I need help and advice on how to deal with this serious situation ?!
Question: I need help and advice on how to deal with this serious situation !?
here it is :
How can i deal with peoples continuous stand-offishness, aloofness & unfriendliness towards me !?
this has been happening now towards me for quite a long time in the areas and city where i live, but i have tried to ignore it and carry on!.
today ive been out again, had to see an orthopedist consultant about torn ankle ligaments in my ankle!.
and its the same weird standoffish vibes like im an outcast or radio active, and im not delusional or imagining any of it either!.
weird stares, glances - aloof cashiers- distant unfriendly behaviour by receptionists, doctors, and members of the public!.!.
it takes a great deal of courage for me to go outside to because i have rage feelings - high levels of panic and anxiety -- post traumatic stress -- & borderline personality disorder!.
ive had a hellish life so far & im 30 now -- i have made vast improvements, i used to have rage outbursts in public, like if i perceived i was threatend or if i saw people happy, enjoying their lives or a build up of stress!.!.!.unfortunatly i would explode and shout in public, lash out at people!.
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How can i deal with peoples continuous stand-offishness, aloofness & unfriendliness towards me !?
this has been happening now towards me for quite a long time in the areas and city where i live, but i have tried to ignore it and carry on!.
today ive been out again, had to see an orthopedist consultant about torn ankle ligaments in my ankle!.
and its the same weird standoffish vibes like im an outcast or radio active, and im not delusional or imagining any of it either!.
weird stares, glances - aloof cashiers- distant unfriendly behaviour by receptionists, doctors, and members of the public!.!.
it takes a great deal of courage for me to go outside to because i have rage feelings - high levels of panic and anxiety -- post traumatic stress -- & borderline personality disorder!.
ive had a hellish life so far & im 30 now -- i have made vast improvements, i used to have rage outbursts in public, like if i perceived i was threatend or if i saw people happy, enjoying their lives or a build up of stress!.!.!.unfortunatly i would explode and shout in public, lash out at people!.
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Answers:
First of all, it could be a matter of your perception!. I struggle with this a bit too!. If I want people to be kind and friendly to me then I realized I must be kind and friendly first!. I have heard that the best way to make a friend is to be the kind of friend to others that you would like to have in your life!. Treat others how you want to be treated!. Who knows, these people you are running into make be thinking that YOU are being aloof and stand-offish!. They may sense your defensiveness and be put off by it!. The only person we can control in this world is our own person!. If I treat people nicely, kindly, and with genuine care and concern, I know I have done my part!. I can't control how others react or respond to me!. I am a bit insecure so I know that this affects how I think others are looking at me!. It is hard, but one day at a time, I try to be the kind of person that I hope other people will be towards me!. I am sure you aren't trying to make life-long friends with the people at the cash register or doctors office, but practicing with those people can help you attract other people in your life who will be consistently caring and kind!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
good luck, your in the right direction!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hell is other people!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is nice to hear you are managing your anger!.
It is also good to hear you will be going for therapy!.
You are indeed suffering internally!.
Sometimes I think people are staring at me for some reason!.
I do believe most people are so wrapped up in their own personal world, that we do not have that much importance to them!. People are thinking their own thoughts related to their own world!. I don't think we matter that much to them!.
When we feel badly about ourselves, it is easy to think others have these same thoughts about us!. I hope you will be able to reach those long term goals!. Start with the easy small ones first!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is also good to hear you will be going for therapy!.
You are indeed suffering internally!.
Sometimes I think people are staring at me for some reason!.
I do believe most people are so wrapped up in their own personal world, that we do not have that much importance to them!. People are thinking their own thoughts related to their own world!. I don't think we matter that much to them!.
When we feel badly about ourselves, it is easy to think others have these same thoughts about us!. I hope you will be able to reach those long term goals!. Start with the easy small ones first!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
How do you look!? Do you dress out of the norm!? Do you neglect to bathe!? These are things to consider!.
Also if you have 30 personalities (you sound like a troll on that) they might have seen you as another personality and are afraid!. Perhaps you don't remember the incident because you were in another personality!.
I think this is all in your mind, considering your pshychological issues!.
If people want to be left alone, leave them be!. They might not be in the mood to be friendly or talk and that is their right to be that way!.
I think it is great that you are getting help!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Also if you have 30 personalities (you sound like a troll on that) they might have seen you as another personality and are afraid!. Perhaps you don't remember the incident because you were in another personality!.
I think this is all in your mind, considering your pshychological issues!.
If people want to be left alone, leave them be!. They might not be in the mood to be friendly or talk and that is their right to be that way!.
I think it is great that you are getting help!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Unfortunately we live in a cruel world that judges people based on their image and posessions!.
If you have freakish hair or facial piercings or dress unconventionaly, you might get singled out!.
Ever think of moving to a new city!?
It's a great feeling to be able to start from scratch!. You can give yourself a new image and personality!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you have freakish hair or facial piercings or dress unconventionaly, you might get singled out!.
Ever think of moving to a new city!?
