Noticing the pattern of Narcissism with my kids?!
Question: Noticing the pattern of Narcissism with my kids!?
I recently moved as I have figured out that my mother and brother are narcissists!. I see that my mother and brother have made my second son their "golden child" as my brother and second son are similar in looks and are both quiet!.My oldest son is like me and therefore he is the one that I just found out last night is being told what a weak person he is as opposed to his brother!. This is causing dysfunction because they are competing at home !.My older son is being thought of as like me and my second is like my brother so this is causing MY second son to act even more like him and my other son is angry And my third gets no pays attention to at all!. What do you make of these dynamics and how can I stop this!. One likes to go to his house because he wants to gain attention and the second because he is treated as the golden child !.!. My mother and brother consider themselves to have the same authority as parents , which they do not but they are disilusioned!. What can I do in this mess!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
First of all, you're the mom, you get to make ALL the final decisions about your children, where they go, and who they spend time with!. ALL of it!.
It doesn't sound like you've moved far enough away!. Narcissists are toxic!. I know that will sound strong and negative to anyone reading this who has not had to deal with this particular psychiatric disorder, but trust me, toxic is exactly the right word!.
You can organize your life so that your mother and brother don't have easy access to your children!. In fact, you must do this to protect your kids!. Then your kids need to see a counselor together so that someone can explain to them about family dynamics!. It is important for them to understand who is sick here, and that it is not them or you!. (I'll bet they're being told it's you)!.
As long as he lives with you, you can require that your second son get counseling!. If you don't have a lot of money or insurance, try a county mental health clinic where they will have a sliding fee scale!.
Take this VERY seriously and protect your children!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It doesn't sound like you've moved far enough away!. Narcissists are toxic!. I know that will sound strong and negative to anyone reading this who has not had to deal with this particular psychiatric disorder, but trust me, toxic is exactly the right word!.
You can organize your life so that your mother and brother don't have easy access to your children!. In fact, you must do this to protect your kids!. Then your kids need to see a counselor together so that someone can explain to them about family dynamics!. It is important for them to understand who is sick here, and that it is not them or you!. (I'll bet they're being told it's you)!.
As long as he lives with you, you can require that your second son get counseling!. If you don't have a lot of money or insurance, try a county mental health clinic where they will have a sliding fee scale!.
Take this VERY seriously and protect your children!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Unless you have training as a psychologist, one thing you can try is a less analytical and more practical approach to solving the problems in your family!.
You say you have moved, but does that mean moved in, moved out, or moved away!? If how you have moved makes the problems worse, then you should best move in the other direction!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You say you have moved, but does that mean moved in, moved out, or moved away!? If how you have moved makes the problems worse, then you should best move in the other direction!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If it was I who had to deal with this I would let them know that they need to make them all equal or they will not be around any of them that is crazy!. They are you children you need to put your foot down!. If you believe in God read the part that tells them that god created us all equal no one is better then the other!.
I am have a similar problem with my little girl she is starting to think that she is better then her cousins!. It is hard but I believe that you can do what is best keep your head up and put your foot downWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am have a similar problem with my little girl she is starting to think that she is better then her cousins!. It is hard but I believe that you can do what is best keep your head up and put your foot downWww@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds like a pretty normal family with normal issues to me!. Don't presume that your family is mentally ill just because they're doing something you don't like!.Www@Answer-Health@Com