Fustrated and annoyed.?!
Question: Fustrated and annoyed!.!?
i feel like a complete failure at everythin & i feel unda so much pressure from my parents, all they ever talk about is me gettin into uni, i dont want to go but weve had this discussion about it lyk 50times & it only leads to fights so i just gave in & no matter how much i study i still dont pass exams they dont undastand that im not academically smart there jus the typical asian parents who expect you to do well!.
but this isnt the only problem pretty much my whole life has just been full of criticism lyk ur too fat, or even when im just making breakfast my dad will make a comment like omg your eating agian something along those lines, sometimes i say things back but they always jus take it lyk im being a smartarse!. iv had a falling out with my parents once when they kicked me out and when i ran away, i use to cut but when my mum found out she wasnt supportive at all, all she did was yell and say i was stupid!. iv had thoughts about death and have tried but in the end i just cant do itWww@Answer-Health@Com
but this isnt the only problem pretty much my whole life has just been full of criticism lyk ur too fat, or even when im just making breakfast my dad will make a comment like omg your eating agian something along those lines, sometimes i say things back but they always jus take it lyk im being a smartarse!. iv had a falling out with my parents once when they kicked me out and when i ran away, i use to cut but when my mum found out she wasnt supportive at all, all she did was yell and say i was stupid!. iv had thoughts about death and have tried but in the end i just cant do itWww@Answer-Health@Com
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Parents can be very difficult when they try to live their lives vicariously through you!. The comments about your weight are frightening because they can affect your mentality and help spur anorexia, especially with so many other aspects of society saying you have to be skinny to be beautiful!. You don't!.
As for uni, it can help your future so much as far as finances are concerned!. I'm in the US and our economy is so screwed up that those without a degree are really struggling!. However, I never finished my degree because I knew I was seeking it solely for money and the career I was seeking would make me miserable!. There are people in the world who spend well over a third of their lives at a job that makes them miserable!. They are trading their happiness for pieces of paper!. Take some time to figure out what will make you completely happy during the third of your life you will spend making a living and work toward that goal!. It may mean uni, it may not!. Remember, this is about YOUR future, not your parents' future!.
As for your academics, you may just be one of those students who don't do well on exams!. I'm including a link in my sources with ways to help with test taking (there's also a career aptitude test there)!. When you deal with academics, do it for you, not for your parents!.
It seems your parents are pretty controlling and have probably run down your self esteem!. As long as you feel bad about yourself, they'll have complete control over you!. Remember that your worth comes from you, not from them!. Set your own goals (and make them good ones that will ensure that you have a great future), don't rely on their goals!. Celebrate your achievements!. Take care of yourself!. There will be a time soon when you are on your own and your parents won't be there to guide your every move!. Start learning now how to be strong so when they aren't always there to fall back on you have the strength to pick yourself up and grow from your mistakes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As for uni, it can help your future so much as far as finances are concerned!. I'm in the US and our economy is so screwed up that those without a degree are really struggling!. However, I never finished my degree because I knew I was seeking it solely for money and the career I was seeking would make me miserable!. There are people in the world who spend well over a third of their lives at a job that makes them miserable!. They are trading their happiness for pieces of paper!. Take some time to figure out what will make you completely happy during the third of your life you will spend making a living and work toward that goal!. It may mean uni, it may not!. Remember, this is about YOUR future, not your parents' future!.
As for your academics, you may just be one of those students who don't do well on exams!. I'm including a link in my sources with ways to help with test taking (there's also a career aptitude test there)!. When you deal with academics, do it for you, not for your parents!.
It seems your parents are pretty controlling and have probably run down your self esteem!. As long as you feel bad about yourself, they'll have complete control over you!. Remember that your worth comes from you, not from them!. Set your own goals (and make them good ones that will ensure that you have a great future), don't rely on their goals!. Celebrate your achievements!. Take care of yourself!. There will be a time soon when you are on your own and your parents won't be there to guide your every move!. Start learning now how to be strong so when they aren't always there to fall back on you have the strength to pick yourself up and grow from your mistakes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you can't control what other people think or how they feel!. but you can control your own thoughts about yourself!. you're an easy target when you have low self esteem!. try for a few days to hold your head up, smile and enjoy what you do!. see if that makes a difference!. also, don't listen to peoples answers when they yell (using caps is not appropriate)
take care of yourselfWww@Answer-Health@Com
take care of yourselfWww@Answer-Health@Com
IF YOU MOVED OUT ONCES B4 DO IT AGAIN , YOU WILL BE HAPPYER WITH FRIENDS THAT SUPPORT YOU, JUST TAKE A NORMAL JOB TO PAY THE BILL WHILE YOU DECIED WHAT IT IS THAT YOUR REALLY WANT TO DO, AND MOST OF ALL JUST RELAX AND HAVE FUN FUN FUN,Www@Answer-Health@Com
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its really sad your parents dont seem to be at all receptive to your wishes!. if they were/are at all willing try going to a counselor with them where you have an objective third party!. maybe another adult can give them some insight and they could come to see what THEY want for you and what YOU want for you may be different, but no less "right" than any other path to take!.
