How can I tell the counsellor what I'm really thinking??!
Question: How can I tell the counsellor what I'm really thinking!?!?
I'm finding it hard to be open with my feelings when I'm talking to the counsellor!. I had my first session recently, and although I let a lot off my chest and it felt pretty good, most of the stuff that I told him is stuff that somewhere along the line I have mentioned here or there to someone else fairly light-heartedly (despite the core of them being pretty serious)!. The stuff that I did tell him that I have never told anyone I had to write down and read out rather than say it of the top of my head!. When he asks questions I have the answers in my head but I can't convert them to words!. It's almost as if I don't think it's real!.!.!. Things that I say in my head are things that I just can't say out loud!. The thing is in conversation and around oher people I feel happy, but in my mind and when I'm alone with my thoughts I just hate myself!. There are so many things that just wont come out my mouth when i'm talking to the counsellor!. has anyone had this problem!? How do you overcome it!?!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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It was only one session, so don't worry about not getting everything out!. However, the thing to realize is your couselor cannot help unless you are OPEN and HONEST!.!.!. don't worry about sounding like a weirdo or being judged!.!.!. they have heard worse, trust me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
honestly i had the same troubles, and its over for me and i never opened up and told her the truth!. and im in the same boat i was b4 that, and i think if i opened up to her, id probley be a lil more ok with myself!.
just remember they never leave the room, or anything, you can trust them cause they trust you!. but if you wanna feel better my best thing to tell you is to open up!. and i know its hard to cause i was there once b4!.
good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
just remember they never leave the room, or anything, you can trust them cause they trust you!. but if you wanna feel better my best thing to tell you is to open up!. and i know its hard to cause i was there once b4!.
good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Remember counselars aren't going to judge you and are there to help you, so trust them :)
It was only your first session, it takes time to fully trust!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It was only your first session, it takes time to fully trust!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well just try the reading them out loud thing for a while , then it might get easier!. Remeber that you are loved!. Your number 1 fans is Jesus Christ, and his father, God!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Write them out as you think them and bring the notebook to your sessions!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your normal, just say what you think!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
me tooWww@Answer-Health@Com
dude i totally understand u!. i!.ve just had 2 sessions and i to have held lots back!. i know its stupid but i worry that if he really knew what goes on in my head i would look like a real wacko!. i'm on efexor and epillin which isn't effective all the time!. i'm definitly a completely different person on the inside to what i show people, even family and friends!. it took me a year to admit stuff to my doctor which resulted in him prescribing epillin as i have bipolar!. maybe i will talk more next session, who knows!? but i really think that no matter what i say , im never going to feel normal or be fixed!. i sit there thinking yeh i'm telling you this but so what!? unless you have a magic pill for me, im wasting my time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Generally speaking if you write stuff down as you feel them, you can refer to the writings later when the feelings are not currently present!. You could write stuff down - even if it is the same "stuff" a few days later to see a pattern of such occurrences!. I haven't had this specific problem, but I have had trouble trying to explain my feelings in words!. When you have these feelings, when they are at their strongest, write down what you are thinking and explain as best you can AT THAT TIME what you feel and how you feel!. I know this could be difficult, but if you are REALLY determined to get this rectified, you should be able to force yourself to write during these troubled times!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds like you've found a good technique, writing things down!. How can you expect to communicate with someone else on these difficult topics if you haven't first practiced communicating sincerely with YOURSELF about them!?!. Also, the CONTEXT makes a big difference!. We spend a lot of time b!.s!. ing each other about things that are really serious, pretending that we are such invulnerable big shots that nothing gets to us!.
Pretty soon we start to buy the b!.s!. version ourselves, and that's what gets us into counseling! The heat of the moment and the crowd of approving faces melt away, and you have to get real!. It seems that you are very serious about your counseling process!. You're willing to face the pain involved!. I'd nominate you for a future peer counselor! More power to 'ya!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Pretty soon we start to buy the b!.s!. version ourselves, and that's what gets us into counseling! The heat of the moment and the crowd of approving faces melt away, and you have to get real!. It seems that you are very serious about your counseling process!. You're willing to face the pain involved!. I'd nominate you for a future peer counselor! More power to 'ya!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
u know what u've asked the question i've been having a pretty hard time verbalizing in the computer!.!.!.i have thesame problem too and i cant say that i've overcome it cuz sometimes the inner me and in my mind has so so much to say and when i try to talk to someone about those things i've thought about and planned to say they just come out wrong it always ends up that im wrong in things i've thought about and to things i feel!.u get it dont you!? i mean like theres alot of things i want to say but everytime i try to say it it just doesnt seem right like its another person talking instead of me!. it's like my being true to myself on the inside competes with the being organized in words and actions of my outer shell and its really frustrating that sometimes when i try to be open to someone about something i just completely disorganize my thoughts thinking about what to say that wouldn't hurt anyone and at thesame time let my feelings get out of my chest!.!.
i know its reaLLY TOUGH!. i really am more of an oral person like i like verbalizing more than writting down the stuff that goes around my head!. i think u should be more frank and honest to the counselor u're talking to and be less likely conscious of the people u're hurting or the stuff that bothers u!.u know just focus more on what u want to say and let them understand than the things that bother u when u go out of that room!.And really if ur not that comfortable and less likely to talk about ur inner feelings when u're writting it down then try telling ur counselor that u wish to speak and be more oral and frank about the things ur head wants to say than writting it down and have difficulty in verbalizing the thoughts in ur head!. And oh!.!.!.u should use simple words like hard instead of difficult or tired instead of stressed or which ever u're comfortable that gives u the impression that through those words u use to explain those thoughts in ur head he will most likely understand!.Good Luck!.^^,Www@Answer-Health@Com
i know its reaLLY TOUGH!. i really am more of an oral person like i like verbalizing more than writting down the stuff that goes around my head!. i think u should be more frank and honest to the counselor u're talking to and be less likely conscious of the people u're hurting or the stuff that bothers u!.u know just focus more on what u want to say and let them understand than the things that bother u when u go out of that room!.And really if ur not that comfortable and less likely to talk about ur inner feelings when u're writting it down then try telling ur counselor that u wish to speak and be more oral and frank about the things ur head wants to say than writting it down and have difficulty in verbalizing the thoughts in ur head!. And oh!.!.!.u should use simple words like hard instead of difficult or tired instead of stressed or which ever u're comfortable that gives u the impression that through those words u use to explain those thoughts in ur head he will most likely understand!.Good Luck!.^^,Www@Answer-Health@Com