Shy & mildly embarrassed?!
Question: Shy & mildly embarrassed!?
I'm very shy and sometimes don't know how to react in certain situations!. I've noticed that I will smile and lower my head when I'm mildly embarrassed!. This usually happens when someone:
1!.) Draws positive attention towards me
2!.) Playfully teases or tries to joke with me
3!.) Compliments me (though I say a quiet thank you, I still lower my head as I'm doing it)
How do you think others view my mild embarrassment and reactions!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
1!.) Draws positive attention towards me
2!.) Playfully teases or tries to joke with me
3!.) Compliments me (though I say a quiet thank you, I still lower my head as I'm doing it)
How do you think others view my mild embarrassment and reactions!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I am extremely aggressive and assertive!. I think people lke you are so cute! I just want to cuddle them!. Don't worry, it's the loud mouths like be that put people off!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
there is nothing to worry about your behaviour in fact coincidently one of my friends also behaves in the same manner!. i like his behaviour!. I think the reason behind this kind of behaviour might be you are thinking a lot about what others are thinking about you, how you are looking, what the other person is thinking about you!.
if someone draws positive attention towards you there is nothing to feel shy or embarrased but you should feel that ther other person is respecting your presence you also give him the appropriate responce
if someone teases or tries to joke with you and if he/she is your friend it is all right!. in friends circle it often happens and it is quite acceptable!. actually you should enjoy the joke and respond them with a smile!. nothing to feel that they are doing all such things to embarrass you!.
if someone compliments you why shold you lower your head!. In fact you should feel proud that you are being given compliments!. you should thank god for that and respect the compliments!. someone is complimenting you because you deserve it!. No one has complimented me ever!.
Dear friend You have to stand up for yourself and develop a strong sense of self- esteem!. Don't be swayed by others develop your own individual style and value system!.
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if someone draws positive attention towards you there is nothing to feel shy or embarrased but you should feel that ther other person is respecting your presence you also give him the appropriate responce
if someone teases or tries to joke with you and if he/she is your friend it is all right!. in friends circle it often happens and it is quite acceptable!. actually you should enjoy the joke and respond them with a smile!. nothing to feel that they are doing all such things to embarrass you!.
if someone compliments you why shold you lower your head!. In fact you should feel proud that you are being given compliments!. you should thank god for that and respect the compliments!. someone is complimenting you because you deserve it!. No one has complimented me ever!.
Dear friend You have to stand up for yourself and develop a strong sense of self- esteem!. Don't be swayed by others develop your own individual style and value system!.
you can contact me on my e-mail id
prafull_student@yahoo!.co!.inWww@Answer-Health@Com
I use to be the same as you too!.You get nervous don't you!? Yeah i know i use to too!.I got over by talking to people on myspace!.I know it sounds stupid but i talked to my family or strangers online for the longest time!.That made me want to talk more in person!.If someone does say a joke about you learn how to laugh along!.I use to stay quiet too when ever a joke was brought to me!.I learned how to laugh with it even tough i didn't say a word!.Hope i helped :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would view you as being shy and mildly embarrassed! Don't think everyone thinks the worst of people all the time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Whats your name and number!.!.!.!.im just playing, but im the same way though, so its cool and your not alone!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you!. It is called "Act as If!." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing!. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone!. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior!.
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior!. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy!. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit!.
Try this for a month, in every situation you can!. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing!. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave!. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot"!. But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy)!. Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally!. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often!. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me"!.
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind!.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication!. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger!. Rewind your mistakes!. Let's say you want to change an annoying laugh that you have, when you hear something funny, your old laugh will come out!. You have to immediately think of what you wanted to happen, (i!.e!. your new, practiced laugh) and then do it immediately!. It will be a little bit late, but slowly you will start to pair the two together, and eventually your brain will become conditioned to switch the first for the second!. It usually takes 30 - 40 repetitions, to instill a new habit, with most people, so I estimate a similar amount, in the reprogramming process!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior!. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy!. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit!.
Try this for a month, in every situation you can!. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing!. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave!. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot"!. But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy)!. Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally!. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often!. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me"!.
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind!.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication!. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger!. Rewind your mistakes!. Let's say you want to change an annoying laugh that you have, when you hear something funny, your old laugh will come out!. You have to immediately think of what you wanted to happen, (i!.e!. your new, practiced laugh) and then do it immediately!. It will be a little bit late, but slowly you will start to pair the two together, and eventually your brain will become conditioned to switch the first for the second!. It usually takes 30 - 40 repetitions, to instill a new habit, with most people, so I estimate a similar amount, in the reprogramming process!.Www@Answer-Health@Com