How can a girl gain her confidence back?!

Mel,

I hope you are no longer with this man, since it seems he has issues of his own! Any man who tries to control a woman and make her feel less than she deserves is someone who cannot control their own lives!. Therefore, they'll take it out on others, namely those they think are vulnerable!.

There should be nothing you have to change about yourself, unless YOU yourself want it!. No one should be dictating who you are!. However, I understand in an emotionally abusive relationship, which you unfortunately found yourself in, can take a toll on one's confidence, even someone who has an abundance of self-esteem!. If you just broke up with the guy, give it some time!. Let yourself heal!. Your self-confidence isn't gone forever!.!.!. it's just taken a huge blow!. You're still a beautiful woman no matter what anyone says!. That @$$hole's going to regret missing out on such an amazing woman!!!

Take some time out to breathe, enjoy life, go treat yourself to some enjoyable activities (get a manicure, go out with the girls, have lunch with your best friend, etc!.!.!.) and get your life back! Everything heals with time!. Don't give up!Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Just repeat to yourself that your in this world for a reason and that your worth a lot!. Don't let a guy manipulate you it's not worth it!. Don't let no one ruin your life!. Appretiate yourself !.

Love Your Smile
Love your Laugh
Love your Spirit
Love your Friends
Love your Family
Love your body
Love your mind
Love your soul
Love your strenghts
Love your weaknesses
Love Yourself!.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hope it helps :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Tell him to get on his bike and take a hike!
Read a lot of positive thinking stuff and take care of your body like going to gym every day!. That will really help when you start looking in the mirror and falling in love with yourself!. When you love yourself then guys start really checking you out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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First of all, you need to know that you are what YOU ARE! You are not what you are bcos of someone else!. Your value cannot be determined by what others think your value is!. I think you already know how to do it since you have done it and are aware that you are capable of doing it!.
Next, you need to care and respect for your self first!. If you dont do that, for yourself, dont expect anyone else to do it for you!. They wont!.

You need to have some priorities for yourself and be clear about them!. If your priority is to please this guy, it is Ok but dont do it at the expense of other important things in life!. You have your beleifs, your values, your conscience!. Dont hurt them, without them, you will not feel like yourself and end up being a stranger to yourself!. So make sure whatever you do, you are agreeable to yourself!.
for all you know, instead of just agreeing to DONT TALK TO GUYS, DONT TEXT GUYS etc maybe if you has asserted urself in the right way, things would not go to extremes!. Guys usually like to show off that they are powerful and like to excercise power whereever they can!. , The key is to avoid confrontation in such situations but also reach an amicable decision!. so, all the best! Since you have already been there, done that, it should not be difficult for you at all!. Cheer up!Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Think about exactly why she was his EX!!! She wised up, and left! If you need an HONEST appraisal of your looks, post a photo in photobucket!.com and email me the details, and I'll appraise it, or ask for opinions here (beware of trolls lurking in the E bushes!)!. The following is a bit of a dog's breakfast, but take what you can use from it!. See self esteem/confidence, in section 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!. (!.net!.nz/~shaneris) [Type, and enter the following URL, in the usual manner: h t t p : / / w w w !. e z y - b u i l d !. n e t !. n z / ~ s h a n e r i s ] and consider volunteering, even from home, at first!. It will also provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I !.!.(insert activity here)!.!." Section 47 also refers!. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated: there are many options; one is sure to suit you!. Practise one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed!. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you !. Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o at ezy-build also refer!. "Even though I sometimes have low self esteem/confidence, I deeply and completely accept myself"!. ~~~ Read: "Lift your mood now!." by John D Preston, Psy!.D!. 2001, New Harbinger Publications, Inc!., 5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland!. CA 94609 http://www!.amazon!.com/ may be worth trying for this, as it has a good section on building self esteem, using a different approach!. ~~~
1!. Build up your self-esteem!. You must take an inventory!. What do you want to improve or change about the way you interact with others!? Try to make only one change at a time!. Always check you progress before making another change!.

2!. Celebrate your journey, not your destination!. Learn to always feel good about where you are now, and to exude self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow!.

3!. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction!. Know what you want!. Think about how the people you will be meeting can help you reach those goals!. Then decide how to approach each person accordingly!. Apply this regularly and you will notice a difference!.

4!. Be proactive!. Take the initiative!. Be decisive!. Let the other person know exactly how he or she can help you!. Proactive people tend to be more successful in their career!.

5!. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important!. (You'll be amazed how this works!.)

6!. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in the eye!. Practice both of these!. Your handshake should be just right!. Not too firm and not too loose!. Train yourself to notice something you like or find attractive in the person!.

7!. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good listening skills!. Learn a way to remember the other person's name!. If in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3 sentences into the conversation!. [ AND MINE: USE THEIR NAME FOR A WHILE, OFTEN, AT FIRST, SO IT HAS A BETTER CHANCE OF MAKING THE TRANSITION FROM SHORT TERM, TO LONG TERM MEMORY!. FOR EXAMPLE: "What sort of things are you interested in, Obediah!? I like archery, and train spotting, but am no longer combining the two!." next: "I'm from Upper Volta, Obediah, Where are you from, originally!?" READ SECTION 41, AT EZY BUILD, FOR MORE MEMORY TIPS!.]

8!. Visibly respond to the other person!. Smile, nod agreement, and address him or her by name!. Apply all you listening skills to visibly respond!. The body language is the most important part of a conversation!. Practice, practice, practice

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