Having a big family has had so much impact on me?!
Question: Having a big family has had so much impact on me!?
I'm 15, and I have seven brothers and three sisters!. They all live in the same house as me!. I'm extremely dependent on people and on things, it's like I constantly have to be addicted to something!. I'm shy and paranoid unless I'm with someone, and I have terrible difficulty talking to anyone about anything personal!. I'm certain I suffer clinical depression, and I'm not able to tell anyone because I'm so bad at talking to people!. I just get so uncomfortable!. Around 6 months ago, I was addicted to alcohol until my school and social services found out and I was forced to give up!. But I was given no counselling whatsoever!. I got terrible withdrawal symptoms but kept everything to myself and even now, months on, I badly crave alcohol and feel lost without it!. Instead, I've noticed I constantly drink diet coke!. I think I have a need for dependancy on something at all times!. I feel my family life has made me like this, and is stopping me becoming independant!. I think maybe I feel like I don'tWww@Answer-Health@Com
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I had 7 Brothers and sisters and can understand to an extent where your head is at!. It is very easy in a large family to feel inadequate, not worth the effort to talk too!. (even a burden to those who love you) I think self image may be the first thing you need to overcome!. Nicotine and alcohol abuse are often signs of low self esteem and even, what I call, passive self destructive behavior!. If you need to be dependent on something, make it something positive!. 1st get away from that diet coke and smoking!. Start drinking water and juice!. Things that will not completely screw up your body chemistry more than puberty already does!. 2nd, stop punishing yourself!. Start reaffirming your self worth by any means possible!. Need something in your hand!? How about a book or even a diary or journal!. Start writing down what you want to say to others, write poems, draw or write short stories or whatever will keep you occupied in non self destructive behavior!. Get plenty of exercise and build yourself up to the point where you can ask for help!. I still have some trouble with that one but I'm a work in progress!. You need someone to talk to about this stuff!. Don't keep it bottled and hidden! (especially from yourself!.) I hope you get the help you need soon!. Be good to yourself!Www@Answer-Health@Com
From what you said here, it looks like you need something constant in your life!. Something dependable!. Soemthing to count on to not be scared to be open with!. To share your feelings and heart with!.
As lame as this may sound, I think that going to a local church's youth group would be a really good idea!. Many people at churches would want to help you so much!. Just go, and see how it is!. If you don't like it or feel uncomfortable, try a different one!. See how things go!. But being part of something positive, and group of people and meeting other people that will talk to you and are nice will help you become less shy!. God can help you!. Pray!. Seek!. And you will find God!. Alcohol, cigaretes, and therpy are not going to heal you!. Only make you feel better!. You need to problem that caused this to be healed in your heart!. God can do that!. I really hope you decide to go!. Make a change!. Take a chance!. Your in my prayers!. Feel better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As lame as this may sound, I think that going to a local church's youth group would be a really good idea!. Many people at churches would want to help you so much!. Just go, and see how it is!. If you don't like it or feel uncomfortable, try a different one!. See how things go!. But being part of something positive, and group of people and meeting other people that will talk to you and are nice will help you become less shy!. God can help you!. Pray!. Seek!. And you will find God!. Alcohol, cigaretes, and therpy are not going to heal you!. Only make you feel better!. You need to problem that caused this to be healed in your heart!. God can do that!. I really hope you decide to go!. Make a change!. Take a chance!. Your in my prayers!. Feel better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com