Is it depression thats ruining us? I dont know what to do.?!
Question: Is it depression thats ruining us!? I dont know what to do!.!?
My partner of 9yrs has shut me out & become empty of feelings for me!. He is now so angry, unreasonable & being so mean!. I thought he loved me! We were engaged! We parted so I may study in another country - my home country - saw each other last Dec!. 8wks to go! He agreed I should study&wait for each other!. He struggles with depression&numb feelings in the past; is lonely, bored, distant & now angry - says I leave him & he feels nothing for me anymore!. He is angry mad at me! Where has this anger come from!? He has become close friends with a new girl for friendship but I put my foot down & this makes him mad!. Thing is he is not keeping us close!. He is empty of feeling again&I know its cos he blames me for loneliness!. He'll ask me for sexy pictures sometimes & says he wont return my business assets cos will not pay for it - he knows I cant afford post cos Im a student!. Why is he doing this!? He is trying to sabotage us - we were close before I started uni!. I love him!Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I realize you may love this man and you've probably had some wonderful times over the last 9 years, but the truth is that he is now acting dangerously passive-aggressive!. You both agreed you would go abroad to study!. Now he's angry and blaming you for not being around when he needs you!.
Sounds like he has some control issues and some anger-management problems!. Do you really want to pursue a relationship where you're always the one who is being punished!? Do you really want to stay with a man who has made it obvious that your relationship is worth so little that he essentially bolts after 8 weeks of you showing your independence!? Sounds like that's where you're headed!.
This is an emotionally abusive situation!.
This isn't depression, by the way!. Take it from an expert in that field!. He's got anger and control issues and is taking them out on you!. My guess is, if you look back on the relationship, this isn't the first time this kind of thing has happened!. There are always hints of possessiveness and jealousy prior to abuse!. Don't you see!? You left his side and went to live your own life and he freaked!. Not good!.
It may hurt, but I would seriously suggest you move on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds like he has some control issues and some anger-management problems!. Do you really want to pursue a relationship where you're always the one who is being punished!? Do you really want to stay with a man who has made it obvious that your relationship is worth so little that he essentially bolts after 8 weeks of you showing your independence!? Sounds like that's where you're headed!.
This is an emotionally abusive situation!.
This isn't depression, by the way!. Take it from an expert in that field!. He's got anger and control issues and is taking them out on you!. My guess is, if you look back on the relationship, this isn't the first time this kind of thing has happened!. There are always hints of possessiveness and jealousy prior to abuse!. Don't you see!? You left his side and went to live your own life and he freaked!. Not good!.
It may hurt, but I would seriously suggest you move on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com