I can't take it anymore!?!
Question: I can't take it anymore!!?
I guess I could begin a year ago!. See my mother past away on April 15th, 2007!. And ever since then i have felt very lonely!. I am kinda overweight and have always felt that no one, i mean girls, would ever like me!. I finally got a girlfriend on valentine's day of '08 and now she is barely talking to me!. I get to talk to her like thirty minutes a week!. And I have been passed up for job advancements twice!. After they told me i have the job they put someone else in there!. And I am going to college and failing!.
All of this is just putting a huge strain on me and i feel like i cant handle it anymore!. I hold everything inside and it feels like it is near breaking point!. I wake up in the morning tired, not sleepy mind you just tired!. And I feel like my patience is gone!. I am just tired and really just want it to end!. I just need some really good advice!. I am on the end of my rope, so to speak!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
All of this is just putting a huge strain on me and i feel like i cant handle it anymore!. I hold everything inside and it feels like it is near breaking point!. I wake up in the morning tired, not sleepy mind you just tired!. And I feel like my patience is gone!. I am just tired and really just want it to end!. I just need some really good advice!. I am on the end of my rope, so to speak!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I'm so sorry that you lost your mother!. I lost my mother, as well, when I was 28 and my dad when I was 34!. I know what you mean about feeling lonely and lost!. It's hard to feel motivated about anything when you're so empty and sad!.
But let me encourage you !.!.!. it will get easier!. I think it's true what people say that when a major event turns your life upside-down, you have to redefine what a "normal" life is!. You should always keep the memories of your mother in your heart !.!.!. but don't let those memories bring you down!. USE THEM to help make you strong!
One note about your girlfriend !.!.!. maybe she just doesn't know HOW to talk to you because you've been so sad and withdrawn!. Sometimes when people don't know what to do !.!.!. they back away!. Just don't put all of your self-worth into your relationship with this girl!. Right now you need to put yourself first!.
Just so you know, I was also in college when I lost my mom!. My grades suffered, too, so don't think that isn't a normal reaction to such a devastating loss!. I ultimately took an "Incomplete" in some of my classes and started over the next semester when I felt stronger!. Maybe you need to get a new perspective (talk to a counselor, pastor or friend) and start again!. In fact, you just said it yourself: you feel you are about to break -- because you are holding everything in!. I can't tell you how important it is to talk about your feelings to those who care about you!. I've had a lot of stress in my life and "expressing myself" (either through words or writing my thoughts down) is what has kept me sane!.
About your job !.!.!. maybe you're not appreciated there and it's time to move on!?
I think all that is a sign that you are stretching yourself too thin and need to simplify things a bit until you feel better!.
I don't think you value yourself enough and are letting other people dictate your feelings about yourself!. It doesn't matter if you are a bit overweight!. The things that are special about you have nothing to do with a scale!. Learn to love and appreciate yourself, and I promise: things will begin to fall into place!. Even though you're struggling, it doesn't mean you aren't doing your best!. I'm sure your mother would be proud of you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
But let me encourage you !.!.!. it will get easier!. I think it's true what people say that when a major event turns your life upside-down, you have to redefine what a "normal" life is!. You should always keep the memories of your mother in your heart !.!.!. but don't let those memories bring you down!. USE THEM to help make you strong!
One note about your girlfriend !.!.!. maybe she just doesn't know HOW to talk to you because you've been so sad and withdrawn!. Sometimes when people don't know what to do !.!.!. they back away!. Just don't put all of your self-worth into your relationship with this girl!. Right now you need to put yourself first!.
Just so you know, I was also in college when I lost my mom!. My grades suffered, too, so don't think that isn't a normal reaction to such a devastating loss!. I ultimately took an "Incomplete" in some of my classes and started over the next semester when I felt stronger!. Maybe you need to get a new perspective (talk to a counselor, pastor or friend) and start again!. In fact, you just said it yourself: you feel you are about to break -- because you are holding everything in!. I can't tell you how important it is to talk about your feelings to those who care about you!. I've had a lot of stress in my life and "expressing myself" (either through words or writing my thoughts down) is what has kept me sane!.
About your job !.!.!. maybe you're not appreciated there and it's time to move on!?
I think all that is a sign that you are stretching yourself too thin and need to simplify things a bit until you feel better!.
I don't think you value yourself enough and are letting other people dictate your feelings about yourself!. It doesn't matter if you are a bit overweight!. The things that are special about you have nothing to do with a scale!. Learn to love and appreciate yourself, and I promise: things will begin to fall into place!. Even though you're struggling, it doesn't mean you aren't doing your best!. I'm sure your mother would be proud of you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you need to talk to some one if you do not and you keep it all in you will go into depression and it will be hard to get out of it if you have no one to talk to you can talk to me if you like home_maker10_10@yahoo!.com!.au this is my e-mail address good luck and take careWww@Answer-Health@Com
I suggest you start therapy, you said so yourself that you bottle things up inside, which eventually build and build and makes your life worse, I know from experience, and therapy would basically just be talking about what's bothering you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
look man , there are tough times in evryone's life , But there aer times when we have to leave all of our problems for GOD to solve!. Stop thinking of it and just speak to god that you have tried your best but cud do nothing, so you are leaving this to him!.
