Help!!! Someone please...!!! I really don't know what to do anymore...?!
Question: Help!!! Someone please!.!.!.!!! I really don't know what to do anymore!.!.!.!?
I'm a 20 year old college student, and I have my share of problems; I was sexually abused as a child, I was sexually assaulted as a teen and well I'm not exactly doing well emotionally; sometimes even minor situations are too hard for me to handle because I carry so much pain through my life!. Friends are slightly comforting but I am MUCH more comfortable talk to "adults" (like teachers and such), The comfort, empathy and understanding they provide has been my refuge this last little while!. One of my teachers in particular is someone with whom I feel I can really trust, and open up to; but this is my last week in her class!. When I opened up to her about my past once before, she was very welcoming and offered to listen, but I don't know how far I can take that!.!.!. Did I lose out on the chance by being too afraid to talk to her about it again!? If not, how do I tell her that I really trust her, and feel that she's the only one I can open up to!? I just don't know what to do! I'm so confused!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Just because someone is a psychiatrist or counsellor, doesn't mean they're better at helping you than a teacher or friend!. Quite frequently, the reverse is the case!.
You sound like you want to talk and so it's probably good for you to do so!.
I don't see why you need to tell her anything more than "can we have another chat!? I found the last one helpful"
In the long run, you need to forgive yourself and learn that you can trust most people with most things!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You sound like you want to talk and so it's probably good for you to do so!.
I don't see why you need to tell her anything more than "can we have another chat!? I found the last one helpful"
In the long run, you need to forgive yourself and learn that you can trust most people with most things!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
just talk to your teacher!.
Tell her whats going on with you and that you would like to keep in contact since you are leaving her class!.
I was the same way with one of my highschool teachers!
I talk to her all of the time still, she is someone who i can really trust and tell anything too
I EVEN HAVE HER ON FACEBOOK! She is such a doll
anyways,,, Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Tell her whats going on with you and that you would like to keep in contact since you are leaving her class!.
I was the same way with one of my highschool teachers!
I talk to her all of the time still, she is someone who i can really trust and tell anything too
I EVEN HAVE HER ON FACEBOOK! She is such a doll
anyways,,, Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Look into whether or not your school offers any mental health counseling!. I think your teacher feels very compassionate toward you but she is not properly trained help you!. If you can find a mental health professional (i!.e, counseling) that you can work with on a longer term basis, that would be best for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
u need counseling or something u don't need to hold this all in u need to talk to someone maybe your teacher is someone you can trust you never now until u triedWww@Answer-Health@Com
if u dont feel that comfortable or hav doubts about here go see a siciatristWww@Answer-Health@Com
I, too, had a similar early life experience!.!.!.I remember going through what you are now!. Talking helps so much, I think because it took a long time for me to tell anyone about my abuse and when I did my mom was so afraid of what people would think that she told me not to tell anyone!. I still talked and told people because it had to come out, I wrote a lot, I have journals and journals!.
As for your teacher, I would try to reach out again and just be honest and forward, "I was wondering if the offer was still open for you to listen to me, I feel as though you are someone that I can trust and I really respect your opinion!."
I have a person that I can talk to and she will listen and I don't feel as though I am being judged and she offers me insight to what I just said!. Sometimes just getting the words out makes you feel as though you aren't crazy!. Just saying your thoughts outloud and having someone that you respect and trust offering a thought in return can help tremendously!.
I remember being pregnant and I HATED being pregnant truly I HATED it and felt ashamed and embarrassed that I HATED being pregnant!. I worked myself into a depression because I was so ashamed of myself and embarrassed that I was so disgusting that I would hate being pregnant!. Then on one of my Dr!.'s appointment I told the midwife the truth about my feelings!. She looked at me and said, "now honey not everybody likes being pregnant!." Can you believe that, that was all I needed to feel better just somebody to tell me that I wasn't crazy, I wasn't alone, that other people thought the same as me!.
good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
As for your teacher, I would try to reach out again and just be honest and forward, "I was wondering if the offer was still open for you to listen to me, I feel as though you are someone that I can trust and I really respect your opinion!."
I have a person that I can talk to and she will listen and I don't feel as though I am being judged and she offers me insight to what I just said!. Sometimes just getting the words out makes you feel as though you aren't crazy!. Just saying your thoughts outloud and having someone that you respect and trust offering a thought in return can help tremendously!.
I remember being pregnant and I HATED being pregnant truly I HATED it and felt ashamed and embarrassed that I HATED being pregnant!. I worked myself into a depression because I was so ashamed of myself and embarrassed that I was so disgusting that I would hate being pregnant!. Then on one of my Dr!.'s appointment I told the midwife the truth about my feelings!. She looked at me and said, "now honey not everybody likes being pregnant!." Can you believe that, that was all I needed to feel better just somebody to tell me that I wasn't crazy, I wasn't alone, that other people thought the same as me!.
good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Getting abused as a child is very hard!. Make sure that you have someone to open up to even if its not this teacher!. Don't keep everything in or else you might not be able to handle it well!. Don't worry about losing this teacher, just go up to her after class and thank her for listening and ask her for maybe her e-mail just in case you need to talk, don't ask for a phone number because that might be too much to ask and could scare her!. But she sounds really understanding and i'm almost sure she'll still be willing to keep in touch!. Hope everything works out!! Hang in there!!Www@Answer-Health@Com