im pretty sure once you find something you enjoy and take pride in, you will "succeed" in the sense they may want you to!. but until then just be true to yourself and remember its only temporary!. find outlets for things you genuinely enjoy and spend your time doing those things!. eventually you will find something that just "fits" and your parents by then, unless they just choose to "excommunicate" you from their family--whichs unlikely, they will only have one force: to accept you!. good luck!
"selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live!." -oscar wildeWww@Answer-Health@Com
im pretty sure once you find something you enjoy and take pride in, you will "succeed" in the sense they may want you to!. but until then just be true to yourself and remember its only temporary!. find outlets for things you genuinely enjoy and spend your time doing those things!. eventually you will find something that just "fits" and your parents by then, unless they just choose to "excommunicate" you from their family--whichs unlikely, they will only have one force: to accept you!. good luck!
"selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live!." -oscar wildeWww@Answer-Health@Com
gotta love it when parents fail it makes everthing so much better(sarcasm much!?)!. well as always the best advice is to talk to your mates they can help you out, dont worry about thier reactions!. im guessing your parents wont take you to a doctor so thats out!. life full of criticism huh, just ignore it theres no need for you to care about these peoples opinions(i doubt that helps) and stand up for yourself maybe try talking in depth with your parents(ill leave that up to you)!. as for parents pffft who cares ive got a story on that but i wont make it public!. sorry ive given you the best advice i can which is talk to someone it can really help, if you dont feel like talking to them you can talk to me just email me via my profile!. good luck, death is dull, life is amusingWww@Answer-Health@Com
try to find a safe group home if you can you may have to make a few phone calls but it wont kill ya!. They should be able to help you with necessities like food and clothing etc!.!.
My brother had to go away from home and could not financially support himself but he was able to get food and shelter at least!.
also since you said you were failing with grades and stuff maybe try job corps ;)Www@Answer-Health@Com
My brother had to go away from home and could not financially support himself but he was able to get food and shelter at least!.
also since you said you were failing with grades and stuff maybe try job corps ;)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't think UNI is for everyone, I am a very practical person, but as for academic - I would last one year and that would be it!. Maybe you could look at other career options, there must be other private courses you could take once you leave school ie; computer / secretarial / business training / or some other small course you could find!. It is possible to work your way up in a company and get some internal training or an apprenticeship!.
I was in the printing industry in Australia, it was a great fast paced job that I learnt as I went & jobs in printing are everywhere (find something like that)!. But you need to show your parents that if you aren't going to UNI that you have some other ideas happening!.
Like you said, you can't support yourself - you need to find a way to eventually be able to do this so you can leave home!.
As for you parents behaviour, they sound like children!. You may have to be the adult and say - 'I love you mum & dad but I need support from you both and the things you say about my weight and the criticisms are causing a rift in the family & affecting my school work'!. Book in a family meeting time!. If they want you to pass exams they need to encourage not lecture you - but you also need to do the work at school to get ahead!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I was in the printing industry in Australia, it was a great fast paced job that I learnt as I went & jobs in printing are everywhere (find something like that)!. But you need to show your parents that if you aren't going to UNI that you have some other ideas happening!.
Like you said, you can't support yourself - you need to find a way to eventually be able to do this so you can leave home!.
As for you parents behaviour, they sound like children!. You may have to be the adult and say - 'I love you mum & dad but I need support from you both and the things you say about my weight and the criticisms are causing a rift in the family & affecting my school work'!. Book in a family meeting time!. If they want you to pass exams they need to encourage not lecture you - but you also need to do the work at school to get ahead!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com