How do I learn to let go of things I can't control and live my life day to d!
Question: How do I learn to let go of things I can't control and live my life day to day!?
I am extremely controlling and up-tight!. I worry about everything!. When things in my life are going good I have to find a way to mess them up!. I can't just be happy, and go with the flow!. I can't relax!. My mind always races about the bad things to come!. I worry too much about things out of my control!.
I have a 5 month old daughter and no longer have a relationship with her father, yet I spend all my time worrying about what he's doing!. I can't raise my daughter this way!. I need to find a way to learn to let go of the past the stop worrying about every detail of the future!. Someone please help, any suggestion is better than no suggestion!. My daughter deserves a better life than the one she's headed for with me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have a 5 month old daughter and no longer have a relationship with her father, yet I spend all my time worrying about what he's doing!. I can't raise my daughter this way!. I need to find a way to learn to let go of the past the stop worrying about every detail of the future!. Someone please help, any suggestion is better than no suggestion!. My daughter deserves a better life than the one she's headed for with me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
You control nthings because you're afraid of the outcome if you DON'T control them!.
It's a habit!.
Start by NOT controlling something!. Make it a minor thing that can't really hurt you if it goes wrong and take the chance that it might not come out the way you want!.
Then try it on something else!. Then again, and again, etc, etc!.
People also often control things because they feel major portions of their lives are out of control!.
Try writing down the things that you're afraid of!. Make a list!.
Then write down what you can do about them next to what you've written down!.
By putting all of this on paper, you're drawing it out where you can see it and find that it's likely not as bad as you thought ( it's an old process called, "naming your demons")
By putting solutions down on paper, you're making a plan to correct these problems, which should give you an idea of what you need to do!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's a habit!.
Start by NOT controlling something!. Make it a minor thing that can't really hurt you if it goes wrong and take the chance that it might not come out the way you want!.
Then try it on something else!. Then again, and again, etc, etc!.
People also often control things because they feel major portions of their lives are out of control!.
Try writing down the things that you're afraid of!. Make a list!.
Then write down what you can do about them next to what you've written down!.
By putting all of this on paper, you're drawing it out where you can see it and find that it's likely not as bad as you thought ( it's an old process called, "naming your demons")
By putting solutions down on paper, you're making a plan to correct these problems, which should give you an idea of what you need to do!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That is tough for anyone, but especially hard for the mother of a five month old!. You need therapy, but if you cannot find free help, talk to clergy or a network of family and friends!.
A strong network of female friends is a lifesaver!. They can boost you through a bad relationship, marriage and anything that falls in your path to happiness!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
A strong network of female friends is a lifesaver!. They can boost you through a bad relationship, marriage and anything that falls in your path to happiness!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I struggle with the same problem!. What will the future have in store for me and my family!? What if the world falls apart!? I never used to think this way, at some point I started feeling responsible for everyone else!. This kind of manifests inside me as a guilt complex!. Guilt and shame can control YOU!. You have to disconnect I think, and just be slightly positive force in the world!. forgive yourself for the things you cannot control!. whatever happens, happens!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
maybe try 2 take yoga cuz it helps relax u and u seem like u need 2 relax (not 2 b mean or nofin)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Get some counseling!. I think you will find that this problem is much easier to fix than you might imagine!. I was the same way!. Make a list of everything that you actually have total control over!. My counselor told me to do this, and you will find it is an extremely short list!. You need to accept that the baby's father is out of your life, and let him go!. Create a little ritual and say goodbye to him!. (Symbolically, not in person!.) You can't put your focus here!. Put it on positive changes and events in your OWN life!.
Get some counseling!. With support and guidance you can overcome this problem and you will be a lot happier!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Get some counseling!. With support and guidance you can overcome this problem and you will be a lot happier!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hi!. i am the same way !. Im not a bad person at all and people always say im kind hearted and a good person!. BUT, i do have my controlling up tight side that sometimes keeps me from getting along well with others!.I think its my strong personality that clashes with them!. My mom sometimes tell me she wonders how i can have so many honest and good friends with my attitude!. She also tells me to change the way i am now because people get tired of it and can start walking away from you little by little!. I think in order to be a better person you need to free your mind of all these negative thoughts!. Stop worrying about what your ex is doing and focus on yourself!. Go get an education, or improve it if you already have one, go the gym or exercise so that you feel more better mentally and physically and you will be much more happy!. You wont be so uptight anymore and will attract more positive things in your life!. You owe it to your daughter to be happy!. Because if you dont get yourself together she's the one that will suffer the most from having and unstable mother, home, family relationships, etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com