Is my life rreeaallyy messed up?!
Question: Is my life rreeaallyy messed up!?
im twelve years old!. i have alot of friends!. my grades are average!. im not that pretty!.
everythings fine!.!.!.right!?
well its not!. my dads an alcoholic!. everynight he comes home drunk and passes out on the couch!. he makes my life misserable! hes the scariest person on earth when hes drunk!. he sent my mom to the hospital 4 years ago!. after that, she moved out and i never saw her again!. he threw a bike at my 16 year old brother!! i was in the way and ended up getting trapped beneath the seat, with the pedal holding me down!. just a month ago, he hit me!. he hit me because we were arguing!. i was really scared and wanted to call someone for help!. when he saw the phone in my hand, he ripped it out and threw me across the room!. (literally)
i dont know what to do now!. my dads gonna file a divorce to my mom in a couple of weeks!. he said that i get to choose who i want to live with!. i'd rather live with a hobo!. my dads a drunk child abuser, and my moms a gambling drug addict!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
everythings fine!.!.!.right!?
well its not!. my dads an alcoholic!. everynight he comes home drunk and passes out on the couch!. he makes my life misserable! hes the scariest person on earth when hes drunk!. he sent my mom to the hospital 4 years ago!. after that, she moved out and i never saw her again!. he threw a bike at my 16 year old brother!! i was in the way and ended up getting trapped beneath the seat, with the pedal holding me down!. just a month ago, he hit me!. he hit me because we were arguing!. i was really scared and wanted to call someone for help!. when he saw the phone in my hand, he ripped it out and threw me across the room!. (literally)
i dont know what to do now!. my dads gonna file a divorce to my mom in a couple of weeks!. he said that i get to choose who i want to live with!. i'd rather live with a hobo!. my dads a drunk child abuser, and my moms a gambling drug addict!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Do you have a teacher or counselor at school you can trust!? Do you go to church and have someone there you can trust!?
You need to tell someone you trust what's going on at home with your Dad; someone trustworthy needs to know about your Dad's drinking and his violence!. It's not safe for you to be at home with him, especially now that he's turned the violence towards you!.
You also have to think of what might happen if your Dad had to come pick you up from school one day!. What would you do if he showed up at school to get you -- and he was drunk!? Would you get in the car with him!? You could get hurt or even killed if you did!. But, if you didn't go with him, you could get in even worse trouble when you got home!. You can't win for losing!.
For one thing ~ the next time you're arguing and you want to call someone for help and you get the phone in your hands ~ dial 911 as fast as you can!. That way, if he rips the phone out again, hopefully it will have connected with 911 first, and they'll try to call back to see if everything is OK!.
If 911 calls back and no one answers the phone, they'll have to send someone to the house to check and see if everyone in the house is OK!. It may be the only chance you have to get the Police there while he's drunk and being violent!.
When the Police show up, you start shouting at the cops that your Dad is drunk and threatening you with physical violence!. That will get their attention, and they will try to help you!. The most important thing is that you do whatever it takes to make sure you remain safe!. Whatever it takes!. Even if it means you have to send your Dad to jail!.
If nothing else, there's a possibility you might get to talk to the Judge if the Divorce goes to Court!. If that happens, you might get a chance to tell the Judge who you want to go live with!. In that case, you can tell the Judge the truth: tell the Judge your father is a physically abusive alcoholic, and your mother is a drug addict with a gambling habit!. Tell the Judge you're afraid to live with either one of them!.
Just so you know: that may mean you'd have to go to a Foster Family for a bit while they check to see if either your Mom or Dad are fit parents; but, it might be worth it just to make sure you'd be safe in the future!. No one should have to grow up being afraid their Dad is going to beat them!.
I wish I could make this all better for you, but I can't!. Childhood should be a time for fun, a time for learning and growing and changing, not a time for fear and intimidation!. I'm sorry you're having to go through all of this!. I know it doesn't help any, but try to remember that this will all make you a stronger person for the future!. You're going to be one tough little lady when you get a little older!.
