Is he a Problem Drinker or am I crazy?!
Question: Is he a Problem Drinker or am I crazy!?
My Fiancee is not an alcoholic I do not think- but when he engages in drinking he wants to keep going!. He has ruined many special nights by drinking too much- he promised to cut back long ago, but the deal fell through!. He drinks one whole bottle of wine himself a few nights a week, and on the weekends- particuarly Saturdays, more than that!. He slurrs & acts embarassing early on- I can't take much more!. Am I crazy or does he have a problem of some sort!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I don't understand how you could become engaged to someone and not realize they have a problem!. Well, not that you have noticed and you have tried to speak with him about it and he still hasn't cut back, then you need to make your choice!. DOn't wait until you're married and expect him to change, because he will be drinking a lot more then!. TRUST ME! And if he knows you don't like it then he will hide it from you!. Good Luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There are a few types of alcoholics!. Some drink a little every day, others can goes days without a drink, but can't stop once they do!.
Sounds like your fiancee falls into the later category, and yes, based on your description, I would say he has a drinking problem!.
I had a step-father and girlfriend exactly like you describe, so I am well familiar with the bahavior!. He should get professional help BEFORE you marry him, as promises won't do much!.
He may also want to see a doctor and see if he is hypoglycemic, as that can sometimes cause the cravings that don't allow him to stop once he starts!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds like your fiancee falls into the later category, and yes, based on your description, I would say he has a drinking problem!.
I had a step-father and girlfriend exactly like you describe, so I am well familiar with the bahavior!. He should get professional help BEFORE you marry him, as promises won't do much!.
He may also want to see a doctor and see if he is hypoglycemic, as that can sometimes cause the cravings that don't allow him to stop once he starts!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Let's see !. !. !. causes problems by drinking too much!. Promises to cut back, but that "fell through" and he begins "drinking too much" again!. Drinks to the point of slurred speech and uncontrollable behavior that causes difficulties for you!.
That's alcoholism!. You've already experienced negative consequences of his drinking: ruined special nights, embarrassment to yourself, promises that aren't kept!.
Get yourself to counseling, or to Alanon!. You have nothing to gain by tolerating his drinking behavior, and you can't help him by getting him to make promises that his alcohol addiction won't let him keep!. You're fighting a behavioral syndrome (some call it a disease) that YOU cannot change!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That's alcoholism!. You've already experienced negative consequences of his drinking: ruined special nights, embarrassment to yourself, promises that aren't kept!.
Get yourself to counseling, or to Alanon!. You have nothing to gain by tolerating his drinking behavior, and you can't help him by getting him to make promises that his alcohol addiction won't let him keep!. You're fighting a behavioral syndrome (some call it a disease) that YOU cannot change!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There's different kinds of "drinking problems"!. The classic alcoholic is truly addicted, and cannot function normally without drink!. Behaviors include drinking in the morning, etc!.
The other kind is a "binge drunk"!. If someone cannot merely have one or two drinks, get a slight "buzz" and then stop, they DO have a drinking problem, and would be wise to avoid drinking altogether!.
It's about moderation and self-control!. If a person sets out to get drunk in the first place, and succeeds, this does not indicate a problem!. If they have a drink or two, NOT intending to get drunk, then lose control and drink too much, they have a PROBLEM!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The other kind is a "binge drunk"!. If someone cannot merely have one or two drinks, get a slight "buzz" and then stop, they DO have a drinking problem, and would be wise to avoid drinking altogether!.
It's about moderation and self-control!. If a person sets out to get drunk in the first place, and succeeds, this does not indicate a problem!. If they have a drink or two, NOT intending to get drunk, then lose control and drink too much, they have a PROBLEM!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds like a binge drinker!. It's obviously a problem for you or you wouldn't be asking this question, therefore it's a problem!. Alcoholic - no, candidate to become one - yes!.
My comment would be that if this behavior bothers you now, don't expect marriage to magically cure it!. Plan on your wedding reception to be a disaster based on your comments about current behavior!.
I'd seek counseling now before the marriage!. It's easier to call off the marriage now than it will be get divorced later!. Maybe if you postpone or cancel the wedding he will give up drinking, or at least learn how to control himself!.
