How can I get good self esteem?!
Question: How can I get good self esteem!?
I am a 13 year old 1st of all!. I am a guy!. I have lots of friends but for some reason I have never liked my looks, face, body, athletic skills,way i talk, or my hairstyle!. I am very popular at school and lots of people talk to me and most girls in skool even called me hot and cute, but still I feel like Im ugly!. How ca i GOOD self esteem!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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You can boost your self-esteem by playing a sport or setting a schedule!? It always gets rid of my nerves whenever I after spend the weekend playing tennis or just hanging out with my friends!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When I accomplish something that I have worked very hard to accomplish, I feel terrific about myself!.
When I master some material, concept, problem, I feel great!
When I do something nice for others, when I go out of my way to pick up something that someone has dropped, when I look for & then dare to say something good to a total stranger, when I stand up for what is right (for instance, defending the nerdy kid from bullies), even if I stand alone, I have a feeling of self esteem that will *never* come from looking at a mirror, or thinking about/caring about the critical and arbitrary opinions of my peers!.
13 can be tough!. You can make it less so by studying hard, doing your best in school, focusing less on yourself, more on others!.
Some day, most of these "friends" won't matter any more!. What have you done to invest in the lasting things: your family, your future!? Don't end your life looking back and wishing you'd made different choices!. You can make the right ones now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When I master some material, concept, problem, I feel great!
When I do something nice for others, when I go out of my way to pick up something that someone has dropped, when I look for & then dare to say something good to a total stranger, when I stand up for what is right (for instance, defending the nerdy kid from bullies), even if I stand alone, I have a feeling of self esteem that will *never* come from looking at a mirror, or thinking about/caring about the critical and arbitrary opinions of my peers!.
13 can be tough!. You can make it less so by studying hard, doing your best in school, focusing less on yourself, more on others!.
Some day, most of these "friends" won't matter any more!. What have you done to invest in the lasting things: your family, your future!? Don't end your life looking back and wishing you'd made different choices!. You can make the right ones now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is an age issue!. We all went through an awkward stage!. But remember time will change you!. You can practice sports!. You can work out, start small thought!. In my school we were not allowed to start lifting until we were freshman!. Even us girls loved lifting it was a way to keep healthy!. You can stop and look at your personal style!. Maybe you need a change!. Start off small or if you think you need it, make a big splash!. I would also suggest perhaps talking to a counselor!. But self esteem cannot be changed overnight!. It take little to destroy it, alot to build it back upWww@Answer-Health@Com
How do the people at home (parents, siblings) treat you!? If THOSE people you know best and who are supposed to be the nicest to you are NOT (calling you names, criticizing all the time), then it's hard to develop good self-esteem!.
Try some short-term counseling, to get at the reason WHY you feel this way about yourself, and the counselor can also give you some ways to overcome this!.
Some things you can do now are:
- Take a good look at the people who make you feel bad and if possible, tell them how you feel and ask them to stop!.
- Keep a journal, in which you record how you feel and when!. If it's negative, write down a statement that contradicts it, such as: (if you wrote, "I feel ugly", write "I'm handsome!")!. Write down things you like about yourself, including your personality, intelligence, skills and talents!.
- Use positive "self-talk"!. it sounds loony, but silently tell yourself, every morning and throughout the day, "I'm a good person", "I'm attractive", "I like myself", etc!.
Soon, you will start to feel better!. But you need to get rid of people around who try to bring you down!
In my search (see below) I noticed that several sites on self esteem suggested doing something meaningful, like volunteering and helping others!. That's true--it really DOES make you feel better about yourself!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try some short-term counseling, to get at the reason WHY you feel this way about yourself, and the counselor can also give you some ways to overcome this!.
Some things you can do now are:
- Take a good look at the people who make you feel bad and if possible, tell them how you feel and ask them to stop!.
- Keep a journal, in which you record how you feel and when!. If it's negative, write down a statement that contradicts it, such as: (if you wrote, "I feel ugly", write "I'm handsome!")!. Write down things you like about yourself, including your personality, intelligence, skills and talents!.
