Emotional abuse by an 8yr old?!
Question: Emotional abuse by an 8yr old!?
I have an 8yr old daughter!. Her father and I split when she was 5!. have since married a wonderful man whom she calls daddy and she adores him and vice versa!. My prob is this!. Sometimes she is in a wonderful mood!. And then out of nowhere, she becomes a different child!. I told her one day to come get the toys we had opened for her and that turned into her screaming,punching the wall, saying I don't love her and so on!. It lasted about an hour than she was fine!. Those types of fits aren't that often but it is always something!. She yells at us all the time!. I have yet to find a punishment that works!. She just says she doesn't care!. I am at the point where I feel like I am emotionally abused by her!. She tells me she hates me and all types of things!. It makes me feel like I am not a good mom and it also makes me sometimes wish I didn't have her and that makes me feel horrible to even think that!. I have tried some counseling and that hasn't helped either!. I am at the end if my rope!Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I am not sure what you can do about it as I have a child who has been like that for 25 years and 3 that have no problems!. I just wanted to say I know how you feel and it is a horrible way to live!. I thought counseling, understanding, and enough love would do it but about the time I think we have made progress there is another outburst!. In my case I have finally realized it isn't my fault but that was not without years of guilt for absolutely anything and everything!. Counseling did not help her but it did help me!. I would start with counseling for yourself and then go from there!. I know many people will say it is your fault because you allow it but I will tell you that they do not know anything about personality disorders and they were fortunate enough to not be forced to learn about it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
okay you are not abusing her just becuse you told her to pick you her toys if she is going to act like that lock her in her room till she can calm down kids are wierd especially girls CRAZY but if she tells you she hates you just tell her yeah i know i love you too put her in her room and leave the toys there until she is calm to pick them up if she is going to act like that keep putting her in time out till she calms down i dont have an 8 year old but i was oneWww@Answer-Health@Com
send her *** to her father!. Point blank she's a brat and need to be tought to respect her elders!. Now once she is sent to her father's house and she cant get what she wants all that yelling and screaming will stop!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
im from trinidad right!.!.and if that was my child i would buss a slap in her ***!!!!!.!.!.!.but i guess you cant do that so y don't three of you all go counseling together!? try itWww@Answer-Health@Com
no punishment has worked yet!?
you cant let her treat you this way, if it comes to slapping her then slap her!!
because if you dont stop her now
shes going to grow up
and become violent with others!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you cant let her treat you this way, if it comes to slapping her then slap her!!
because if you dont stop her now
shes going to grow up
and become violent with others!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are being too submissive!. You have to remember who the parent is!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Have you tried think that she may be bipolar!. I am not saying it is but it may be an option!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
sorry to say this but this is your fault!. you are allowing her to treat you that way!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
discipline her until she stops doing that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
try being the person she thinks you are and see how she likes that !. you must stay in controleWww@Answer-Health@Com
Don't put up with her tantrums!.!. When she starts acting out, make her stay in her room, alone!.There she won't have anyone to abuse!. Make her stay there until she calms down, and says she is sorry to you!. and your husband!. If she keeps coming out of her room, put her back in it, even if you have to do it fifty times (she'll eventually get the message that you are not kidding)!. When she yells at you take a privilege away from her that she enjoys, and tell her the reason why you are doing it!. Don't argue with her, that just draws it out longer!. Most of all, be consistent , and stick to your principles!. If you said,"no" about something not acceptable to you, make her understand that it will never be acceptable to you!. Good luck!. Don't be so hard on yourself!. It's not easy raising children up right!. Bad parents find parenting very easy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Counseling for you or for her!? Sounds like she has some anger issues towards you, probably over the split with her real dad!.!.!. I think she could use some counseling to deal with what she is feeling!. Punishing her is pointless if her problem is emotional!. Does she act out in school or just with you!? If it is just with you, then there is your answer, she has some unresolved resentment probably over her family breaking up!. Clearly someone you have recently married is not her "daddy" despite what she may call him, she knows he is not!. I would be more concerned with her well being then with feeling like you are emotionally abused!. It's not about your hurt feelings, it's about your child who is obviously hurting!.!.!.get her help before it gets worse and she grows up to be a emotionally unstable angry person!.
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Maybe the two of you can go away somewhere for a weekend alone for some mom and daughter bonding, maybe if you are alone with her and away somewhere it will be easier to try and have a heart to heart with her one on one!. Maybe she will respond to that because she will feel special having you all to herself and giving her all of your attention!. Good Luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Maybe the two of you can go away somewhere for a weekend alone for some mom and daughter bonding, maybe if you are alone with her and away somewhere it will be easier to try and have a heart to heart with her one on one!. Maybe she will respond to that because she will feel special having you all to herself and giving her all of your attention!. Good Luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I've been through the same thing!.!.!. but I was probably worse!. Sooner or later it will turn around for you, I did!. But just tell her everyday that you love her!. Tell her that you care, that you want to be loved by her back!. If the soft correction doesn't work start being stern!. If she tells you she hates you, send her to her room!. She needs to behave, your the adult, don't let her push you around like that!.!.!. My mom got angry with me too when I blamed her for the divorce!. But she always came back to me and EXPLAINED why she was harsh!.!.!. It takes a while, I know I did!. Just tell her you love her and be stern when you need to!.!.!. don't be a push over mom, that wont do well when she gets older!. Best of wishes!Www@Answer-Health@Com
SHE HAS SERIOUS PROBLEMS!. MAYBE LIKE A!.D!.D , ANGER OR SOMETHING, YOU SHOULD REALLY CHECK TO SEE WHATS GOING ON CUS AN EIGHT YEAR OLD SHOULD NOT BE DOING THIS, AND SHE CERTAINLY SHOULDNT HAVE THE ABILITY TO MAKE YOU FEEL THIS WAY!
YOU NEED TO PRESS THE ISSUE SEEK SECOND, THIRD, FOURTH OPINIONS!.!.!. SHE MAY NEED TO TAKE MEDICATION, SHE MAY BE BIPOLAR!.!.!. WHO KNOWS
THE FACT IS THAT YOU KNOW WHATS GOING ON AND YOU SHOULD DEFFINITELY COMMUNICATE THE SEVERITY OF THE PROBLEM TO AS MANY DOCS AS YOU CAN TILL SOMEONE CAN HELP YOU!.
DO IT BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
YOU NEED TO PRESS THE ISSUE SEEK SECOND, THIRD, FOURTH OPINIONS!.!.!. SHE MAY NEED TO TAKE MEDICATION, SHE MAY BE BIPOLAR!.!.!. WHO KNOWS
THE FACT IS THAT YOU KNOW WHATS GOING ON AND YOU SHOULD DEFFINITELY COMMUNICATE THE SEVERITY OF THE PROBLEM TO AS MANY DOCS AS YOU CAN TILL SOMEONE CAN HELP YOU!.
DO IT BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!.Www@Answer-Health@Com