The problem with a binge drinker is they don't know when they've had enough!. They need to learn to set a limit before they start and stick with it!. That is very hard to do once the alcohol kicks in and they are in an environment conducive to drinking!.
He has to want to change the behavior!. If he isn't willing to do that, then you know where you rank on his list of needs!. Do you want to be lower priority than Jack Daniels the rest of your life!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
My comment would be that if this behavior bothers you now, don't expect marriage to magically cure it!. Plan on your wedding reception to be a disaster based on your comments about current behavior!.
I'd seek counseling now before the marriage!. It's easier to call off the marriage now than it will be get divorced later!. Maybe if you postpone or cancel the wedding he will give up drinking, or at least learn how to control himself!.
The problem with a binge drinker is they don't know when they've had enough!. They need to learn to set a limit before they start and stick with it!. That is very hard to do once the alcohol kicks in and they are in an environment conducive to drinking!.
He has to want to change the behavior!. If he isn't willing to do that, then you know where you rank on his list of needs!. Do you want to be lower priority than Jack Daniels the rest of your life!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your fiance is an alcoholic!. YOU must deal with that, but you can't 'tell him' and expect him to do anything about it !.!.!. an alcoholic must find out for themselves that they are alcoholic and need help, and he may go on drinking heavily for some time!. What you do is up to you !.!.!. but do call AlAnon, the support group for people who are family or friends of alcoholics, for help!. It's in the phone book or online!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i was like that also and my partner also had enough of it!.
i use to drink and could not get enough, i was not a nice man to go out with!. and i knew it and so does he!.
the love and addiction is so strong!. I always thought i needed a drink to enjoy myself!. the problem is it gets worse!. i remember drink only a few beers every night,!. then a couple more and more!. soon i did nothing with my life only drank!. it does overcome us!. and sometimes even the love of a partner is not enough to stop it!.
I do not think he is at that stage yet however!. a bottle of wine a night would of been like soda to me!. catch it girl before it is too late!. talk serious to him!. i am sure he will deny it however!.
if he does you should think about the your future!. i was a terrible partner and hurt her so much, i hope the same does not happen to you too!.
you must sort it out!.
it is not a choice it is an addiction,
and deep down he wants to stop
hope all will be ok!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i use to drink and could not get enough, i was not a nice man to go out with!. and i knew it and so does he!.
the love and addiction is so strong!. I always thought i needed a drink to enjoy myself!. the problem is it gets worse!. i remember drink only a few beers every night,!. then a couple more and more!. soon i did nothing with my life only drank!. it does overcome us!. and sometimes even the love of a partner is not enough to stop it!.
I do not think he is at that stage yet however!. a bottle of wine a night would of been like soda to me!. catch it girl before it is too late!. talk serious to him!. i am sure he will deny it however!.
if he does you should think about the your future!. i was a terrible partner and hurt her so much, i hope the same does not happen to you too!.
you must sort it out!.
it is not a choice it is an addiction,
and deep down he wants to stop
hope all will be ok!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Honestly from what I read this is a problem!. Quote " he drinks one whole bottle himself A FEW NIGHTS A WEEK and on the WEEKENDS"!.
A few nights a week would be at least 2 plus 2 days on the weekend!. So, he is drinking at least 4 days out of the 7 in a week!?
Unfortunately with problems such as alcohol or drugs, you can not force someone to get help!. They have to want to be helped!. Although an Intervention can help!. Have you tried to let the family members know of your concern!?
I would start with them and see where you can go from there!.
Good Luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
A few nights a week would be at least 2 plus 2 days on the weekend!. So, he is drinking at least 4 days out of the 7 in a week!?
Unfortunately with problems such as alcohol or drugs, you can not force someone to get help!. They have to want to be helped!. Although an Intervention can help!. Have you tried to let the family members know of your concern!?
I would start with them and see where you can go from there!.