You will be amazed to see that all your problems will perfectly be taken care of( but you haev to have firm belief before practising this)!.
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You will be amazed to see that all your problems will perfectly be taken care of( but you haev to have firm belief before practising this)!.
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It's awful to lose a parent
( I know, I lost my Dad suddenly Dec 2006)
What helped me was going to therapy and getting put on a mild antidepressant
Tai Chi and Yoga help boost my "feel good" endorphins
HUGs to youWww@Answer-Health@Com
( I know, I lost my Dad suddenly Dec 2006)
What helped me was going to therapy and getting put on a mild antidepressant
Tai Chi and Yoga help boost my "feel good" endorphins
HUGs to youWww@Answer-Health@Com
Have you thought about grief counseling!? Or you could post on the WebMD Grief and Loss Message Board!. People over there understand what you are going through!. I am so very sorry for your loss!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
aw i am VERY sorry about your mum :(
i hope your alright <3Www@Answer-Health@Com
i hope your alright <3Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sorry to hear you're going through a rough time!. I'm currently depressed and going through a hard time in high school!. I've pretty much lost the motivation to do anything anymore!. But what helps me is keeping an optimistic attitute!. Just because it's hard now, doesn't mean it will be forever!. Just try to hang in there!. You should probably talk to a counselor as well!. It's helping me that's for sure!. Don't be afraid to talk about your feelings to someone!. Keeping them inside is not good for you at all!. I find it's better to talk to a stranger than keep it inside!. I hope things get better for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm sorry to hear about your mom!. I lost my Dad when I was 6yrs old!. I think alot of your issues are depression of losing mom and now relating towards your girlfriend!. I would go see your family dr tell him or her what is going on!. They will hopefully give you some type of antidepressant!. You will feel less tired and more energy in about two weeks and just steadily get to feeling better!. You most defiently need a councelor to talk too!. my husband always tells me love 101 love yourself first before loving another!. If you ever need someone to talk to I'm your gal!. My friends always tell me I'm the best listener that there is!. I've also been thru alot! :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't hold anything inside!. Never!. Whether you go to a grief counselor, or find a church (like others have suggested) or even email someone you met online, talk talk talk!. When you talk out loud, your problem becomes real and that's necessary because it has to be clear and tangible in order to begin the healing process!. Talking about it, you'll even surprise yourself with what you've held onto deep down!. I can't imagine losing my mother and I can't begin to understand the pain you must feel!. I just want to hug you and tell you it's going to be ok!. That's also what you need!. Support!. No one can replace your mom but you need to surround yourself with family and good friends!. People need people!. We're human!.
You will find an amazing girl someday!. Someone who likes a guy with meat on his bones!. Until then you're going to deal with alot who are a huge waste of your time!.
As for school, don't fret!. Failing isn't the end of the world!. Maybe you need more time to figure out what you really want to do!. Maybe your heart's not in it!. I used to work at a hospital and some of my closest friends were Drs!. Most of them flunked out once or twice before dropping and starting over when they felt ready!. Now they're making 6 figures and living large!.
As for your job, let me tell ya, life ain't fair! My brother who is an army veteran with an A!.S!. applied for jobs who claimed to be hiring, jobs he was OVERqualified for and got turned down left and right for no apparent reason!. My best friend has been trying to move up in her company for 5 years now with no luck!. She is smart and the friendliest person I know but the her less-than-qualified, troublemaking, coworkers keep getting promoted!. Who knows why certain people move up and others are left in the dust!.
Feeling tired without needing sleep is a sign that you may be depressed!. Talking to a therapist will help with those feelings of hopelessness but I also think you need a support system!. Good friends and loving family members is the cure-all!. Life can suck sometimes but you're not alone!. We all feel hopeless at times but it gets better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You will find an amazing girl someday!. Someone who likes a guy with meat on his bones!. Until then you're going to deal with alot who are a huge waste of your time!.
As for school, don't fret!. Failing isn't the end of the world!. Maybe you need more time to figure out what you really want to do!. Maybe your heart's not in it!. I used to work at a hospital and some of my closest friends were Drs!. Most of them flunked out once or twice before dropping and starting over when they felt ready!. Now they're making 6 figures and living large!.
As for your job, let me tell ya, life ain't fair! My brother who is an army veteran with an A!.S!. applied for jobs who claimed to be hiring, jobs he was OVERqualified for and got turned down left and right for no apparent reason!. My best friend has been trying to move up in her company for 5 years now with no luck!. She is smart and the friendliest person I know but the her less-than-qualified, troublemaking, coworkers keep getting promoted!. Who knows why certain people move up and others are left in the dust!.
Feeling tired without needing sleep is a sign that you may be depressed!. Talking to a therapist will help with those feelings of hopelessness but I also think you need a support system!. Good friends and loving family members is the cure-all!. Life can suck sometimes but you're not alone!. We all feel hopeless at times but it gets better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com