It's a great feeling to be able to start from scratch!. You can give yourself a new image and personality!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
hmm, y dont u get a dog or somthing to take for walks and also it wil be company to live with
but there must be a reason y ppl stare at u!? maybe you dress strange or your hair looks funny, or wot eva it is ims ure you must no, try and fix itWww@Answer-Health@Com
but there must be a reason y ppl stare at u!? maybe you dress strange or your hair looks funny, or wot eva it is ims ure you must no, try and fix itWww@Answer-Health@Com
OK, stop, take a deep breath, and think!. I am assuming that you don't have body odor of some kind (you do shower and wear clean, fresh clothing, right!?)!.
So, if no body odor:
How likely is is that every single person you run into in your daily activities has been influenced to respond negatively to you!? It's impossible!. Given your high levels of anxiety, ptsd, and borderline personality disorder, it may be time to recognize that, without therapy, ***you can't trust your impressions of how people respond to you***!. They just aren't accurate - they can't be!. Remember, cashiers,etc don't even know who you are, and whoever would be doing this 'influencing' of others has no idea where you might be going in your travels or whom you might run into that day!.
You've shown great courage in going out to meet the world each day!. Use that courage to recognize that 'everyone is against me' is extremely unlikely, and move up that therapy date if you possibly can!.
Good luck to you!Www@Answer-Health@Com
So, if no body odor:
How likely is is that every single person you run into in your daily activities has been influenced to respond negatively to you!? It's impossible!. Given your high levels of anxiety, ptsd, and borderline personality disorder, it may be time to recognize that, without therapy, ***you can't trust your impressions of how people respond to you***!. They just aren't accurate - they can't be!. Remember, cashiers,etc don't even know who you are, and whoever would be doing this 'influencing' of others has no idea where you might be going in your travels or whom you might run into that day!.
You've shown great courage in going out to meet the world each day!. Use that courage to recognize that 'everyone is against me' is extremely unlikely, and move up that therapy date if you possibly can!.
Good luck to you!Www@Answer-Health@Com
people can be really stupid sometimes!. I too feel like people stare at you funny sometimes when i walk into a place!. You really just need to learn to ignore them and pretend like they are not there if they are bothering you!. dont stop going out because when you think about it you probably are not going to ever see those stupid people you encounter again!. Think about the positive things that happen in your life and forget the negatives!. hope you are doing better soon!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well, with your anxiety, post traumatic stress, and personality disorder, i'd say you are only imagining it!. Maybe your "vibes" are mixed up!. But in general, people you only see once every year or so for a check up, aren't going to invite you to dinner!. Maybe the vibe you are giving them because you feel panic/anxiety is what they are reacting too, you might be giving them a bad "vibe"!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
have you wondered where the source of the problem is!. Don't obsess about your past just slowly write out all the things that drove you crazy and continue to do so!. Moving might help but only after you've realized what was wrong!. Don't be upset about people not accepting you, accept that, accept yourself with everything you have inside!. Don't judge yourself or others!. Also try to replace the word need or must with something like may or can!. As soon as you do that people won't be pushed away from you!. It's human nature to love one another but setting certain conditions or requirements pushes people away!. Relationship wise it's the same thing, think of it as optional rather than a norm of some sort!. Of course without thorough analysis of your past this is near impossible but don't despair!. What you are feeling everyone feels, it's around us!. It's part of us just the intensity is different!. Also don't hold on to people just cuz they are inters ted keep the free and unattached and you will love each other more!. Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think that you could do with showing your GP this question as you've really explained things well here and you might find it harder face to face!. It does sound as though you may be suffering from paranoia or it may just be that your social skills need building up!. Either way, there should be a support mechanism out there for you!. Do you have close family or someone that you trust and can confide in!? Please see your doctor and see whether you can be supported through these hard times!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I hate to say it but the fact is, some people don't know how to interact with a person who looks/walks/talks/sounds different!. Unfortunately for you, you have some difference about you, and the majority of people do not have social skills to be able to know you are just as regular and human as they are!. But please don't be at a total loss, because there ARE people who can handle being polite and engaging with you!. This is something you can bring up to your mental health worker and even a regular doctor may have an idea or two!. One idea I have is that you can look at people's name tags at the grocery store and greet them personally with a 'hello mr smith' every time you come in the store, doctor office, doctors and so on!. You can ask your doctor/mental health worker if there is anything they see that you are doing/not doing that would be a put off to others who you try and make conversation with!. If they have suggestions, give a try, see if their input helps!. You write well, so use the internet as a social outlet as well!. I wonder if you were able to work in a setting that provides help to people who are less fortunate than yourself how much relief you could find!? I think that if you had a job or volunteer position where you could see other people in their vulnerability, it could take some of your focus off your own situation!. Just an idea!. I hope things look up for you!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds like you have been through a lot and my heart goes out to you!. I am glad that you are working on all these things to improve your quality of life to your standards!. Unfortunately this can be a cruel world we live in!. Everywhere I go, whoever I come across the majority of people are so caught up in their own drama that they can't even manage to give a neighborly smile or friendly nod!. Now I try to make these people smile back, take the initiative to go out of your way to make someone elses day better and maybe we can spread some friendliness!. Sometimes I catch myself waiting to see if someone smiles or acknowledges me, but maybe they are thinking the same thing!. Even if they don't it will only make them feel rude inside!. People might make you feel this way becasue they notice or can sense your uneaseness!. I don't know what you are going through, but don't take it to heart when others take out their own problems on you, like I said it is a cruel world we live in, but I think genuine and polite people can change that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com