Good Luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The experts say that an addiction is any behavior that disrupts your life!. If his drinking is causing problems when you are out and in your relationship, you may want to seek a counselor!. My ex-fiance was a functioning alcoholic!. He was able to work and function, but he had to drink everyday to maintain!. I am not calling your fiance an "alcoholic" but his drinking is having an impact on your life!. Hope this is helpful!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I had this same problem with my fiance!. It took me staying with my mom for a week for him to realize he was pushing me away!. You need to do something duratic like this to catch his attention!. My fiance still drinks but not to the point where he gets drunk and ruins everything!. He'll have 3 beers a few nights a week and drink a little on the weekends!. If that doesn't work, get drunker than he does and ruin his special plans!. Let him know how it feels! He needs to know he is ruining the relationship!. Good luck hun!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, he is a alcoholic!.
If he can not control his drinking!.
I was drinking 30 cans of beer a week when
I stopped!.
I was worried I was becoming a alcoholic!.
My father drank alot more than he should!.
PLEASE do not marry him until he stops drinking!.
If you think it is bad now, believe me it will get worse!.
A alcoholic can not cut back, they must completely stop!.
GOOD LUCK to you BOTHWww@Answer-Health@Com
If he can not control his drinking!.
I was drinking 30 cans of beer a week when
I stopped!.
I was worried I was becoming a alcoholic!.
My father drank alot more than he should!.
PLEASE do not marry him until he stops drinking!.
If you think it is bad now, believe me it will get worse!.
A alcoholic can not cut back, they must completely stop!.
GOOD LUCK to you BOTHWww@Answer-Health@Com
Well, he might not have a drinking problem NOW, but if he doesn't stop or slow down a lot soon it could turn into one!. You have to tell him!. If you can't stay with him if he drinks that heavily, then tell him that, too!. He's causing YOU grief, and that's not someone you want to get married to!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
he has a problem!. alcoholics come in all shapes and sizes - they don't fit the stereotypes put out there!. he can't keep the deal b/c he CAN'T!. you can't bargain enough!. go to al-anon for support or he will make you crazy!. wishing you the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i would think he has a Problem
if he cant give up drinking for you, and your both engaged to one another then i would seek some Help
maybe a consular!.
and no your not crazy!.
its a problem that needs help, more professional like help wheither he likes it or not!.
Good Luck! :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
if he cant give up drinking for you, and your both engaged to one another then i would seek some Help
maybe a consular!.
and no your not crazy!.
its a problem that needs help, more professional like help wheither he likes it or not!.
Good Luck! :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
he does have a problem and the first is that he should admit it
it's not full scale alcoholic but he could turn into one if he doesn't cut back on the drinking now
tell him he needs to cut down and that you'll support him!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
it's not full scale alcoholic but he could turn into one if he doesn't cut back on the drinking now
tell him he needs to cut down and that you'll support him!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
He does have a problem!.
I think you need to confront him with this!. It seems he drinks for comfort and to make himself feel better!. In the future, this can develop to alcoholism!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you need to confront him with this!. It seems he drinks for comfort and to make himself feel better!. In the future, this can develop to alcoholism!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I guess the best thing to do is to tell him to stop!. If he dosn't, leave for a while!.!.!. make sure its dramatic, maybe then he might actually think about the way he makes you feel when he drinks the way he does!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes he has a problem!. The main thing is to ask him if he thinks he does, and if he said he'd cut back, then he does know its a problem!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Um, honey, he sounds like an alcoholic!. You say he drinks multiple bottles of wine a week!? I think he needs help!.
A giveaway is that once he starts, he can't stop!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
A giveaway is that once he starts, he can't stop!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
hes an achoholic!. its not about quantity its more about control!. they dont have drink all the time, if they do and cant stop they have a problemWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am the same way!. Once I start, I don't even know that I'm pounding them and I get wasted!. Problem solved by not even starting!. That's what I do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes he does seem to have a drinking problem!.
It will only get worse the more stressed he gets!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It will only get worse the more stressed he gets!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds like he has a problem!. He needs help cutting back and if he can't do that he may need to quit all together!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He is an alcoholic!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You must be crazy! Hes not an alcoholic! HA! (Sarcasm :))Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell him- if its causing problems, then he has a problem!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He has a problem!. BY the way you put it!.!.!.he has a problem I think!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think he has a probelm!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
hmm neitherWww@Answer-Health@Com
He has no problem drinking!.!.!.!.and you are not crazy!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
u r crazyWww@Answer-Health@Com