WHY do some people commit suicide in a very public area :-(?!
Question: WHY do some people commit suicide in a very public area :-(!?
Hi, I live in kent and last friday a woman jumped off a high rise car park and splattered to the floor ahead of me!!!!! Another man was so shocked (she landed closer to him) that he was on his knees being sick! I tried to get to him as he seemed so bad but my legs refused to move forward! I remember being aware of it and trying to take a step backwards which i could do but then when i tried to move forward again i still couldn't! I'm still a bit shaky and i got up saturday morning with a hoarse voice which i still seem to have!. At my gp visit for my asthma review he told me the hoarse voice is the shock coming out!.
Suicide remains, and will always remain the single most SELFISH act ever! so IF these people decide that's what they want to do WHY oh WHY do they have to do it publically!. Isn't it bad enough that they're ruining they're family's lives with they're utter selfishness!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Suicide remains, and will always remain the single most SELFISH act ever! so IF these people decide that's what they want to do WHY oh WHY do they have to do it publically!. Isn't it bad enough that they're ruining they're family's lives with they're utter selfishness!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I don't think she cared about whether the place was public!. She just wanted somewhere high to jump from where the landing impact would end her life!. The car park was a convenient high place with a hard landing!. I guess she judged correctly!.
People who kill themselves in places like that have to be extremely ill and self-centered!. Obviously she knew it would make a mess and upset people but she disregarded it!. Sorry you had to witness that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
People who kill themselves in places like that have to be extremely ill and self-centered!. Obviously she knew it would make a mess and upset people but she disregarded it!. Sorry you had to witness that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
to be honest i doubt this woman thought anyone in the world cared enough about her to even notice she was dead, let alone for it to affect anyone, espescially strangers to her!.
also, it was probably the "best" way she could think of to do it!.
im sorry you had to see that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
also, it was probably the "best" way she could think of to do it!.
im sorry you had to see that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
what a lovely answer from Brighton !. i agree with her and i wish you well also as i could imagine this horror will be with you forever so you do need some counselling please see your doctor about it !.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ooo, i get a little bit of that feeling wen i see a crash or somthing exciting, but i kinda run 2wards it, maybe thats just me tho, ppl say im 2 nosey but i think im fineWww@Answer-Health@Com
Unfortunately they are trying to make a statement why they want to end their life!. They have to be mentally unstable to put other people to unfortunate distressing scenes in their life's in their future!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
to go out in "style"!.
i know exactly what you mean!.
i think the point i made above is completely and utterly stupid!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i know exactly what you mean!.
i think the point i made above is completely and utterly stupid!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Some people just feel the need to go in 'style'!. And don't be so hard on those who commit suicide!. The kind of pain they must be feeling to do that must be immenseWww@Answer-Health@Com
Usually suicidle people are mad at the world or a certain group of people, and only a public death wil display that anger!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just born entertainers I guess!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe (subconsciously) they want other people to feel some of pain they've had to go through!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
because they are selfishWww@Answer-Health@Com
Crazy horse is dead right, no pun intendedWww@Answer-Health@Com
This is a horrendous thing to witness, and I can understand how angry you must be feeling!. I was in the area of a similar incident some years ago with my young son and I'm glad we weren't close enough for him to see what happened!.
Suicide is an act of desperation, and often great anger as well, and the person committing the act is not thinking of the effect on other people!.
I hope you will be able to come to terms with what you saw!. It is good that you have been able to express your feelings through this forum, it's better than keeping it to yourself!. Do remember though that it's possible to have PTSD after an incident like this, so do seek help if you feel you are not getting over it!. Best wishesWww@Answer-Health@Com
Suicide is an act of desperation, and often great anger as well, and the person committing the act is not thinking of the effect on other people!.
I hope you will be able to come to terms with what you saw!. It is good that you have been able to express your feelings through this forum, it's better than keeping it to yourself!. Do remember though that it's possible to have PTSD after an incident like this, so do seek help if you feel you are not getting over it!. Best wishesWww@Answer-Health@Com
Wow :( wow wow i am sorrys that you had to experience that!. How horrible that must have been for you! :( I think i'd have nightmares continously after that incident!. I think ppl prob!. do it in public b/c they are depressed they seem to 'not care what others think' and just go with w/e feels right at the moment to them!.!.!.in their irrational state of mind that is!. Things around them become numb and the individual prob!. becomes unaware of anything and just wants to do what they have come there to do regardless of what anyone thinks!. Thats just a personal opinion 0-0Www@Answer-Health@Com
Could be that something person happened to them there!.
