Could my past be the cause.. what can i do?!
Question: Could my past be the cause!.!. what can i do!?
When I was about eleven years old, my cousin who was the same age, touched me in inappropriate places!. I figured since we were both young it didn
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I am so sorry to hear this!. I myself have never had this happen to me so I don't know how it feels!. I will try to help you though as best as I can!. I know from the event with your cousin and the two other guys may leave you with unrepairable scars , but you have to realize that all men aren't like this!. You have to look deep into your boyfriend or any man and see what their intentions are !. You have to be sure that they are their for you not for what you can give them!. A decent gentleman should be willing to wait!. You should talk to your boyfriend and make him understand why you are so hesitant!. If he doesn't understand he isn't worth your time!. Stay Strong!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
seek help!. talking about your feelings really helpsWww@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, once victimized you are more likely to be revictimized (see link)
Victims deal with their experiences; with depression, anger at the abuser, and blaming themselves!. And also with trying to bargain with the situation by thinking that the victimizer did not mean to do what he did, or trying to imagine what you could have done to escape (another version of self-blame)!.
However, this doesn't change the fact that you are NOT to BLAME!. The abuser chose to victimize you, and he is the one with a problem!.
What I hope you do is find a way to permanently take yourself off the blame list, women blame themselves and eachother way too much!.
I hope that you take self defense classes, go with a good friend who will help you feel safe- maybe your boyfriend!?
Finally, I hope that you find a way to incorporate all of your experiences into the story of your life!. It is a story of defiance and strength!. Look to other survivors or to the African Americans for an idea of how to turn a humiliating history into a source of strengthWww@Answer-Health@Com
Victims deal with their experiences; with depression, anger at the abuser, and blaming themselves!. And also with trying to bargain with the situation by thinking that the victimizer did not mean to do what he did, or trying to imagine what you could have done to escape (another version of self-blame)!.
However, this doesn't change the fact that you are NOT to BLAME!. The abuser chose to victimize you, and he is the one with a problem!.
What I hope you do is find a way to permanently take yourself off the blame list, women blame themselves and eachother way too much!.
I hope that you take self defense classes, go with a good friend who will help you feel safe- maybe your boyfriend!?
Finally, I hope that you find a way to incorporate all of your experiences into the story of your life!. It is a story of defiance and strength!. Look to other survivors or to the African Americans for an idea of how to turn a humiliating history into a source of strengthWww@Answer-Health@Com
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