I lost my wife and 14 month old son?!
Question: I lost my wife and 14 month old son!?
in a car accident!. It's been 6 months and I still can't get out of bed in the morning!. When will I start to feel like living again!?I'm so depressed, every time I see a gun, or a bottle of pills, or I look out of a window on a high rise building I think about just killing myself, the doctors just give me pills and tell me it'll get better!.I have even though seriously about killing the guy who was responsible for the accident!. I don't know what to do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I understand your anguish!.!.!. I have lost people that were very close to me!.!.!. and it does eventually get easier, but how soon is really up to you!.!.!. it is up to you to get out there and do what needs to be done for you to get back on track!.!.!. the best advice I can give you in all honesty!.!.!.!. is to give it to God!.!.!. ask Him for strength to continue, and He will give it to you!.!.!. stay close to friends and family, and when people come up to you and ask how you are doing be honest!.!.!. don't be affraid to cry or to be sad it's part of the healing process!.!.!. if you ever need someone to talk to feel free to drop me a line or message me on yahoo messenger!.!.!.!. juice3073!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My sister lost both her kids and her husband in an accident when they were all hit by a truck!. She lived on my couch for about a year and a half before she was ready to start living her life again!.
She had another child within 2 years to give her something to live for and about a month ago she got married again to a really great guy!.
I wanted to kill the guy who hit them for killing my nephew, but that isn't going to bring them back!. It will just get you thrown in prison for the rest of your life!.
It's cliche, but time really does heal all wounds!. You will never forget, but it will be easier to deal with and you will think about the good stuff they gave to your life!.
I am sorry this happened to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
She had another child within 2 years to give her something to live for and about a month ago she got married again to a really great guy!.
I wanted to kill the guy who hit them for killing my nephew, but that isn't going to bring them back!. It will just get you thrown in prison for the rest of your life!.
It's cliche, but time really does heal all wounds!. You will never forget, but it will be easier to deal with and you will think about the good stuff they gave to your life!.
I am sorry this happened to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are not alone and you have probably heard that a million times before, but it is the truth!. There are others out there hurting too, so reach out to them or find someone to reach out to you!.
There are many support groups and organizations, many online and hopefully some in your local community!. You can call agencies and not give your name and just ask for resources, you can search online, and you can also call a local church or ministry for help!. Help doesn't have to cost money either, so please don't let this hinder you!.
You can't be helped if you don't let someone know you are hurting!. FORTUNATELY, people can't read our minds!. Our thoughts are private and your friends and family might not know how to respond to you or how to help, but that doesn't mean they aren't there!. If you are afraid they can't help you, then reach out professionally - because help is there, if you look for it and if you ask for it!. You also have to be ready to accept it!.
I sense anger in your question and I can only encourage you to use this anger to fight back and get help!. Stop people in your local community from driving drunk or high or while talking on their cell phone or txting on their cell phone -- try and find a way to stop something like this from ever happening to anyone else! By getting yourself help, you might be able to help others in a similar situation or maybe even help this from happening to someone else!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There are many support groups and organizations, many online and hopefully some in your local community!. You can call agencies and not give your name and just ask for resources, you can search online, and you can also call a local church or ministry for help!. Help doesn't have to cost money either, so please don't let this hinder you!.
You can't be helped if you don't let someone know you are hurting!. FORTUNATELY, people can't read our minds!. Our thoughts are private and your friends and family might not know how to respond to you or how to help, but that doesn't mean they aren't there!. If you are afraid they can't help you, then reach out professionally - because help is there, if you look for it and if you ask for it!. You also have to be ready to accept it!.
