How can I stop feeling so depressed when I feel like such a failure?!


Question: How can I stop feeling so depressed when I feel like such a failure!?
I have never really achieved anything in my life!.

I have attempted numerous writing contests, but my pieces are never good enough for recognition!. I recently tried another one, and actually had a lot of faith in my entry but alas I still did not win!. My friend did though, of coarse, and it's the second year in a row that she's won this contest!.

At first I tired to not be too down about it, for of coarse I was very proud of my friend, and to cheer my own self up I thought: "Well now I can go to my softball game!."

My team did win our game, however I myself hadn't really performed well!.!.!.

I've been crying for hours because i've just realized: I'm not good at ANYTHING!. I've never won a writing contest, i'm horrible with people, i'm only ok at acting in plays and playing softball, and i've never really've won anything in my life!.!.!.

Is there any way I can feel better about myself!? Or am I really just a hopeless failure!?

And just curious!.!.!.Has anyone ever felt the same way!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
Honey, everyone that is a success has had their fare share of failures me included!. You have to always follow your heart in order to be a success in life!. If writing is your passion then you do it the best you possibly can and eventually things will all come together!.

Try this grounding exercise so that you can calm yourself down and let yourself focus on what you need to be doing!.

http://kitchentablemedicine!.com/stress-m!.!.!.

My intuition is never wrong and for some reason, I really believe in you!. I have a GREAT feeling about it!.

If you want to be a success in life you will need to learn right now, today!.!.!.that avoiding failure is not an option!.

Successful people learn how to EMBRACE failure and use it as a tool to make themselves better!.

Remember that just because you aren't in first place doesn't mean you aren't the best version of yourself possible!. Being the best YOU is the only thing that matters!. Nothing else does!. No one else can compete with that!.

No one!.

Someday none of this will matter!.!.!.I know because I am probably a million years older than you!.!.!.the only thing that does matter is that you have a positive mental attitude and learn from life's lessons!.

Take care my dear, and be gentle with yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

start flirting with has girls as u can, that is going to help u see world in a different perspective, u ll surely start believing in ur-self and also it ll help ur writing abilities !.!.!.!.!.!.!.it ll keep u in company of other new friends, u ll start discovering new abt other & urself a lot and trust me u will feel good abt it !.!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Just because you have never won anything it isn't the end of the world - you are not alone!
Lots of people haven't!
You just need to discover where your talents lie!
Don't give up!
Keep entering competions and don't tell your friend about them all - that way you will reduce the competition! Lol!Www@Answer-Health@Com

geesh, aren't you supposed to be playing ball, doing drama and writing for fun and enjoyment!?!?!?!? Maybe you should stop concentrating on competitiveness and get into the moment and enjoy the doing!.!.!.!.or maybe you should do something else!.!.!.!.because right now you do not sound to be enjoying those activities because you have turned them into tests of achievement!.!.!.no wonder miserable!!! You are not a failure; you are just missing the point about these activities!.!.!.!.the FUN!

Can't think if I ever won anything either, but yet I do not feel like a failure!.!.!.!.!.the next time you join an activity or take part ask yourself "can I join this purely for the enjoyment and to learn something WITHOUT turning into a personal competition where I set myself up to feel like a failure!.!.!.!.!.you are not a failure but you are making yourself feel like one!.!.!.does that make sense!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

Yes, I feel like that all the time!. Welcome to the world of the average teenager (if that's what you are)!.

Can you feel better about yourself!? Actually, for me, feelings just come and go!. If you want to be happy, find a goal in life, maybe something or someone you can live and die for!.

Maybe you can turn to religion, or romance, or maybe the need for a change in the world!. No matter how stupid it may be ("yeah, brothers and sisters, I'm gonna change the world and be remembered!"), never let go!.

Sorry if this sounds totally corny!. I'm still depressed like half the time, but now at least I know I can live for something, and as long as that something lives, I'll keep pushing for it!. I don't know if that helps, but aside from therapy or medication, I really don't know!. I'm sorry, I tried, but I'm only like 15 myself, but idk!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

God don't make trash He Makes you Special
OK right now you are in a depression and feeling like your no good I believe you expect to much from your self and that you are trying way to hard to be someone that's not you!. just because you failed in this writing contest doesn't mean your not good at what you do!.it's not what they are loOKing for!.if your team won the game and you are on the team and was playing you must of done ok because if you didn't you would caues the team to loose!. Your good about reaching out and talking on the net that takes guts Hun Every one in one time has felt that way i have my girls have it the life circle you can sit and cry all the time and get into a deep depression or get up and say I'm here and I'm OK I'm not a failure things well change and believe it!. I want you to do this for 5 days then get back to me take a piece of paper and write 5 things that is good about you or what you have accomplished you can't repeat it it hast to be something new each day example: I write storie, my eyes are pretty, my toes are pretty,i can cook to help out do you understand then come to me and well see then what happens
You can always send your story to me and I well read it and give you my honest opiion I won't BS you I be up front and truth ful
Beth :) :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

Yes my dear!! I have had many moments that I thought I was worthless when it came to talent!! But, you are blowing the wrong horn in your mind!!! You don't have to be a winner in a contest or play ball the best of everyone, you are you and that in itself is a winning goal!!! You must be sure of yourself and
not judge yourself so critically!! If you would just let lose and
and enjoy your endeavors I guarantee you would improve on the winning front!! I have felt so useless at times I had to
do some deep soul searching to bring myself out of it and
you can do the same!! I did find my niche after much much
thought; I have knitted dresses, sweaters, coats, and children clothing with patterns and without !! A german lady finally
pointed this out to me and finally I had to agree!! Don't ever
let yourself feel you are a hopeless failure it is simply not true!!!!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com

It doesnt sound like you are not good at anything it sounds like you arent as good as you would like to be at the things you attempt!. i think ur awesome for trying!. at times i feel the same way, like im a failure, but then i remind myself that i am only a failure if i give up!. maybe my attemps failed but as long as i keep trying then i am in pursuit!. i believe God has a purpose for everyone and has endowed everyone with some type of aptitude!.
here are some quotes about failure
"There are no secrets to success!. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure!."
Colin Powell
"Show me a thoroughly satisfied man and I will show you a failure!."
Thomas A Edison (good example!. he tried many of times to make his invention work and it finally got it right on the upteenth/dreth time!.!.!.such is with many successful people)

Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions!. All life is an experiment!. The more experiments you make the better!. What if they are a little course, and you may get your coat soiled or torn!? What if you do fail, and get fairly rolled in the dirt once or twice!. Up again, you shall never be so afraid of a tumble!."
Ralph Waldo Emerson

"We learn wisdom from failure much more than from success!. We often discover what will do, by finding out what will not do; and probably he who never made a mistake never made a discovery!."
Samuel Smiles

"It is a mistake to suppose that men succeed through success; they much oftener succeed through failures!. Precept, study, advice, and example could never have taught them so well as failure has done!."
Samuel Smiles

"Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in the gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat!."
Theodore Roosevelt

You always pass failure on the way to success!."
Mickey RooneyWww@Answer-Health@Com





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