How do I stop this grief?!
Question: How do I stop this grief!?
I fell in-love with the most terrific woman 3 years ago!. I lost her six months ago to cancer!. She never told me her true feelings for me, but I know she cared more than she let on!. She knew she was dying, but I stayed in denial to the very end!. I love her still-death hasn't changed that!. Is it crazy to still love someone and miss them even when they are gone!. My grief and depression even taking an antidepressant is so that I can hardly function!. I miss her badly and think only of the day when I can join her!. Now, do not get me wrong, I do not wish to commit suicide, I just want her back!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Jennifer!? This someone else's account, or are you a lesbian!? Not that it matters!. Just wondering!.
Well yeah, it's perfectly normal to feel like that in the first months after someone you love dies!.!.!. I know, I lost my father three years ago!. But your situation is worse, because you didn't have her for as long as I had my dad, and it seems you never really got closure!. That's really hard to do once the person is gone!.!.!.
There's not a lot you can do, except wait!.
I wrote a poem about that, actually!.!.!.!.
Until the Water Runs Clear
There are some things
You should never have to hear
The whisper of the shadows
The murmur of your fears
There are some things
Some afflictions so severe
You scarcely know you have it
Until it disappears
There are some things
That will only heal by tears
And all you can do is cry, and wait
Until the Water Runs Clear
?KikiWww@Answer-Health@Com
Well yeah, it's perfectly normal to feel like that in the first months after someone you love dies!.!.!. I know, I lost my father three years ago!. But your situation is worse, because you didn't have her for as long as I had my dad, and it seems you never really got closure!. That's really hard to do once the person is gone!.!.!.
There's not a lot you can do, except wait!.
I wrote a poem about that, actually!.!.!.!.
Until the Water Runs Clear
There are some things
You should never have to hear
The whisper of the shadows
The murmur of your fears
There are some things
Some afflictions so severe
You scarcely know you have it
Until it disappears
There are some things
That will only heal by tears
And all you can do is cry, and wait
Until the Water Runs Clear
?KikiWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am sorry that you lost your love one!.!.!.its okay to cry for her, however remember this she still is here with you!.!.!.her spirit still lives on!.!.I know its hard on you!.!.!.but she always look over you as if she is your guardian angel!.!.!.I know for a fact she will like you to go on and meet someone new that you will enjoy again!. (smile and laugh with)!.!.please take care of yourself!.!.remember she still see you!.!.she wants you to smile again!.!.and live life again!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You're still in the early stages of grief -- and not just grieving the loss of the woman herself, but the potential of what could have been!.
Give yourself time!. Go to a grief group - you'll find it immensely helpful!. To find one, just contact a hospice center or funeral home in your area!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Give yourself time!. Go to a grief group - you'll find it immensely helpful!. To find one, just contact a hospice center or funeral home in your area!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
your story truly touched me and i am sorry for your loss!. seek some counseling it will really help you, you dont have to forget her or stop loving her but you need to learn to move forward in your life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
grief is such a personal thing and experienced differently by everybody and stages of shock, denial, anger, regret and deep grief are all part of the natural reaction and process to healing!. As time goes by you will find that the memories which are so bitter sweet now will eventually be cherished memories that bring warmth to your heart at the thought of her!. At the moment it is still very raw for you and the ending of her days are foremost in your memory but this will fade and be replaced with all the fond times, laughter, fun and love that you shared with her!. I like to think that loved one's are only a thought away, they are with you in some sense everytime you think of them!. Anybody that touches our hearts leaves a precious footprint on our soul!. You will find a way to get through this, just allow yourself the time you need!. xWww@Answer-Health@Com
You know it is physically impossible for her to come back!. But you can let her come back in your mind!. Just tell your mind that she is away in Asia or Europe on a long vacation!. That you are waiting for her!.!.!.!.and that you will do things that will make her happy when she comes back!.!.!.
Tell your mind that everything is okay and that you have to go and function like other people do!.!.!.!.!.something productive that will make her proud of you!.!.!.!.go meet some friends !.!.!.!.!.real friends and who knows, by then, you have accepted the fact that she won't return back and !.!.!.!.!.!.
Love another girl who is as terrific as your lost love!. Right now, you are still harboring guilt of not confessing your true feelings to the one you love !.!.!.and lost her!. Take it from your experience, be true to your feelings when the right girl comes along!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell your mind that everything is okay and that you have to go and function like other people do!.!.!.!.!.something productive that will make her proud of you!.!.!.!.go meet some friends !.!.!.!.!.real friends and who knows, by then, you have accepted the fact that she won't return back and !.!.!.!.!.!.
Love another girl who is as terrific as your lost love!. Right now, you are still harboring guilt of not confessing your true feelings to the one you love !.!.!.and lost her!. Take it from your experience, be true to your feelings when the right girl comes along!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am sorry for your loss!. It is not crazy to still love someone when they are gone!. Sometimes when someone we love dies, we can feel disloyal to them by going on and living our own life!. We can come to feel that we are somehow honoring them, thinking that "if they cannot live and enjoy life, I won't either" because it can also seem to somehow keep you connected to the person!. The best way to honor her would be to go through your grieving process, and then go on and live a full and happy life!. You say that you know she cared for you!. I'm sure she did and she would want you to live your life!. The other person who answered is right, find a support group!. They can be an amazing amount of help!. But also get back to other aspects of your life too!. If you can just force yourself to do one thing you used to enjoy and haven't been doing, it's a first step to regaining your life!. Best WishesWww@Answer-Health@Com