Please could yo answer me Question about Anxiety?!


Question: Please could yo answer me Question about Anxiety!?
I am so lonley because i dont socialise and im very depressed!.
When i talk to people im ok for a few minutes but then i start to feel realy tense, anxious and nervous!. Its already taken 8 years of my life and i dont want to be like this anymore because the depression and lonleyness is killing me!.
Its so hard for me to sit in all the time and let life pass me by but its easier than the termoil i go through when i try and socialise!.
Please dont say see your doctor or a councellor because i have done that and this feeling inside me is still here!.

Please if you can help me and are willing to, give me some advice and if you have the time look at some of my other questions i have asked!. Read abit about my background and answer the best you can, i will be so gratefull!. I belive im a good person and will help anyone and do anything for anyone if i can!.
So if you can help please do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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i know what you're going through!. it took me forever to seek out help!. i went to counseling many times in several different years before it ever helped!. i started trying therapy when i was 16 (not by choice at that point) and didn't actually try or stick with it until i was 24!. it took 8 years before i started actually helping myself!.
what did it for me was there was an incident which was the 'straw to break the camel's back' so to speak!. and i didn't eat or anything for a couple of weeks after this thing happened and my work and family were suffering as well!. so i went to a counselor!. and i sat there and didn't talk about much of anything!.!.!.!.for months!. i went every week just as some sort of comfort!. but i never talked about much of anything!. i was really depressed and suicidal!. i had been off and on since 8th grade!. finally, it got so bad that my therapist told me that it would be un-ethical for her to continue seeing me if i didn't agree to go see a doctor!. so ok!. i did it!. and he put me on meds and i stopped taking them and i got worse and he put me back on and i stopped and got worse!.!.!.so this pattern continued for about a year before we found the right combo of medication, which included 2 anti depressants and an anti-anxiety pill for as needed!.
so here i am almost 3!.5 years after i started into therapy!. and to be honest, i still am in therapy!. but i still haven't gotten to so many of the underlining problems because it's really hard to get to them!. it's hard when you understand what is wrong with you and a childhood rape or an abusive relationship that led you to close up!.!.!.it's hard because i feel like i know what's happening in my head so i should be able to fix it on my own!. but i keep trying!.
the point in me saying all this is that one thing isn't going to work for you!. maybe it's therapy, but maybe it isn't!. maybe it's a doctor helping to prescribe the right combination, but maybe it isn't!. maybe you can read and know more about your situation than anyone could imagine, but maybe that won't help either!. the feelings don't just go away!. it's a chemical imbalance and you'll have the problems the rest of your life (even more depressing, isn't it!?)!.
what you have to do now is figure out what works for you!. make a plan!. it might involve going out for coffee at a time when it won't be to crowded!. or start by going to a book store!. i know when i want to go out, but not want to be social, i get in the car and go to Border's!. then i find a good book or magazine and find a place to sit down and read!. you might end up talking to people, but you might not!. the point is, you got out of the house!. maybe ask a friend to go to see a play or movie with you!. again, at a theater, you don't really have to interact with people at all, but you're in a social setting
maybe try therapy again!. like i said, i've been in therapy for over 3 years and barely grazed the worst issues!. but i'm so much better than i was 3 years ago!. if you don't click with your therapist, it won't work, though!. and you'll know after a couple visits if you click!. you might want to look for a therapist who specializes in CBT (cognitive behavior therapy)!. a CBT therapist will help to reshape the thoughts that lead to the anxiety!. also, if you find a good therapist, you can probably find a good doctor through him/her!.
i just weened off of my medication because my future husband and i want to have a baby, but it took a long time to find medication that worked for me!. you have to find someone who will be patient with you!. my doctor never threatened to stop seeing me when i'd call and say things like, 'well!. i'm really awful because i stopped taking my pills two weeks ago!.' people stop and start pills all the time when they are finding the right combination or dealing with the emotional turmoil i went through deciding if i even WANTED to take pills in the first place!. (which i did not)

you're taking the first step by asking for help here!. way to go!. plus you're taking a step by being social on here!. i know it's a computer and it seems like not much!. but it is!. you're reaching out!. try to find other ways to be social without too much one-on-one contact or putting you in an anxious situation!. find ways to help you help yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Depression feeds anxiety disorder, anxiety disorder feeds depression!. If you want to beat them, fight them individually!. I still suffer from anxiety disorder but I'm much better than the first times!. Find something you will really like and make you feel more confident!. I took cooking classes for instance!. I made new friends, cooking was fun and I wasn't "have to" go if you know what I mean (read: no pressure)!. Anxiety disorder after a while becomes a lifestyle!. Like all lifestyles, you can change it but it will take time!.