- Use positive "self-talk"!. it sounds loony, but silently tell yourself, every morning and throughout the day, "I'm a good person", "I'm attractive", "I like myself", etc!.
Soon, you will start to feel better!. But you need to get rid of people around who try to bring you down!
In my search (see below) I noticed that several sites on self esteem suggested doing something meaningful, like volunteering and helping others!. That's true--it really DOES make you feel better about yourself!Www@Answer-Health@Com
well for one your 13 so you have to realize that everyone else around you is feeling the exact same way as you!. Nobody likes the way they look in school and its the most low self-esteem time of your life!. My advice would be to stop over evaluating every little detail about you, if you stare at a super model for long enough your bound to see flaws also!. You have friends and from what you say a very high status in school, be happy!. Even if you arent perfect, from what it sounds like people love you for you and i dont know why you would want to change that!. Good luck, and dont worry it gets better ;o)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Get a haircut, eat fruits & vegtables, exercise, look in the mirror 2 weeks later!. First don't look at yourself at all in the mirror for atleast 2 weeks, then look in the mirror & see how you look b/c most of the time te person worried about thier looks are looking at things ppl don't notice!. Cus you know your body more than they do!. But!.!. if you are 5 ft or 4ft and weigh 300 or 250 pounds w/o muscle!.!.!. don't kid yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Exercise and work on continuous self improvement!. If you constantly work to improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually you will build great self esteem with confidence!.
Always keep a positive state of mind and avoid listening to/believing naysayers because you will come across them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Always keep a positive state of mind and avoid listening to/believing naysayers because you will come across them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
A lot of it is just feeling good about yourself!. Self deprecation is pretty normal for someone your age, but one thing I recommend is finding one good thing about yourself a day and focusing on that!. It'll make you feel better!. Also, listen when people give you compliments!. If they are unsolicited, that means they are true!. ;)Www@Answer-Health@Com
You must take control of the situation and tell yourself that you are worthy and worthwhile!. Look at people that are not very attractive like Paris Hilton, Sarah Jessica Parker, etc!. They exude confidence, even though there are scores of women that are better looking than they are!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As for you hair-change your style-spike it up(only if its short)
body-try working out
Try saying or thinking this before you go to school or anywhere or even when you feel down!.
"I am me,I am me,I am me,I am me" and so on untill you feel confident!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
body-try working out
Try saying or thinking this before you go to school or anywhere or even when you feel down!.
"I am me,I am me,I am me,I am me" and so on untill you feel confident!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well you need to like yourself on the inside and you will naturally feel good on the outside!. If people think you are cool and have a good personality, then looks don't really matter!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Take up a hobby, and get so good at it, that you could impress anyone!. Even the experts!. It would be a good way to transit into a career when you're older also!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well that's something that most, if not all, teenagers go through! As you get older you will strat to gain confidence because you'll realise that you actually are good looking etc!.!.!.
Just stick it out!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just stick it out!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to learn to trust the people at school!.
Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself your great!.
You can't thrive on looks hun!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself your great!.
You can't thrive on looks hun!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
prettend that you love yourslef
eventually you would realize that you are no longer prettending and that you really love yourself!!!!1Www@Answer-Health@Com
eventually you would realize that you are no longer prettending and that you really love yourself!!!!1Www@Answer-Health@Com
You just have to realize that you are good just how you are!. Everyone has imperfections but we are exactly how we should be!. God made no mistakes!. God just made us all differant!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Be yourself, believe in yourself, still look at yourself another way! You aren't ugly!Www@Answer-Health@Com
may be you can list the things about you that you like and go from thereWww@Answer-Health@Com
Ecstasy!.!.!.
!.!.!.only joking!Www@Answer-Health@Com
!.!.!.only joking!Www@Answer-Health@Com
sounds like they like your personality!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
think good about urself
dont b so negativeWww@Answer-Health@Com
dont b so negativeWww@Answer-Health@Com
just believe in ur self!.if that doesnt work talk 2 ur school counsellor mayb he or she can help u!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's good to be humble!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
look for someone to compliment youWww@Answer-Health@Com