Be careful, and take care of yourself!. Talk to your brother, and see what he's going to do, who's he going to choose to live with, and stick close to him!. He can help protect you, too!.
MinPinWww@Answer-Health@Com
You need to tell someone you trust what's going on at home with your Dad; someone trustworthy needs to know about your Dad's drinking and his violence!. It's not safe for you to be at home with him, especially now that he's turned the violence towards you!.
You also have to think of what might happen if your Dad had to come pick you up from school one day!. What would you do if he showed up at school to get you -- and he was drunk!? Would you get in the car with him!? You could get hurt or even killed if you did!. But, if you didn't go with him, you could get in even worse trouble when you got home!. You can't win for losing!.
For one thing ~ the next time you're arguing and you want to call someone for help and you get the phone in your hands ~ dial 911 as fast as you can!. That way, if he rips the phone out again, hopefully it will have connected with 911 first, and they'll try to call back to see if everything is OK!.
If 911 calls back and no one answers the phone, they'll have to send someone to the house to check and see if everyone in the house is OK!. It may be the only chance you have to get the Police there while he's drunk and being violent!.
When the Police show up, you start shouting at the cops that your Dad is drunk and threatening you with physical violence!. That will get their attention, and they will try to help you!. The most important thing is that you do whatever it takes to make sure you remain safe!. Whatever it takes!. Even if it means you have to send your Dad to jail!.
If nothing else, there's a possibility you might get to talk to the Judge if the Divorce goes to Court!. If that happens, you might get a chance to tell the Judge who you want to go live with!. In that case, you can tell the Judge the truth: tell the Judge your father is a physically abusive alcoholic, and your mother is a drug addict with a gambling habit!. Tell the Judge you're afraid to live with either one of them!.
Just so you know: that may mean you'd have to go to a Foster Family for a bit while they check to see if either your Mom or Dad are fit parents; but, it might be worth it just to make sure you'd be safe in the future!. No one should have to grow up being afraid their Dad is going to beat them!.
I wish I could make this all better for you, but I can't!. Childhood should be a time for fun, a time for learning and growing and changing, not a time for fear and intimidation!. I'm sorry you're having to go through all of this!. I know it doesn't help any, but try to remember that this will all make you a stronger person for the future!. You're going to be one tough little lady when you get a little older!.
Be careful, and take care of yourself!. Talk to your brother, and see what he's going to do, who's he going to choose to live with, and stick close to him!. He can help protect you, too!.
MinPinWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think you need to talk to a school counselor about this and get help!. Print this out if you need to and take it with you!.
Is there a good relative you can live with!? Hopefully there are other options for you!. You need to be in a safe place, even if it's not with your parents!. You shouldn't have to be afraid!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Is there a good relative you can live with!? Hopefully there are other options for you!. You need to be in a safe place, even if it's not with your parents!. You shouldn't have to be afraid!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Forgiveness is extremely helpful, in such a predicament!.
I don't mean to say "I forgive you!." I mean an inner type!. And when it's complete, many years later, you can say so!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't mean to say "I forgive you!." I mean an inner type!. And when it's complete, many years later, you can say so!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
tell the judge that!. you can go into foster care which might not work out either or see if a relative or friend will take you in!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
your story is so deep!.
I am a mom of a 14 and 7 year old and I cannot imagine putting my children through all of this drama!.
You need to choose whoever is best for you but you also should seek help from a friend or family member that you can confide totally in so that they can intervene and get you out of this horrible situation!.
Your dad is a drunk because of something he has been through in life and he is passing this disgusting pattern onto his family!. You do not deserve this!.
You need to be with someone who offers you a stable environment, a loving home and a safe home!. You can always call the police and report his behavior!.
I will be thinking of you!. Stay strong and know that what you are going through now is not how your life will always beWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am a mom of a 14 and 7 year old and I cannot imagine putting my children through all of this drama!.
You need to choose whoever is best for you but you also should seek help from a friend or family member that you can confide totally in so that they can intervene and get you out of this horrible situation!.
Your dad is a drunk because of something he has been through in life and he is passing this disgusting pattern onto his family!. You do not deserve this!.
