Admitting defeat?!
Question: Admitting defeat!?
I had to admit defeat and admit to myself that I am depressed!.
I had episodes of depression, but just thought it was stress!.
I WAS BEATEN UP BY MY EX, he called me ugly and said that no man would want me!. He threatened to kill my family etc!.
It was a bit of a whirlwind with my fiance cos I needed to get away from my ex, I never got counselling for what I went through with him!.
I got with my fiance in 2004
Then I fell pregnant in 2005 but miscarried, I feel that I have let my fiance down because she said that he wanted a child, I was only 6 weeks!. It would have been 3 in February!.
Then my fiance had problems last year in June, where he felt weak, we thought nothing of it, then he went to the doctors to get referred to the hospital, it was a 2 month wait for an MRI scan!. Then in October, he was diagnosed with MS and the doctor said that it was a bad case and they think my fiance may be in a wheelchair later on in life!. He walks like he has had a stroke, we used to !.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I had episodes of depression, but just thought it was stress!.
I WAS BEATEN UP BY MY EX, he called me ugly and said that no man would want me!. He threatened to kill my family etc!.
It was a bit of a whirlwind with my fiance cos I needed to get away from my ex, I never got counselling for what I went through with him!.
I got with my fiance in 2004
Then I fell pregnant in 2005 but miscarried, I feel that I have let my fiance down because she said that he wanted a child, I was only 6 weeks!. It would have been 3 in February!.
Then my fiance had problems last year in June, where he felt weak, we thought nothing of it, then he went to the doctors to get referred to the hospital, it was a 2 month wait for an MRI scan!. Then in October, he was diagnosed with MS and the doctor said that it was a bad case and they think my fiance may be in a wheelchair later on in life!. He walks like he has had a stroke, we used to !.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
get in touch with your GP!. it sounds like you are suffering from depression, which is normal, and understandable, given what youve been through!.
over time, youll be able to process, maybe even understand a bit, whats happened to you, and be able to move on from it, but it is going to take time!. dont be stressed that things dont get better all of a sudden, but things will get better for you!.
as for things with your fiance-thats tough to deal with, for both you and him!. MS will bring good days and bad days, so you need to learn to embrace the good days, and cope together with the bad days!.
yes your fiance needs you, but you also need to give yourself some time!. dont be afraid to seek help over this!. good luck sweetie!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
over time, youll be able to process, maybe even understand a bit, whats happened to you, and be able to move on from it, but it is going to take time!. dont be stressed that things dont get better all of a sudden, but things will get better for you!.
as for things with your fiance-thats tough to deal with, for both you and him!. MS will bring good days and bad days, so you need to learn to embrace the good days, and cope together with the bad days!.
yes your fiance needs you, but you also need to give yourself some time!. dont be afraid to seek help over this!. good luck sweetie!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You've taken the biggest step by seeking help!. Good for you!. You must see a counselor to help sort out your thinking!. A pill will only do so much!. You have to resolve the thought process and decision making that has driven you thus far!.
Work at it; you'll be fine!.
Good Luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Work at it; you'll be fine!.
Good Luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Heart out to you,,dont give up ok,,you certainly arnt ugly,,noboby is,,time ,,time and more time to heal!.xxWww@Answer-Health@Com
I feel exactly the same lots of times!.
First i forgive MYSELF, for not being who i want to be!.
Second, i find a place that is mine and out of bounds for anyone!.
i do a list of things of what i am good at and bad at!.
then, i think to myself that i am worthy of myself!. that i am my greatest treasure!. i love myself!.
i am narcisist and egomaniac, so what!?! i am not too egomaniac or narsistic but still i am!.
i live for myself!. i am my own!. and i am slave to no one but God!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First i forgive MYSELF, for not being who i want to be!.
