I want to go back but I'm really scared!?!
Question: I want to go back but I'm really scared!!?
This is my last week of school!. I currently have no friends except for my mom!. I'm really shy!. I can't keep friends the friends I make either!. I take depression and anxiety meds!. I want to make my life better this summer!. Over the years, I got REALLY made at the church!. I'm the kind of person that let's things go for years, then gets really made one day!. I told my priest stuff that he and others were doing wrong!. I cried, left, and have't been back!. It's been awhile!. I think about them everyday!. I want to go back, but I don't think they miss me!. No one has contacted me or anything!. That makes me sad!. I want them to love me!. I'm thinking about going back next Sunday!. What do you think they'll think if I just come back all of a sudden!? How else can I improve my life this summer!? Thanks so much!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
First of all, it sounds like you suffer from social phobia!. If the meds aren't working, it might be time to make some adjustments and/or add psychotherapy!. And I will tell you this: in my experience patients with mental disorders (any mental disorder) who seek help from religious institutions eventually receive some comfort, but at the expense of being brainwashed (their condition makes them predisposed to this) and more importantly at the expense of not receiving real, medical help!. I would avoid going back to church, at least until you are better!. There are plenty of other things you can do to improve your life this summer!. For instance, get a hobby, it doesn't need to be a social hobby!. Soon you will meet other people with the same interest and you will find friends among them!. This has worked for many of my patients!. I wish you good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That's interesting -- you're in sort of a seemingly either-or situation: Either you flat out blare an apology (not your style, I'm thinking) or you just pretend nothing has happened!. People probably haven't contacted you because they're scared, or else just not sure what to do!. I'm sure at least some of them would like to see you back, and your priest will forgive you!. What are the odds that they're ALL mad, after all!?
Here's what might fit with your values:
Approach the first person you trust!. Somebody you think, rationally, would forgive you!. Apologize in private!. Do it calmly, don't over-apologize, and re-establish trust!. Then you can talk to the priest, who will probably understand!.
I hope this helps! Your instinct to go back to your community is healthy; it's fear that's holding you back, and you can overcome it in steps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Here's what might fit with your values:
Approach the first person you trust!. Somebody you think, rationally, would forgive you!. Apologize in private!. Do it calmly, don't over-apologize, and re-establish trust!. Then you can talk to the priest, who will probably understand!.
I hope this helps! Your instinct to go back to your community is healthy; it's fear that's holding you back, and you can overcome it in steps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com