But most likely it was because they wanted to end their lives!.
And isn't it a bit selfish for you to say it's selfish!?
You may understand what they're going though, you may not, but either way they've probably suffered, they probably went through something bad, and they feel that the only way to get out of this feeling, out of their skin, out of this world, to get better is to kill themselves!.
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For a person who use to work with suicidal people, you would think you would be a bit more calm about the entire situation!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
But most likely it was because they wanted to end their lives!.
And isn't it a bit selfish for you to say it's selfish!?
You may understand what they're going though, you may not, but either way they've probably suffered, they probably went through something bad, and they feel that the only way to get out of this feeling, out of their skin, out of this world, to get better is to kill themselves!.
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For a person who use to work with suicidal people, you would think you would be a bit more calm about the entire situation!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The answer to why they choose a public place as already been explained to you!. Probably because the person wished to ensure success and a high height is usually only found out in a public place!. As for selfish - have you looked at what you wrote!? Its all me, me, me!. Perhaps you could exercise a bit of unselfishness for a minute and consider that you are selfish because a person felt so bad they decided to kill themselves and the bit of human concern you have is for your self! Suicide is not selfish it is tragic and if you think that people can choose how they feel then perhaps you should choose to stop feeling sorry for yourself or perhaps try to see that the person who jumped felt a hundred times worst that you do and be greatful that you don't fully understand what she felt!
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You worked in psychiarty and you post questions like this!? I'm glad you wrote, 'used to'!Www@Answer-Health@Com
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You worked in psychiarty and you post questions like this!? I'm glad you wrote, 'used to'!Www@Answer-Health@Com
you obviously dont understand mental illness!. it completely rids the brain of rational thought!. the depression orders the person to do sth and the person cannot fight it due to the truly appalling illness so just does as its told so to speak!. Suicide is not selfish!. people dont normally choose to do it!. there is an outside force that brought that lady to the top of the building!. imo!. someone suicidal does not have a stable mind and cannot think,,oh maybe a poor guy down there will have a nightmare or too!. suicidal people are completely and utterly insane and mad and have no ability to think or act in a logical manner!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I feel awful for you and that guy and agree that it is very selfish!. We had a guy here in brighton throw himself in front of a train last week and I felt terrible for the driver, passengers and all the people on the platform who had to witness it!.
It is a very selfish thing to do but unfortunately as treatment for depression is still not great or accessible it does happen!. As to why people do it so publicly I dont really know!. It could just be that these are the quickest and least painful ways (like jumping in front of a train)
Anyway, I hope you recover soon!. Maybe you should ask your gp to refer you to a psychologist for a few sessions!?!?
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
It is a very selfish thing to do but unfortunately as treatment for depression is still not great or accessible it does happen!. As to why people do it so publicly I dont really know!. It could just be that these are the quickest and least painful ways (like jumping in front of a train)
Anyway, I hope you recover soon!. Maybe you should ask your gp to refer you to a psychologist for a few sessions!?!?
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
because its hard to find a private high rise car park!?
they just killed themselves !. they are probably in hell!. u should b glad ur not!.!. get the fcuk over it and dont say its the most selfish act ever because its not!.
why dont u just think about all of the pain that person must have been feeling to do such a bad thing like that huh!?
and maybe their family didnt care about them!. so no its not enough!. why should they care about people seeing them die!? when no1 cares about them
like i said!. get the fcuk over it
u think u have it bad!? just think about that woman!. for god sake wats wrong with you
yeah u think its all about you
YOU ARE THE SELFISH ONE!!
YOU!Www@Answer-Health@Com
they just killed themselves !. they are probably in hell!. u should b glad ur not!.!. get the fcuk over it and dont say its the most selfish act ever because its not!.
why dont u just think about all of the pain that person must have been feeling to do such a bad thing like that huh!?
and maybe their family didnt care about them!. so no its not enough!. why should they care about people seeing them die!? when no1 cares about them
like i said!. get the fcuk over it
u think u have it bad!? just think about that woman!. for god sake wats wrong with you
yeah u think its all about you
YOU ARE THE SELFISH ONE!!
