Would you rather be in the cradle with the room empty or in the room with the cr!
Question: Would you rather be in the cradle with the room empty or in the room with the cradle empty!?
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Well i have had a child die young so i would have to say in the cradle with the room empty as if i had my baby if he would of lived i would be happy and content!.To have a empty cradle in almost unbearable and the pain goes in the heart and brain every 3 minutes!.!.Good question Love child!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I married a man who lost a 14 mo old infant brother, just a year before we began dating!. He became emotionally detached, a hyper-vigilant, difficult parent as a result and that made my parenting and our son's life that much more difficult!. Who can foresee these things in your future when you marry at 19!.
The loss devastated that family and left an irreparable hole of pain, and resultant behaviors strewn throughout their lifetime!. (None sought counseling)!.
Then after our first child was born with a congenital birth defect, hubby and I decided to make him our only child and we opted (at the ripe old age of 27) to permanently prevent further births and further recurrance!.
With all this in mind, I can still only partially understand the "empty cradle" feelings you speak of and relate to the sorrow and the lasting trauma, loneliness and pain of losing your own child!.
The "being in the cradle with the room empty" part of your question is about unmet physical or emotional, abandonment issues!.
Like you, I, too, have lived this one, abandoned emotionally at the age of 4 by a mom overwhelmed with her second child's significant birth defects and consequent surgeries, and ongoing needs!.
So my answer to your question would be that as much pain and sorrow and lasting effects I have suffered from my own abandonment issues, I would opt for it rather than suffer the agony of the loss of my own child!.
Each of us has our own stories in life and things to challenge us and to overcome somehow!.
I am so sorry for your loss!. I wish for you, comfort and healing!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The loss devastated that family and left an irreparable hole of pain, and resultant behaviors strewn throughout their lifetime!. (None sought counseling)!.
Then after our first child was born with a congenital birth defect, hubby and I decided to make him our only child and we opted (at the ripe old age of 27) to permanently prevent further births and further recurrance!.
With all this in mind, I can still only partially understand the "empty cradle" feelings you speak of and relate to the sorrow and the lasting trauma, loneliness and pain of losing your own child!.
The "being in the cradle with the room empty" part of your question is about unmet physical or emotional, abandonment issues!.
Like you, I, too, have lived this one, abandoned emotionally at the age of 4 by a mom overwhelmed with her second child's significant birth defects and consequent surgeries, and ongoing needs!.
So my answer to your question would be that as much pain and sorrow and lasting effects I have suffered from my own abandonment issues, I would opt for it rather than suffer the agony of the loss of my own child!.
Each of us has our own stories in life and things to challenge us and to overcome somehow!.
I am so sorry for your loss!. I wish for you, comfort and healing!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I can only answer from an experience I had only begun to tell you, Lovechilde : I was the "Older" Child, or returned to be "little babe" who somehow, nearly moribund of spirit and loss of Life-Blood, WAS in the EMPTY ROOM, in the painful, yet little cage of relief, as my REFUGE, once when I was very young!.
There were others in that empty room, almost at all times, but my eyes had returned to that milky slate blue half-blindness, of the the new born!. I saw nothing I would UNDERSTANDABLY recollect later!. I still do not completely!.
Ah - that was a journey!.!.!.past the Present that was - past the PAST that had careened me with the force of a hurricane into the Hellish of SUCH a journey - Which NO child should ever have to make!.
At times, I do remember questions and shadows all blended into an amorphous mass!.!.!.I thought IT the ENEMY itself, As well, as "the Monster" had been!. (the difference i could not tell!.!.!.!.!.)
And I fought!
Fought with teeth and kicks, and nails and spittle, flung at the extremities I thought were the tentacled extensions of a Clawing Shiva, who'd turned Malevolent!.
For me the room was relievedly empty!.!.!.no one knew, why I had withdrawn!.