I sense anger in your question and I can only encourage you to use this anger to fight back and get help!. Stop people in your local community from driving drunk or high or while talking on their cell phone or txting on their cell phone -- try and find a way to stop something like this from ever happening to anyone else! By getting yourself help, you might be able to help others in a similar situation or maybe even help this from happening to someone else!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Oh my god Iam terribly sorry!. I really feel for you!. Please dont kill yourself!. Please seek help,you went though a really tramatic experince you cant go though this alone trust me I've tired doing that after living in an abusive home all my life and it didnt work!. Please find help anywhere you can find it, if its not in one place it could be in a other, there are groups you can go to that have gone though similair experinces!. Again Iam terribly sorry I cant begin to imagin the horrible terrible feeling your feeling right now I really wish I could be there with you to make you feel better there are people out there that want to help you just have reach out!. I"ll pry for you Wyatt!. My best wishes go out to you!. Hang in thereWww@Answer-Health@Com
I'm so sorry!.!.!. that's terrible!. I think you should definitely talk to a therapist or join a grief support group!.!.!. anti-depressants don't help anyone going through a real tragedy!.
But like everyone above said, your wife and son would want you to keep living!.
There's not much anyone can say that helps, probably!.!.!. I think you just have to give it time, and I don't think the pain will ever go completely away!. But you'll feel better someday, you really will!. Good luck to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
But like everyone above said, your wife and son would want you to keep living!.
There's not much anyone can say that helps, probably!.!.!. I think you just have to give it time, and I don't think the pain will ever go completely away!. But you'll feel better someday, you really will!. Good luck to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm so sorry! I can't imagine what you are going through!. My only advise would be to talk to them!. I believe that they can hear you!. Go about your day and include them in everything!. They are still part of your life!. I don't think you will ever be the same again, but you will find reason for living!. They will help you if you let themWww@Answer-Health@Com
I'm so sorry!. That must be so terrible!. But killing yourself isn't the solution!. That isn't what your wife and son would want!. They would want you to be happy!. This might seem very hard, but go out with some friends to a bar or club, and party! You'll eventually feel better!. You will never get over it, but you'll feel better!. And don't take it out on anyone else, because that's not fair for them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am so sorry to hear of your loss but it does get harder before it gets better!.
Killing the person is just going to land you in jail and like you says it was an accident, try praying for him instead I hope u will soon see that life goes on even after the dead!.
Hope u feel better soon and sorry again for your loss
KariceWww@Answer-Health@Com
Killing the person is just going to land you in jail and like you says it was an accident, try praying for him instead I hope u will soon see that life goes on even after the dead!.
Hope u feel better soon and sorry again for your loss
KariceWww@Answer-Health@Com
Hi Wyatt,you"v had some good answers ,i am so sorry for your loss,please live your life for your wife and baby and make them proud of you,my friend just lost her son she is devastated he was 27,nothing prepares you for something like this,your in my prayers ,,love sueWww@Answer-Health@Com
its hard but think what they would want you to do!. if they were here they wouldnt want you to do that!. everything happens for a reason your left here for a reason!. so just give it time!. things will get better just takes time!. im sorry good luck and hope everything works out fine for youWww@Answer-Health@Com
I would really recommend some therapy in addition to pills!. That is a terrible tragedy, and I am so sorry for you!. It will take a long time, but I wish you the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
come on do you really think your wife would want you to kill yourself man!.you wont wake up one day and forget your family it will be hard for sometime but remember killing yourself isnt the way out!.get help and im really sorry for your lossWww@Answer-Health@Com
oh my gosh, i really feel for you!. you are going through something terrible and you are probaly thinking something like this!.!.!.!.!.