YOU!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have to agree with you that this will forever be imprinted on your brain and the poor fellow in front of you!. I honestly think you are more bothered by this than you think!. You probably need to see a doctor, and I'm not trying to be harsh!. It sounds to me like you used this site as an outlet for your pain!. Your question sounds more like some sort of "venting"!. People who kill themselves aren't thinking about themselves at all!. They are seriously ill!. Mental illness is as real as cancer!. To call these people selfish is like saying that someone with cancer is just trying to get attention!. I'm really not trying to down you!. My brother in law just commited suicide and I thought, "how selfish of him to leave behind his children"!. I have spoken with doctors as well as leaders of my church who assured me that suicide is the cause of severe mental illness, not selfishness!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
attention!. Simply that!.
Its not attention in the way many people see it : an attempt at having someone give them focused attention or be nice to them, its for attention in other ways!.
perhaps they are angry and want someone to know this, by takeing such a massive act on thier lives, its like saying "I win" and having the final word in an arguement!.
Perhaps they were hopeing they would die and would get some help!.
perhaps they were so locked in thier own mind (when you become very very depressed, you start to feel very cut off from people, soo it feels like the whole world is going on around you but not with you and that you are not part of it!. any reaction from the "normal" world is fake and not really done for you, its done as part of their job, not because they care)
This then makes suicide seem more plausable, its not like anyone cares- this is not done for attention, its literally done because the person doing it literally doesnt believe anyone would care or even notice them, they feel invisable, worthless and that whatever they do, no one will give a damn, this is the reality you can fall into if you have deep depression and cannot find a way out for whatever reason!. Its hard to explain unless you have actually been there, but I hope I have made some sense!.
It doesnt make it right, not justify what has happened or take away any of what you feel, its not meant to, its simply two worlds of reality crossing paths!.
I feel sorry that you had to experience that- no one should have to experience that, but theres no "good" way to commit suicide, the fact is it should happen at all!. If it happens in a home, eventually neighbours or police find the person, this affects them in the same way!.
You have had a nasty shock and though it feels really traumatising right now, it will get easier!. But just like the person who was experiencing and reasoning with the thoughts of depression, he didnt believe the feelings would get any easier, and I dont expect you will believe when I say they will get eaiser for you either!. But thats how feelings work, your sense of realisty is what rules, not what someone else suggests to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Its not attention in the way many people see it : an attempt at having someone give them focused attention or be nice to them, its for attention in other ways!.
perhaps they are angry and want someone to know this, by takeing such a massive act on thier lives, its like saying "I win" and having the final word in an arguement!.
Perhaps they were hopeing they would die and would get some help!.
perhaps they were so locked in thier own mind (when you become very very depressed, you start to feel very cut off from people, soo it feels like the whole world is going on around you but not with you and that you are not part of it!. any reaction from the "normal" world is fake and not really done for you, its done as part of their job, not because they care)
This then makes suicide seem more plausable, its not like anyone cares- this is not done for attention, its literally done because the person doing it literally doesnt believe anyone would care or even notice them, they feel invisable, worthless and that whatever they do, no one will give a damn, this is the reality you can fall into if you have deep depression and cannot find a way out for whatever reason!. Its hard to explain unless you have actually been there, but I hope I have made some sense!.
It doesnt make it right, not justify what has happened or take away any of what you feel, its not meant to, its simply two worlds of reality crossing paths!.
I feel sorry that you had to experience that- no one should have to experience that, but theres no "good" way to commit suicide, the fact is it should happen at all!. If it happens in a home, eventually neighbours or police find the person, this affects them in the same way!.
You have had a nasty shock and though it feels really traumatising right now, it will get easier!. But just like the person who was experiencing and reasoning with the thoughts of depression, he didnt believe the feelings would get any easier, and I dont expect you will believe when I say they will get eaiser for you either!. But thats how feelings work, your sense of realisty is what rules, not what someone else suggests to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com