I understood the questions asked of me repeatedly, at times, with desperation - BUT - I responded in a babble!.!.!.The "OLDER Child" could not speak past a baby's gurgle, a near death-rattle!.!.!.or so I MUST have been hoping!.!.!.it'd become, as A release!.!.!.
Yes, NOW - 24 years past that journey through formless refuge, yet refuge it was - I am grateful for the Empty Room with the occupied Cradle!.!.!.and yet, Now the cradle IS empty but I am in a far more PRESENT, near Beautiful Room, PREPARED to stay!
Thank you for this question, Lovechilde, reader of minds!
Your friend,
Grecia!.
Dear Lovechild : As my Buddhist teacher taught me : Embrace all aspects of your life with responsibility and courage!. You shoh how much! Please be constant to that!.
If you'll allow me, may I be excused this time from entering that bit of faded experience from competition!?!?!?
I am not writing to t your questions for points!.!.!.I never do!
I simply respond to what I feel I should!.
What I tell you is because I was wondering myself about some great big pieces of a puzzle so oddly shaped!.!.!.waiting by the board!. You have helped me place them where they painfully SO belonged that, not to be recognized by their own selves, they changed form!!!
And NOW, officially do I withdraw from competing from this question's vote!.
Thank you Lovechilde!!!
Carry on with Courage!!!
Grecia!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There were others in that empty room, almost at all times, but my eyes had returned to that milky slate blue half-blindness, of the the new born!. I saw nothing I would UNDERSTANDABLY recollect later!. I still do not completely!.
Ah - that was a journey!.!.!.past the Present that was - past the PAST that had careened me with the force of a hurricane into the Hellish of SUCH a journey - Which NO child should ever have to make!.
At times, I do remember questions and shadows all blended into an amorphous mass!.!.!.I thought IT the ENEMY itself, As well, as "the Monster" had been!. (the difference i could not tell!.!.!.!.!.)
And I fought!
Fought with teeth and kicks, and nails and spittle, flung at the extremities I thought were the tentacled extensions of a Clawing Shiva, who'd turned Malevolent!.
For me the room was relievedly empty!.!.!.no one knew, why I had withdrawn!.
I understood the questions asked of me repeatedly, at times, with desperation - BUT - I responded in a babble!.!.!.The "OLDER Child" could not speak past a baby's gurgle, a near death-rattle!.!.!.or so I MUST have been hoping!.!.!.it'd become, as A release!.!.!.
Yes, NOW - 24 years past that journey through formless refuge, yet refuge it was - I am grateful for the Empty Room with the occupied Cradle!.!.!.and yet, Now the cradle IS empty but I am in a far more PRESENT, near Beautiful Room, PREPARED to stay!
Thank you for this question, Lovechilde, reader of minds!
Your friend,
Grecia!.
Dear Lovechild : As my Buddhist teacher taught me : Embrace all aspects of your life with responsibility and courage!. You shoh how much! Please be constant to that!.
If you'll allow me, may I be excused this time from entering that bit of faded experience from competition!?!?!?
I am not writing to t your questions for points!.!.!.I never do!
I simply respond to what I feel I should!.
What I tell you is because I was wondering myself about some great big pieces of a puzzle so oddly shaped!.!.!.waiting by the board!. You have helped me place them where they painfully SO belonged that, not to be recognized by their own selves, they changed form!!!
And NOW, officially do I withdraw from competing from this question's vote!.
Thank you Lovechilde!!!
Carry on with Courage!!!
Grecia!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That question, seen by the wrong person, could be very painful!.
As I see it, the question is rather pointless, and should probably be asked in Polls & Surveys anyway!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As I see it, the question is rather pointless, and should probably be asked in Polls & Surveys anyway!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you know i would rather be in the room with the cradle empty!.!.!.i come to terms that i cant have kids many many years ago!.!.!.by the way this question was in NO way painful for me!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Room empty!. Then I can finally get some sleep!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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