Second, i find a place that is mine and out of bounds for anyone!.
i do a list of things of what i am good at and bad at!.
then, i think to myself that i am worthy of myself!. that i am my greatest treasure!. i love myself!.
i am narcisist and egomaniac, so what!?! i am not too egomaniac or narsistic but still i am!.
i live for myself!. i am my own!. and i am slave to no one but God!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Being depressed does not prove you are a failure!. It simply proves that you are flesh and blood, a fallible human being who isn't doing to well at this time!. And there is no law in the universe that says you must or that you are condemned to being unhappy at some point in the future!. You don't fight depression by depreciating yourself and making yourself even more depressed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If I'd coped as well with half the stuff you've had going on, I'd be bloody proud of myself!.
I think you've correctly identified that you've reached a limit of tolerance!.!.!. perhaps something we all have to go through at some point in our evolution!. And you've correctly identified there's a path you shouldn't go down!.
Calling yourself depressed won't help!. Taking pills probably won't help!. But give yourself a break!. It's not your fault that your ex- is a psycho!. It's not your fault that your fiance has MS!.
You've even identified the pattern of life throwing problems at you until you crack!. That's exactly what's going on!.
I think I know why this is happening to you but it's not the place for telling you!.
So send me a private message if you're interested!. I'm experimenting with Yahoo Answers and never really thought through what would happen if I found someone who needed just a bit more than what I could type in a box!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you've correctly identified that you've reached a limit of tolerance!.!.!. perhaps something we all have to go through at some point in our evolution!. And you've correctly identified there's a path you shouldn't go down!.
Calling yourself depressed won't help!. Taking pills probably won't help!. But give yourself a break!. It's not your fault that your ex- is a psycho!. It's not your fault that your fiance has MS!.
You've even identified the pattern of life throwing problems at you until you crack!. That's exactly what's going on!.
I think I know why this is happening to you but it's not the place for telling you!.
So send me a private message if you're interested!. I'm experimenting with Yahoo Answers and never really thought through what would happen if I found someone who needed just a bit more than what I could type in a box!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow, I'm really sorry!. Don't think you're stupid for crying and feeling depressed!.!.!. You've gone through a LOT, and I can understand that you would feel depressed!. You know what my favorite quote is, which relates to what you were saying about being afraid to have fun!.!.!.
"Live each day as if there were no tomorrow!."
So basically, just have fun, and live each day like, umm!.!.!. like, a!.!.!. like a mini-vacation! :) Just have fun, focus on your friends, family, things that interest you, and if you need to cry, just!.!.!. cry! Pray (If you are religious, if not, not trying to offend) a lot, and if you feel overwhelmed and depressed, just talk to the person you trust most, even if you cry!. Don't worry about it, really!.!.!. I know, it's hard to cry in front of people, but it's better to have someone's shoulder to cry on then to be alone with this feeling!. Just!.!.!. try really really hard to have fun and cheer up!. And here's another of my favorite quotes!.!.!.
"Never, ever, ever, ever, ever give up!.!.!. Never, ever, ever!."
lol From my favorite movie, Martian Child!. :)
Hope you feel better!.!.!.
*God Bless*Www@Answer-Health@Com
"Live each day as if there were no tomorrow!."
So basically, just have fun, and live each day like, umm!.!.!. like, a!.!.!. like a mini-vacation! :) Just have fun, focus on your friends, family, things that interest you, and if you need to cry, just!.!.!. cry! Pray (If you are religious, if not, not trying to offend) a lot, and if you feel overwhelmed and depressed, just talk to the person you trust most, even if you cry!. Don't worry about it, really!.!.!. I know, it's hard to cry in front of people, but it's better to have someone's shoulder to cry on then to be alone with this feeling!. Just!.!.!. try really really hard to have fun and cheer up!. And here's another of my favorite quotes!.!.!.
"Never, ever, ever, ever, ever give up!.!.!. Never, ever, ever!."
lol From my favorite movie, Martian Child!. :)
Hope you feel better!.!.!.
*God Bless*Www@Answer-Health@Com