be able to do his home work by you showing him how it is done, like wise the teacher must do the same as you and he should give him special attention, and help him with the lessenWww@Answer-Health@Com
I have two recommendations:
1!. Request an IEP, in WRITING from the school principal!. You have to request it in writing!. Most school officials won't do anything until they have to, because IEP's take a lot of time and energy, as do children with IEP's!. Once you request the IEP in writing, they have 90 days total to arrange for testing and a follow-up meeting with you and the Special Education team, to determine what the school will do to help your son while he's in their care!. That's step one!.!.!. write a letter to the principal asking for an IEP Assessment and Meeting!. Make a copy of that letter for yourself, and make sure they know you have a copy!.
2!. Take your son back to the doctor who prescribed the medication for the ADHD!. There are MANY ADHD meds available, and your son very likely doesn't have the right medication, or isn't taking enough of the one he's been prescribed!. This is something you'll need to work on, probably until he's an adult!.!.!. As his body chemistry changes, he will react differently to the medication, so it's very common to have to change meds, or increase/decrease the dosage, to continue to have the same effect!.
Finally, your son is being treated horribly by the school!. His classmates are also children!.!.!. and we know how mean children can be without meaning to be!. He probably feels left out, unwanted, unappreciated, and all the other things that go with being "that" kid in class!. If he's seeing you cry about him to therapists and teachers, that's NOT helping! He needs you to tell him you're going to keep fighting for him with the schools!. He needs to get help with homework that you may not be able to help him with!. That means you'll have to get a tutor to help him with those things you don't understand!. Most of all, he needs to see you taking action about the things that are going on with him!. He's a kid!. He can't do anything other than survive until the school and his parents do something to help him learn to thrive!. The symptoms of depression and anxiety could be due to the way he's being treated by everyone in his life, and the lack of practical help!.
A positive attitude from you and some practical help for him, from you, and from school and his doctor, is the best thing you can do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
1!. Request an IEP, in WRITING from the school principal!. You have to request it in writing!. Most school officials won't do anything until they have to, because IEP's take a lot of time and energy, as do children with IEP's!. Once you request the IEP in writing, they have 90 days total to arrange for testing and a follow-up meeting with you and the Special Education team, to determine what the school will do to help your son while he's in their care!. That's step one!.!.!. write a letter to the principal asking for an IEP Assessment and Meeting!. Make a copy of that letter for yourself, and make sure they know you have a copy!.
2!. Take your son back to the doctor who prescribed the medication for the ADHD!. There are MANY ADHD meds available, and your son very likely doesn't have the right medication, or isn't taking enough of the one he's been prescribed!. This is something you'll need to work on, probably until he's an adult!.!.!. As his body chemistry changes, he will react differently to the medication, so it's very common to have to change meds, or increase/decrease the dosage, to continue to have the same effect!.
Finally, your son is being treated horribly by the school!. His classmates are also children!.!.!. and we know how mean children can be without meaning to be!. He probably feels left out, unwanted, unappreciated, and all the other things that go with being "that" kid in class!. If he's seeing you cry about him to therapists and teachers, that's NOT helping! He needs you to tell him you're going to keep fighting for him with the schools!. He needs to get help with homework that you may not be able to help him with!. That means you'll have to get a tutor to help him with those things you don't understand!. Most of all, he needs to see you taking action about the things that are going on with him!. He's a kid!. He can't do anything other than survive until the school and his parents do something to help him learn to thrive!. The symptoms of depression and anxiety could be due to the way he's being treated by everyone in his life, and the lack of practical help!.
A positive attitude from you and some practical help for him, from you, and from school and his doctor, is the best thing you can do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com