What does a *troubled childhood* have to do with anything?!


Question: What does a *troubled childhood* have to do with anything!?
people getting into trouble and doing drugs!?!?
my parents are sending me away for being a bad *** and doing drugs!.!. hehh!.!.
mom and her friends were talking about me and her friend said it's because of my childhood and whats going on right now,
and that my parents should try to make things up too me and maybe i'd get better!.
!.!. no I would'nt, i'm just having fun dude :]

but the thing is I don't care!.!.
I just have problems with authority because well!.!.
people with "authority" in my life don't deserve it and are stupid!.
I mean people just suck you know!.!. ^_^

but could my life affect me without me noticing!?!?
does it reallyy have to do with a shitty life!?
or am I naturally a physco!?

how exactly does a bad childhood affect you as a person!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
Well, I have a 19yr!. old who is doing pretty much the same thing!.

From a parent's view!.!.!.!.THEY ARE SCARED OUT OF THEIR MINDS something terrible will happen!. You, being young, don't think that will happen!. No one knows WHAT will happen if you continue doing drugs, but being a parent, we think about the really scary stuff!.

You are NOT a psycho!. You said you were doing dope to have fun!. Could you maybe ask yourself a couple of things!. Not saying you have to, just maybe!. 1!. Am I doing drugs because I like the feeling it gives me!? 2!. Could I have just as good OR better of a time being straight!? 3!. Could I be angry or upset about something in my life and the drugs make it so I don't have to think about it!?

You said "but the think is I don't care"!. My daughter said the same thing!.!.!.!.I understand that!. Right now, she doesn't care!. Did she have a sort-of unhappy childhood!? Yea!. I did what I only knew what to do for her, but it wasn't what she wanted!. She wanted her father back in the home, but he was violent and dangerous and a child molester!.!.!.!.some pretty bad stuff!.!.!.and I could not have him in the home any more!. She wanted him to be the perfect dad but he couldn't!. It still makes her very angry and sad and she drinks and takes drugs thinking it will make her happy and forget it all!. But what happens when you are sober!? You think about trying to do anything to make it not hurt anymore!.

I understand about the "authority" stuff!.!.!.you don't want to be told how to live your life!. Some people in authority don't say it right and it comes out bossy, mean and controlling!. I don't think yelling and threatening you are ways of helping you!. You maybe don't want any "help" now!. Maybe you just want to live this way for a while and maybe, sometime later, you'll do something about it!.

You asked if your life could affect you without you noticing!. Absolutely!. Most people on this planet live that way!. But because you are asking, you are smart!. The way our parents raised us, how they gave love and attention to us makes us act and think the way we do!. We don't have to stay that way, change is really possible!.

Yea, it has to do with a shitty life!. You are smart and you know there has to be a better way to live your life but maybe you don't want to think about it now!.

How does a bad childhood affect you as a person!? Well, we do stuff that tries to take the hurt away!. We drink or we take drugs or we get really involved in bad relationships because we think we're not worthy of being loved!. Some people eat too much, some people go in debt buying stuff and so on!. We do these things because we feel bad and we want something else to make us feel better!.

The problem with that is!.!.!.!.one day, maybe months or years from now!.!.!.!.the thing we do to make us feel better will no longer work!. It will be an enemy!. It won't work so we'll move on to something else and that will be worse!.

It sounds like your parents want you to go to some kind of rehab!? They can't make up for what they did, they can only make NOW better!. If you (and I don't know if you are) feel bad about stuff that happened when you were younger and what's happening now, it's OK to talk to someone about it!. It's also OK to listen to what they have to say!. Not saying you have to agree with it, but listening is good!. Your parents are going to have to do their part too and listen!. Some of the stuff you may tell them may be really angry but that is OK!. They need to hear it and take responsibility for their actions!.

You are so worth it! You are such a great person!. I know you're having fun!.!.!.the people that love you are just worried that it will get really ugly and scary!. They want you in their lives so much and really want to see you happy, but they might not know how to express it right and it comes out as anger!.

Try to remember, before you can love someone else, you have to learn how to love yourself!. You are amazing! You deserve a good life - but only you can give that to yourself!. And you HAVE that power!.

Thinking about you, wishing you great things in your life!Www@Answer-Health@Com

It just depends on the person and how they choose to deal with it - I have some friends who grew up rough but didn't let it bother them and now as adults their well adjusted !. On the other hand i have a few friends who had a hard time growing up and chose the path of drinking and drugging & sadly a few of them chose to end it all !. So for everyone its diffrent and all you can do is be a friend to the person and be there for them or suggest therapy of some sortWww@Answer-Health@Com

your childhood all depends on your personality or mostly it does!. if you had a messed up life or have one then you might feel like crap all the time and start doing drugs, cutting, etc!. good luck, hope this helped, and dont worry people care about you (including me)Www@Answer-Health@Com

It affects the way you act because you learn social patterns and behaviors from people and think its okey!.

Im sorry but quit being a selfish brat your parents love you and you doing drugs is really hurting them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

The "nruture" theory is that everything that happens in your developmental years leave its mark on you as an adult!. The "nature" theory is that some people are just born a!.ssholes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

No matter where you go, eventually you will have to deal with authorities!. I only deal with them enough just so they will leave me alone,lol!. Having a bad past does keep up with you your whole life!.!.!.even if your past is just a reputation and not actual fact!. I have been trying to get a"normal" life for years, and only recently have done it, mainly because some past"ghosts" have kept a normal life away from me!. You should try when you are still young to start planing for the kind of life you want to have, because it seems sometimes that just trying to mind your own business and live life your own way is not enough,lol!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Parents are authority figures!. When they fail kids, authority issues are common responses that stick thru life!. Sorta like you described!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. So, yes, *troubled childhood* leaves an "invisible mark" that takes some work to recognize and from there it's often an ongoing process of figuring out whether to use the automatic reactions, ignore them, or integrate them with something else!. Trusting is the other big one, and it can be generalized beyond authority!. Drugs and alcohol are masking and covering up!. I partied, too, and it was lots of fun!. Didn't change the rest of reality, though, even if I didn't fully realize it at the time!.

Not dealing with it doesn't have to be a shittty life, but it's apt to be less than it could be, and it has a greater risk of falling apart when you get older!. If part of your troubled childhood included abuse or neglect or parental alcoholism, you also are at a high risk for chronic depression, in which case dealing with it now may spare you a life of that problems or antidepressants!.

If you were psycho, you'd be off torturing animals instead of posting this question!. ;)Www@Answer-Health@Com





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