Is therapy a good idea?!
Question: Is therapy a good idea!?
Ok!.!.!. when I was 8 years old I was staying the night at a friends house and her mother sexually molested me and then made her daughter sexually molest me!. I never told anyone and my friend and her mother moved about 4 months after that!. I am 20 years old and the last I had heard, her mother died of a drug overdose and my old friend got pregnant in high school and is now a lesbian!. After the molestation, I was a wreck for a while!.!.!.!. I didn't talk to anyone very much, I didn't let anyone touch me and to this day I still do not like to be touched, I only have one female friend and do not have a close relationship with any women, and I am now in a serious relationship but cannot even make love to my boyfriend!. He doesn't know and he's been so patient and so good to me!. I had been doing a really good job of blocking the memory out, but lately I have just been a wreck!. I know I can never get justice because she is dead!.!.!. so should I start seeing a therapist!? I just don't know what to do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Most definately!. Find a good therapist to talk to!. Being able to open up to someone you know will not judge you or be shocked by anything you say or feel can be very therapeutic!.
For the "contributor" who made the asinine comment about "a few people sticking fingers in you"- fyi, the consequences of molestation are not about someone sticking a finger in you!. They are about loss of trust, personal boundaries getting messed with, feelings of shame, etc!. They can affect you emotionally and in your relationships later in life!. It also does not mean you are doomed to unhappiness! You just need to get some therapy and work through it!. Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
For the "contributor" who made the asinine comment about "a few people sticking fingers in you"- fyi, the consequences of molestation are not about someone sticking a finger in you!. They are about loss of trust, personal boundaries getting messed with, feelings of shame, etc!. They can affect you emotionally and in your relationships later in life!. It also does not mean you are doomed to unhappiness! You just need to get some therapy and work through it!. Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, it's a very good idea! Somehow you need to get over this, and a therapist can help!. Being intimate with your boyfriend is likely causing you to remember what you've been blocking out, and you'll need to deal with it!. Your "friend" and her mother violated you!.!. What happened to you should NEVER happen to ANYONE, especially a child!.!!! The worst part is that you probably blame yourself!.!.!.!. remember "It's not your fault" !.!.!.
Love & warm thoughts to you!.!.!.
I wish you well, dear!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Love & warm thoughts to you!.!.!.
I wish you well, dear!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
yes a good therapist! i've never been molested, but I can only imagine your pain!. I'm california bred, so therapy is the norm here!. Find a good one in your area!. Preferably one who specializes in childhood trauma!.
good luck and you're so brave for wanting to confront your past and move on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
good luck and you're so brave for wanting to confront your past and move on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think therapy would be a good idea!. You have been living with this issue for a long time and a good therapist can help you move forward with meanigful relationships!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
therapy can work wonders if you have a good therapist!. do some research and maybe it will help just keep an opend mind!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow, yes I would definitely recommend therapy!. :(Www@Answer-Health@Com
Talking about your fears and what happened to you as a child with a trainned therapist would be a safe place where you can open up and began to work through the trauma that you endured as a child!. As you have stated, closing up and not talking about it hasn't helped since you have trouble in your present life being touched!. As far as not being able to get justice, does that really matter as long as you get some peace of mind and help working through your problems!?
From my own experince I saw a therapist in my adult life to help me through issues I had with my father and his alcoholism!. Although I wasn't physically abused, I was emotionally abused and felt so much anger toward him and couldn't direct it anywhere because he had died!. A therapist really helped me work through my problems and it wasn't a long drawn experience either !.!. just a few sessions over a month with real help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
From my own experince I saw a therapist in my adult life to help me through issues I had with my father and his alcoholism!. Although I wasn't physically abused, I was emotionally abused and felt so much anger toward him and couldn't direct it anywhere because he had died!. A therapist really helped me work through my problems and it wasn't a long drawn experience either !.!. just a few sessions over a month with real help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com