You need to be with someone who offers you a stable environment, a loving home and a safe home!. You can always call the police and report his behavior!.
I will be thinking of you!. Stay strong and know that what you are going through now is not how your life will always beWww@Answer-Health@Com
Your story made me cry!.
I say to choose your mom for now if you have no other choice, but you need to talk to someone about this!. Talk to the teachers at school for help!. Then ask if you can call another relative, say, an aunt or your grandparents!? Ask your friends if it would be possible if you could stay with them!.
No one should go through this!. You need to call the authority in this department, not from home, but at school or a friends, where you'll be safe from harm as you do so!. You shouldn't have to be afraid!.
I wish you the best of luck, sweetie, and I'll pray for your well being!.
God bless you!. =]
BTW, if you need someone else to talk to, you can email me!.
~HyuuWww@Answer-Health@Com
I say to choose your mom for now if you have no other choice, but you need to talk to someone about this!. Talk to the teachers at school for help!. Then ask if you can call another relative, say, an aunt or your grandparents!? Ask your friends if it would be possible if you could stay with them!.
No one should go through this!. You need to call the authority in this department, not from home, but at school or a friends, where you'll be safe from harm as you do so!. You shouldn't have to be afraid!.
I wish you the best of luck, sweetie, and I'll pray for your well being!.
God bless you!. =]
BTW, if you need someone else to talk to, you can email me!.
~HyuuWww@Answer-Health@Com
Babe, please go see your guidance counselor at school!. Whatever you tell him/her is completely confidential, and s/he'll be able to give you good, real advice as to how to deal with your situation!. You don't have to live with wither of them if you don't want to, but that will entail either having a relative who will take you in or going to foster care!.
I know what it's like to have an alcoholic, abusive parent, be hit, and get messed with in the head!. Take care of your and talk to your counselor or another adult you can trust!. It's the best thing you can do now, and please take care of you!. There's a lot of love for you out there in the world, just know that you deserve it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know what it's like to have an alcoholic, abusive parent, be hit, and get messed with in the head!. Take care of your and talk to your counselor or another adult you can trust!. It's the best thing you can do now, and please take care of you!. There's a lot of love for you out there in the world, just know that you deserve it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you have a school counselor you need to discuss this with them so that you have an advocate for yourself when court proceedings begin!. Your needs to be taken care of first and foremost!. At this point, child protective services should be called to start a file to present a the divorce proceedings to make sure the right decision is made!. Do you feel safe living there in the meanwhile!? If not, are any of your friends parents someone you can talk to, maybe let you stay there for the time being!? Again though you need to have someone like Child Protective Services involved or your father can report you as a runaway!. At any rate, you need to share this with someone, and make sure you are safe!. If you do decide to move out, ask the police to be there while you get your stuff, your father may be fine, or this may drive him over the edge so to speak!. Take care of yourself, and don't listen to promises of I'm sorry, it won't happen again, it always does!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You really shouldn't be living with either of your parents then!. It seems like they're not able to raise a child!. So you need to tell someone; how about a teacher or counselor at school!? They'll probably tell the correct authorities and you'll be safe!. Doesn't that sound great!? So just tell someone!. You may end up not seeing your parents, but if you have a better life, then I think it's worth it!. No child should have to be put through that!. Abuse, drug addicts, gambling addicts, none of that!.
And no, your life isn't ruined!. You can learn from your parents mistakes and grow up to be a better person!. That's what I do!. When my parents do something I really hate, which is quite often, I just say to myself that I never want to be that way when I get older!. So make something good out of it!. Your life is what you make it, and you're too young for all that to affect you!. You still have a long life ahead of you!. But you do need to get help by telling someone!. Alright!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
And no, your life isn't ruined!. You can learn from your parents mistakes and grow up to be a better person!. That's what I do!. When my parents do something I really hate, which is quite often, I just say to myself that I never want to be that way when I get older!. So make something good out of it!. Your life is what you make it, and you're too young for all that to affect you!. You still have a long life ahead of you!. But you do need to get help by telling someone!. Alright!?Www@Answer-Health@Com