Good luck! :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

Have you tried any medications!? Effexor XR has worked for me!. I have depression, anxity and panic attacks!. Sometimes in life you need help!. You may have a chemical imbalance that makes it harder for you to be happy!. Plus when you feel tense try this breathing exercise!. Breathe in through your nose and out of your mouth slowly!. This helps to relax your body naturally!. Hope this helps you out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I had the same problem basically i had to just make myself do things life is just to short!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you!. It is called "Act as If!." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing!. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone!. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior!.

Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior!. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy!. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit!.

Try this for a month, in every situation you can!. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing!. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave!. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot"!. But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy)!. Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally!. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often!. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me"!.
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind!.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication!. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger!. Rewind your mistakes!. Let's say you want to change an annoying laugh that you have, when you hear something funny, your old laugh will come out!. You have to immediately think of what you wanted to happen, (i!.e!. your new, practiced laugh) and then do it immediately!. It will be a little bit late, but slowly you will start to pair the two together, and eventually your brain will become conditioned to switch the first for the second!. It usually takes 30 - 40 repetitions, to instill a new habit, with most people, so I estimate a similar amount, in the reprogramming process!.~~~ Loneliness is addressed in section 9, and lessens with effective treatments for depression!. Join mutual interest groups, classes for yoga, t'ai chi, aerobics, Pilates, art, ceramics, self defence, etc!., or do charity work: see sections 38, and 47!. ~~~ Depression: I suggest: (1!.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, (certified free of mercury) with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their freshly squeezed juice!. If vitamin E is used, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!. (2!.) Work up slowly to 30 - 60 minutes of exercise, daily!. (3!.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!. (4!.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!. (5!.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!. (6!.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, or a supplement, such as SAMe, taken with a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55)!.
Read: "Lift your mood now!." by John D Preston, Psy!.D!. 2001, New Harbinger Publications, Inc!., 5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland!. CA 94609 http://www!.amazon!.com/ may be worth trying for this!. I have read many books on depression, but if there is a better, more easily read, and quickly implementable one, I have yet to encounter it!. If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S!.A!.D!.) in section 2, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste)!. Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L)!. It should be above 32 ng/ml!.

Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime!. Omega 3 fish oil supplements: EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid (omega 3) ----360 mg!.DHA (docosahexaenoic acid (omega 3)-----240 mg
Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant!.
(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults!.!.!. kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions!.

Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test!. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve!.

If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the neurofeedback, magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see section 33, at ezy build) keeping ECT back, as a last resort!. There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider!. With depression, there is a choice of possible treatment types which needs to be made, and you can decide to use either allopathy, (modern Western medicine) with its reliance on antidepressants and therapy, or alternative treatments, which I advise trying first!. This is because antidepressants are known to increase the rates of suicide, homicide, and aberrent behavio(u)r, particularly with young people, and often have unwanted side effects, such as sexual dysfunction, and/or weight gain!.

Tests have shown that apart from clinical (major) depression, their results were not significantly superior to those taking a placebo (inert, or "sugar pill")!. Antidepressants retain a degree of long term effectiveness for only around 30% of people!. There is a saying in the mental health field: "If the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail"!. So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to manage their large list of patients, and often allocating only several minutes to each!.

Most of them are only trained to provide antidepressants and referrals for therapy, with those whose depression is resistant to those treatments being advised to have ElectroConvulsive Therapy, (ECT) with its risk of permanent, partial memory loss!. Therapy, while often effective at first, becomes "same old, same old" after a while, for many people!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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