How can you beat depression and anxiety disorder if you're lonely?!


Question: How can you beat depression and anxiety disorder if you're lonely!?
I have some serious money problems!. Soon I'm going to move to a horrible but cheap apartment which is very far away from downtown!. I can't work because of my anxiety disorder, can't afford theraphy and there is nobody around to call if I get sick, get into trouble!.!.!. (my relatives live in different countries and not really care about me)

I feel so desperate!. What can I do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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If you want to talk feel free to email me!. I know where you're coming from!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Hi Sophie,

Try not to get desperate, there is always help available!. Money can be a problem, especially as therapists are really expensive, but if you see a therapist from the public mental health service you will not have to worry about fees!. Ask your GP what you can do - they are there to help you!.

Once you start learning some coping strategies to help with your anxiety disorder, it will help with your loneliness as you might build up enough confidence to meet some people!. Until then have you tried going on online forums and discussion groups!? It might not sound that appealing but it is a good way to make friends without the additional stress!. I know people who have formed deep friendships through simply chatting about their favourite books online!. Online forums can also provide some support for you when dealing with your anxiety and depression!. A great forum is: http://depressionforums!.org/

Obviously only having relationships with people online is not ideal, but I think it's a good starting place, especially if you have trouble with meeting new people in real life!. Just take small steps and try not to get overwhelmed!. There is always help available!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You can effectively treat them for very little money: my Omega 3 costs me around $2 per week (bulk buy), but you can do a lot, with absolutely no money!. Anxiety: (1!.) Generalised Anxiety Disorder: See anxiety treatments, at ezy build (below) in section 6!. Set yourself a specific time period for worrying about anything, (say; around three quarters of an hour, possibly when you get home, or after your evening meal, but not too close to bedtime) after which, resolve firmly to refuse to even entertain the thought of worrying again on that day: realise and accept that to do otherwise would be counterproductive to your mental health, and enjoyment of life!. You will have had your "worry time" for the day, and can just write down any more thoughts that come to mind, and say to yourself: "Well, I'll just have to worry about that tomorrow, won't I!?"!. It is important to deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, or images, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately!. When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser!?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get over this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery!. Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large "STOP!" sign, then I say to myself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic"!. In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version!. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary!. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method!.

Practice one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed!. Alternatively, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you!. There is also a version for use in public places, (if you like, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind)!. Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris also refer: "Even though I sometimes suffer from anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself!." Neurofeedback treatment for anxiety is increasingly becoming available!. Herbal remedies, such as St!.John's wort, or arctic root are often effective, but the idea is (as with anxiolytic medication) to use them like water wings, or training wheels on a bicycle, providing initial support, and giving time for other treatments, such as therapy, and relaxation techniques, to take effect!.

(The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective!. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case!.)!. Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath!. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second)!. Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally, if you like) 20 times!. Then close your eyes and relax!. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel!.

Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner!. Then, repeat the procedure one last time!. Some people may find that this is all they need do!. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention!. I have found that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over!. (2!.) Fear: My standard post follows, but learn to identify, and confront your fears: a fear confronted is a fear reduced!. If you don't know what they are, write down 3 times, before going to sleep: "Tonight, in my dreams, I want to remember seeing what my fear is, when I get up", and put it under your pillow!. Then say it aloud 3 times, after lights out!. It is important to summon as much desire as you are capable of, to more effectively communicate this to your subconscious mind!. If this works, it should produce a response within 2 weeks; if not, you may not be remembering, so set an alarm to go off after, first, 3 hrs; next night 4; next night 5: have a pen & paper handy, and WRITE DOWN THOSE DREAMS!!! or, chances are, you will forget!. Remember, the response may be metaphorical (figurative), rather than literal!.

There is a section on dream interpretation, here in Y!A, and view section 3 on dream interpretation, at ezy build (feel free to email me by clicking on my profile, but I am a lot better with interpreting dreams of males, than females) if you have any difficulty, but the idea is to, immediately after waking & writing down, question the characters inhabiting that dream, and note any thoughts, images, impressions, or emotions which result!. Then use the confrontation method, in section 3, on recurring nightmares, at ezy-build!. Take up a course in Tae Kwon Do, Kung Fu, or Tang Soo Do, etc!., as much for the mental techniques you will learn, as the ability to face physical fear, which may well have a carry over effect in the dream state, at night, influencing your subconscious mind, and enabling you to tackle them head on (Some people can defeat them: it can help to call on friends, or others: "dream allies" to come to your assistance!. I am still unable to, as yet, but I realise that all those figures are part of me, and the only thing to do is just keep fighting: persevere, and resist)!. Many people report reduced anxiety levels, after taking up yoga, and t'ai chi probably has similar benefits!. More on these in the first 3 pages of section 2!. ~~~ LOW COST/FREE COUNSELLING: Contact your county/local mental health agency, and find out what help they can offer!. Psychological counselling, with a sliding scale, based on income, is available through many religious organisations, such as Catholic counselling, the Methodist church, and the Unitarian Universalists!. You don't have to be a member!. See section 2 on co-counselling!. ~~~ Medical & psychology section of libraries!. Contact a social worker, through the local hospital, free clinic or appropriate govt!. dept!., and find out what services are available, locally: community center, women's shelter, food stamps, op shops, clubs, charities, t'ai chi & yoga in the park, etc!. ~~~ Depression: I suggest: (1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, (certified free of mercury) with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their freshly squeezed juice!. If vitamin E is used, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!. (2!.) Work up slowly to 30 - 60 minutes of exercise, daily!. (3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!. (4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!. (5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!. (6!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, or a supplement, such as SAMe, taken with a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.
Read: "Lift your mood now!." by John D Preston, Psy!.D!. 2001, New Harbinger Publications, Inc!., 5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland!. CA 94609 http://www!.amazon!.com/ may be worth trying for this!. I have read many books on depression, but if there is a better, more easily read, and quickly implementable one, I have yet to encounter it!. If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S!.A!.D!.) in section 2, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a littWww@Answer-Health@Com





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