I'm driving my husband away with my depression? please help?!
Question: I'm driving my husband away with my depression!? please help!?
Hi!. I've developed depression over the last year!. After a major relocation-maybe it had something to do with it, who knows!?
But I really feel my husband is slipping away!. He pursues his hobbies (biking) and works so long that I feel he is avoiding me on purpose!. Like, one evening together a week!.
Please give advice--how can I let him know I love him but I'm just not feeling very well right now!?
For the record I am being treated by a doctor and mostly am high functioning!. No kids!.
Thank you!Www@Answer-Health@Com
But I really feel my husband is slipping away!. He pursues his hobbies (biking) and works so long that I feel he is avoiding me on purpose!. Like, one evening together a week!.
Please give advice--how can I let him know I love him but I'm just not feeling very well right now!?
For the record I am being treated by a doctor and mostly am high functioning!. No kids!.
Thank you!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
The first thing that you have to do is get him to really understand what depression is!. Take him with you to the doctors so that he can have it explained to him by a professional, that way he can't say that it's in your head!. The next thing that you have to do is find a way of making a life for yourself that doesn't involve your husband so that you're not so needy!. IF you don't work out side of the home, go on line and find your area's web site and find volunteer opportunities, It will give you something to do besides dwell on your unhappiness and it will help you to learn the area and met new people!. It will also get you out of the house more often and give your life a better sense of purpose, If you work than look for places you and he can go together on the weekends so that you develop a shared interests!. Some times when we're dealing with depression we get so caught up with that that it's all we think about, talk about, and it gets to the point where the other people in our lives wish that we would move the tape to something else!. I know I've dealt with depression for more than 40 years and there have been times when it's been the only thing in my life that I could deal with!. I know that it's hard but you can learn to deal with both the depression and the other important things in your life also!. But you have to be willing to move past just what's going on in your little part of the world!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He's right!. In trying to get his 'approval' or his 'attention', you're only showing that you need him to validate yourself!.
Get your depression in line, to a point where what you do independent of him causes you happiness and you both will end up back together!. Fix you, and the relationship will fix itself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Get your depression in line, to a point where what you do independent of him causes you happiness and you both will end up back together!. Fix you, and the relationship will fix itself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The major relocation could definitely have something to do with your depression!. Have you made any new friends out there!? Are there any activities you can get involved in!? Since he's got a hobby, do you have any!? Maybe even something simple like gardening!.
Try cooking him a special dinner!.!.!.maybe candles on the table!? And while depression is tough to deal with at times, maybe you can try to be positive for that night!. Try replacing the negative thoughts with positive ones!. Just because he's pursuing his hobbies and working long hours doesn't necessarily mean he's avoding you!. That may be the depression working on your mind!. Have you talked to your doctor about this!?
I wish you all the best of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try cooking him a special dinner!.!.!.maybe candles on the table!? And while depression is tough to deal with at times, maybe you can try to be positive for that night!. Try replacing the negative thoughts with positive ones!. Just because he's pursuing his hobbies and working long hours doesn't necessarily mean he's avoding you!. That may be the depression working on your mind!. Have you talked to your doctor about this!?
I wish you all the best of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com