What would you do in this type of situation?!
Question: What would you do in this type of situation!?
i am 36yrs old and engaged, we have been together over 2yrs!. i am bipolar II ultra rapid-cycling and borderline personality disorder with histrionic traits!. i am in therapy and take tons of meds!.
my issue is this!.!.!.my fiance ex-wife! we hate each other to no end! there is no way of resolving that! it is to the point i have wished bad things upon her! (yes even death) which i know is wrong!!! but i just get so sick of the phone calls to my fiance asking if he need her to pick up eggs because they are on sale!.!.!.wtf! i take care of this house! she is an alcoholic and the worst thing is they have 2 boys!. (8 & 6yrs old) she has told them not to listen to me, she calls me hussy in front of them!. she is 29yrs old and i feel like i am back in high school playing childish games!. i told my fiance last night that i truly wish something would happen to her!. i mean if she has money it goes for her alcohol!.!.!.NOT the boys! she cusses at them!. the youngest has said fu**ing and laughing my *** offWww@Answer-Health@Com
my issue is this!.!.!.my fiance ex-wife! we hate each other to no end! there is no way of resolving that! it is to the point i have wished bad things upon her! (yes even death) which i know is wrong!!! but i just get so sick of the phone calls to my fiance asking if he need her to pick up eggs because they are on sale!.!.!.wtf! i take care of this house! she is an alcoholic and the worst thing is they have 2 boys!. (8 & 6yrs old) she has told them not to listen to me, she calls me hussy in front of them!. she is 29yrs old and i feel like i am back in high school playing childish games!. i told my fiance last night that i truly wish something would happen to her!. i mean if she has money it goes for her alcohol!.!.!.NOT the boys! she cusses at them!. the youngest has said fu**ing and laughing my *** offWww@Answer-Health@Com
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Dang girl! She sounds like my Hubbies EX! Being a step Mom is a tough job!. I have a step daughter with a wacky mother to deal with so I feel your pain!. Seems like your doing a great job so keep it up and stay strong!. Dealing with this as well, I will tell you she is the one with the problem NOT you!. She is the one with issues because she knows you are there for her kids ans seems she dont like it much so she is giving you a hard time (probably hoping you'll "fold" and leave)
Stay strong! Hold your head high and be there for the kids! Discipline as you feel is needed!.!.!.they will appreciate it later on!.
Wishing you luck and feeling this way toward her is normal (I feel it too) But remember your the one holding the "best" cards!.!.!.!.just learn how to use them and DONT fold!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Stay strong! Hold your head high and be there for the kids! Discipline as you feel is needed!.!.!.they will appreciate it later on!.
Wishing you luck and feeling this way toward her is normal (I feel it too) But remember your the one holding the "best" cards!.!.!.!.just learn how to use them and DONT fold!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
o_O move to another stateWww@Answer-Health@Com
if you like your fiance,you have to get along with his wife,not to be friendly but be respectful,because she still mother of his kids,you have to tell her maybe we don;t like each other,but for kids sake lets be civil next to kids,it is not your job to tell kids what to do your job to be more like a Friend that is why they have mother and the father to discipline them not you!.you just have to be sweet and loving to them!. wishing bad thinks on her that is not good,because every time you wish that it will come back to you ten times fold,be careful what you wish for you might get it ,good luck to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Disengage and detangle!. She is playing you and succeeding in pulling you down to her level!. She is making you miserable, and in turn you are probably taking it out on your fiance, which most likely is her end game!. So, back off!. Take a long walk!. Don't talk to her!. She is your fiance's problem!. Let him deal with her!. Over time, ask him kindly to stop responding to her less immediate needs!. He has kids with her, so he can't just ignore her completely!. If she goes completely over the edge, he can sue for custody, but until then, she remains part of the scenery!. Instead of getting high strung crazy, intentionally go in a room and meditate when she calls or go for that long walk if she comes around!. You have your own health to consider!.
As for the kids, be warm to them and don't down talk their mom!. She is their mom despite her failings!. Ask your fiance to make it clear that they are not to swear in your home!. Let him be the disciplinarian!. As time goes by and they come to know and respect you more, you can take on a greater role, but for now your relationship will be better if you are just a warm, loving, and stable person to them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As for the kids, be warm to them and don't down talk their mom!. She is their mom despite her failings!. Ask your fiance to make it clear that they are not to swear in your home!. Let him be the disciplinarian!. As time goes by and they come to know and respect you more, you can take on a greater role, but for now your relationship will be better if you are just a warm, loving, and stable person to them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
its a hard situation, i dont know how to answer it really, i wish bad things on my fiance
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