"there is no point of living"
but its not true, and you have to keep going
your wife would not want you to feel this way, i think she would be most happy if while she is watching you from "above" she sees you happy and with a family!.
start dating again, good things will happen to you now on, i promise, but you need to look for it!. if you just keep laying in bed thinking bad and negative things, you will never be happy again
also, please dont kill yourself, its not right, she would be sad, and do not kill the man who did this, he did not do it on purpose!. was it a drunk driver!? killing someone will scar you for life and is that really what you want!? to be scared again!? for life!? we are all stuck in this damn, messed up world, but please make the most out of it and try to live a long, healthy, and happy life!.
do it for yourself, for your wife, for your son, for everyone who loves you!.
i really hope i helped!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
"there is no point of living"
but its not true, and you have to keep going
your wife would not want you to feel this way, i think she would be most happy if while she is watching you from "above" she sees you happy and with a family!.
start dating again, good things will happen to you now on, i promise, but you need to look for it!. if you just keep laying in bed thinking bad and negative things, you will never be happy again
also, please dont kill yourself, its not right, she would be sad, and do not kill the man who did this, he did not do it on purpose!. was it a drunk driver!? killing someone will scar you for life and is that really what you want!? to be scared again!? for life!? we are all stuck in this damn, messed up world, but please make the most out of it and try to live a long, healthy, and happy life!.
do it for yourself, for your wife, for your son, for everyone who loves you!.
i really hope i helped!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do everything you can to laugh- watch funny movies if you cant get out of bed- laughter is healing!. Keep others that you love around you as much as you can!. Get a new pet- a puppy maybe, they can be therapeutic because it would require your care and attention, and would be good company!. If at all possible start doing things that you enjoy!.
Look for books on grieving, and follow their advice!. In psychology, there are 5 Stages of Grieving, the "3rd" stage is anger, here is a quote I found about it on line: "Anger is a normal stage!. It must be expressed and resolved; if it is suppressed and held in, it will become "Anger in" leading to a maladaptive condition of depression that drains our emotional energy!." Here is the web site: http://www!.coping!.org/grief/stages!.htm
Also, check out Amazon!.com, some of these books on this page looked like they could be very helpful: http://www!.amazon!.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw!?url!.!.!.
Start a Gratitude journal- at least every day or as often as you feel, write down every thing in life that you find amazing and wonderful and that you are thankful for!. This will be hard at first, but the more you do it the more things will start to flow!.
First thing in the morning when you wake up, open your curtains and let the sun shine in on you!. Sunlight increases serotonin- a "feel good" chemical in the brain!. Use your imagination- imagine different scenarios that are realistic, but that you would find enjoyable and would indeed make life a new and worthwhile journey!.
The mind is an incredible and limitless treasure and a TOOL for creating the reality we live!. Though nothing can undo what has happened, you can use your own mind to heal what you are feeling!. You are powerful!. You are strong!. You are the creator of your life and I know you have the ability to make it through this trial, beginning this very moment!. The very best to you and may your new life be as rewarding and wonderful as your old one!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Look for books on grieving, and follow their advice!. In psychology, there are 5 Stages of Grieving, the "3rd" stage is anger, here is a quote I found about it on line: "Anger is a normal stage!. It must be expressed and resolved; if it is suppressed and held in, it will become "Anger in" leading to a maladaptive condition of depression that drains our emotional energy!." Here is the web site: http://www!.coping!.org/grief/stages!.htm
Also, check out Amazon!.com, some of these books on this page looked like they could be very helpful: http://www!.amazon!.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw!?url!.!.!.
Start a Gratitude journal- at least every day or as often as you feel, write down every thing in life that you find amazing and wonderful and that you are thankful for!. This will be hard at first, but the more you do it the more things will start to flow!.
First thing in the morning when you wake up, open your curtains and let the sun shine in on you!. Sunlight increases serotonin- a "feel good" chemical in the brain!. Use your imagination- imagine different scenarios that are realistic, but that you would find enjoyable and would indeed make life a new and worthwhile journey!.
The mind is an incredible and limitless treasure and a TOOL for creating the reality we live!. Though nothing can undo what has happened, you can use your own mind to heal what you are feeling!. You are powerful!. You are strong!. You are the creator of your life and I know you have the ability to make it through this trial, beginning this very moment!. The very best to you and may your new life be as rewarding and wonderful as your old one!.Www@Answer-Health@Com