It hurts so much?!
Question: It hurts so much!?
I was talking to my friend today and we were having an emotional conversation, and i told her alot of stuff which i dont tell people, b/c I dont tell people how i feel and stuff!.
Now i feel so abondoned (sp!?), like she hates me and she is going to leave me, and i dont want to hurt her but i do, and im so selfish, and unworthy and i hurt other people, and she doesnt deserve a friend like me, and i just know she hates me, how can i make all this pain stop!?
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Now i feel so abondoned (sp!?), like she hates me and she is going to leave me, and i dont want to hurt her but i do, and im so selfish, and unworthy and i hurt other people, and she doesnt deserve a friend like me, and i just know she hates me, how can i make all this pain stop!?
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Has she actually done anything mean, like tell other people about this stuff or laugh at it!?
If not, then you are scared she will and waiting for her to drop you like a ton of bricks for having 'stuff'!. It's perfectly understandable especially if you have problems trusting people, which it sounds like!. But it's very unlikely to be true!.
You say you 'just know' she hates you but you don't have any reason for believing it, other than that you're afraid that telling her this stuff will mean she will!. A good friend won't abandon you for having feelings or problems, they'll listen and try to understand and help!. The fact that she liked you enough to listen ought to help show you that she values your time and company and doesn't despise you!. And simply telling her problems and feelings won't make her hate you, in fact it will draw you closer together!. Just be sure to make time to listen to her problems in return!
If you are in this much emotional agony, perhaps you should think about speaking to a counsellor!. I know this may seem laughable if you are already having problems opening up with a friend, but it might be easier to speak to a stranger and they are professionals trained to deal with these kinds of problems!.
One more thing!. You speak of being selfish and unworthy!. There is no way that having feelings or problems makes you in any way unworthy!. I know it isn't easy, but you were given a life and you deserve to live it, and that means trying your hardest to believe in yourself a little more!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If not, then you are scared she will and waiting for her to drop you like a ton of bricks for having 'stuff'!. It's perfectly understandable especially if you have problems trusting people, which it sounds like!. But it's very unlikely to be true!.
You say you 'just know' she hates you but you don't have any reason for believing it, other than that you're afraid that telling her this stuff will mean she will!. A good friend won't abandon you for having feelings or problems, they'll listen and try to understand and help!. The fact that she liked you enough to listen ought to help show you that she values your time and company and doesn't despise you!. And simply telling her problems and feelings won't make her hate you, in fact it will draw you closer together!. Just be sure to make time to listen to her problems in return!
If you are in this much emotional agony, perhaps you should think about speaking to a counsellor!. I know this may seem laughable if you are already having problems opening up with a friend, but it might be easier to speak to a stranger and they are professionals trained to deal with these kinds of problems!.
One more thing!. You speak of being selfish and unworthy!. There is no way that having feelings or problems makes you in any way unworthy!. I know it isn't easy, but you were given a life and you deserve to live it, and that means trying your hardest to believe in yourself a little more!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
give your friend a chance she has been there for you before and i sure she will be there for you now!. i guess some of the things you told her are hard for even you to deal with so let her deal with it in her own way aswell!. i dont think she hates you at all she is your friend and she problem fills the pain your in!. she loves you and i sure she just trying to think of ways to lessen your pain!. she been a good friend she listened and good on you for finally opening up to someone that took alot of courage!. talking about it the first step and working through ways of fixing it is the next!. you been strong enough to talk to your friend now you have to be strong enough to let her help you fix your problems!. your a lucky girl to have a friend like her and she lucky to have you i sure you will help each other and be there for each other!. call her and thank her for the support she giving you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Please find a mental health profession you can talk to about this!. You are clearly in a great deal of pain and are experiencing a lot of mixed up feelings!.
Believe it or not, there is a lot a professional can do to help you get your feelings sorted out; things really can be better than what your life is like now!.
Start with your general care doctor and see if he/she thinks you might need a referral to a specialist!. They usually also have all kinds of resources to suggest if you don't have enough health coverage or money for things that aren't covered!. There are groups that are free and therapists that can reduce their fee if you can't afford it!.
Please do this for yourself!.!.!.you'll be so glad you did!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Believe it or not, there is a lot a professional can do to help you get your feelings sorted out; things really can be better than what your life is like now!.
Start with your general care doctor and see if he/she thinks you might need a referral to a specialist!. They usually also have all kinds of resources to suggest if you don't have enough health coverage or money for things that aren't covered!. There are groups that are free and therapists that can reduce their fee if you can't afford it!.
Please do this for yourself!.!.!.you'll be so glad you did!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
first of all well done for talking to someone i think your friend just didn't no what to say to you after you told her!.
i understand because i have been deepest for a couple of years but now i go to consoling and it really helped!.
i think you should go to your doctor and tell them you have been felling like this because they will offer help and support!.
i would also talk to your friend and tell her you fell abandoned I'm sure she didn't mean to make you fell like that!.
things get better in time don't worry i no it does from experience just hold on!. and keep talking about your feelings!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i understand because i have been deepest for a couple of years but now i go to consoling and it really helped!.
i think you should go to your doctor and tell them you have been felling like this because they will offer help and support!.
i would also talk to your friend and tell her you fell abandoned I'm sure she didn't mean to make you fell like that!.
things get better in time don't worry i no it does from experience just hold on!. and keep talking about your feelings!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well look at it this way, if she was a TRUE friend she would have understood!. There are no words I can say nor anyone else could that will make things better, moving on is something that you have to do yourself!. If the friend did just ditch you then you deserve better than her no the other way around!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you are stressing for no reason!. That's what makes friends closer [the sharing of personal feelings and thoughts]!. If anything, I suspect you have a better friend than before!. If not, you can count on me to be there!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Forgive yourself and I guarantee the pain will go away!.
We all go through this kind of stuff and you can either torture yourself about it or forgive yourself & learn from it!.
It's a simple choice!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
We all go through this kind of stuff and you can either torture yourself about it or forgive yourself & learn from it!.
It's a simple choice!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
figure out what the problem is then actually DO SOMETHING to solve it!. dont just sit around and mope about it!. there are people who have allot worse that you!. try living in a third world country!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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