Can't be myself.. please help?!
Question: Can't be myself!.!. please help!?
i'm not bragging!.!. people have told me all my life that i'm gorgeous!. that's not my problem, i know that i'm not ugly!. on the outside that is!.!. in the past 2 years i've been slowly becoming more distant and not myself!. i used to have tons of friends, i was in the "popular group" (not bragging!.), i was funny and confident and nice!. i'm in 9th grade now and i've slowly lost all of my friends!. i don't have any close friends left, and i have a few friends!.!. :/ everytime i meet someone they try to be friends with me, i know that i seem like a really pretty fun person to be friends with in the begining!. but once people get to know me they see that i'm distant and not confident and tired all the time and just not myself!. i barley ever know what to say around people except for when i get these random spurrs of confidence and people see the real me!. those times are the reason i still have friends!. i just find it hard to relate to people and be me without thinking hard but im usually to tired toWww@Answer-Health@Com
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what u have to do is speak up!! Talk to the friends u lost! Let them know how u feel! And what u have to do is just act like urself!! If u feel like u have nothing to say, just say whatever seems appropriate to talk about! Get your confidence up by talking to people you don't even know, just dont freak them out!lol! talking makes a big difference!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You don't have to entertain people all the time!. You might be a thinker!. It's exhausting trying to entertain people every second, you don't have to, take time for yourself!. You have your moments, maybe you can read a bit and let yourself form opinions and don't think about it too much!. There might be an underlying reason to this!. Do you worry too much about what they think of you!? Maybe you need to ease the tension first!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Welcome to teenage hood!.
You should outgrow this!. You also have seen how shallow people can be and you have some important choices to make, be shallow like them or learn who you are and run with it!.
There is never a right or wrong way to learn who you are , this is a part of being a teenager!.
Try and learn some confidence, it will take you far in this cruel world, looks may open doors but those doors can shut on you real quick!.
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You should outgrow this!. You also have seen how shallow people can be and you have some important choices to make, be shallow like them or learn who you are and run with it!.
There is never a right or wrong way to learn who you are , this is a part of being a teenager!.
Try and learn some confidence, it will take you far in this cruel world, looks may open doors but those doors can shut on you real quick!.
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
I have studied psychology and it sounds like you may have bipolar disorder!. Lack of energy and confidence, etc!. sounds like depression and the spurrs of confidence& high energy not quite mania but close!. Talk to your parents and tell them what's going on!. Ask them to take you to your doctor!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sometimes, when you hang around other people, you tend to act like them, or try to "fit" in perhaps!.
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be what makes you feel comfortable!.
if you dont have that many friends dont worry because maybe they werent true anyways!. try being more open but dont let yourself seem desperate!. acting always helps me sometimes even though i know its all lies just in case!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
if you dont have that many friends dont worry because maybe they werent true anyways!. try being more open but dont let yourself seem desperate!. acting always helps me sometimes even though i know its all lies just in case!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
do you have anxiety attacks!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
You seem to suffer from depression! Talk to your family physician!.
The first step to getting appropriate treatment, for depression or any other emotional problem, is a complete psychological evaluation to determine whether you have a depressive illness, and if so, what type of depression!. Consultation with a psychologist will include a review of your physical health history!. Some medications as well as some medical conditions can cause symptoms of depression, so your psychologist will ask your family physician to rule out these possibilities if other physical symptoms are evident!.
Lastly, the psychological diagnostic evaluation will include a mental status examination to assess the full range of psychological symptoms and problems!. This will help identify any other psychological problems that might be present, and will help determine the most appropriate treatment for you!.
Treatment choice will depend on the outcome of the evaluation!. Most people do well with psychotherapy, but some require treatment with antidepressants in addition to psychotherapy!. Medication can allow you to to gain relatively quick symptom relief, if you are experiencing severe and disabling symptoms!. However, medication does not "cure" the depression, it only treats the symptoms!. If you are depressed, you need psychotherapy to help you to learn more effective ways to deal with life's problems, and to change the negative thoughts and attitudes that have caused you to develop depression!.
So make your first move!.Dont wait too long before it get worse!.
You are not alone,there is help around the corner,never give up!.
God bless you always!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The first step to getting appropriate treatment, for depression or any other emotional problem, is a complete psychological evaluation to determine whether you have a depressive illness, and if so, what type of depression!. Consultation with a psychologist will include a review of your physical health history!. Some medications as well as some medical conditions can cause symptoms of depression, so your psychologist will ask your family physician to rule out these possibilities if other physical symptoms are evident!.
Lastly, the psychological diagnostic evaluation will include a mental status examination to assess the full range of psychological symptoms and problems!. This will help identify any other psychological problems that might be present, and will help determine the most appropriate treatment for you!.
Treatment choice will depend on the outcome of the evaluation!. Most people do well with psychotherapy, but some require treatment with antidepressants in addition to psychotherapy!. Medication can allow you to to gain relatively quick symptom relief, if you are experiencing severe and disabling symptoms!. However, medication does not "cure" the depression, it only treats the symptoms!. If you are depressed, you need psychotherapy to help you to learn more effective ways to deal with life's problems, and to change the negative thoughts and attitudes that have caused you to develop depression!.
So make your first move!.Dont wait too long before it get worse!.
You are not alone,there is help around the corner,never give up!.
God bless you always!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It will take time to mature into who you are other than the physically attractiveness you seem to imply!. You are a unique person inside and it will also take time to come to terms with who you are! You must always remember, you are who you are, not what others perceive who you are!. Once you become comfortable with you, then others will get to know you!. You can't always be who others want you to be! Give it time; you are young yet! You have a whole lifetime to know yourself!! Most of us never discover who we are!!!!!!!!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
well as hard as it might be you need to try to be yourself!.!.!.and if people don't like you for who you are then they weren't your friends to start with!. I know its hard, I'm in high school also and it helps just to talk about it to someone!. It mainly just a phase your going through, it will get better, you still have three more years left!. Sometimes it helps to get out of your comfort zone, of being quiet, and just walk up to someone and say, "hey" maybe they will need a friend too!. or maybe not but you have nothing to lose with them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow, sounds almost excatly like what I am going through!. I most likely wont be able to give any help or answer seeing that I am still trying to be myself/who I want to be also!.!.!. But for what it's worth I'll tell you what I have been doing to help people see who I truly am rather than a just some joke that most people would probably see me as!. Just like you, I used to be pretty social, not exactly "popular" but I was friends with pretty much everyone before I entered high school as well!. And for some reason, I seemed to lose my grip on things and became weird in my mind and I seem to be degrading in views and I had been doing worse in classes!. After about a month so far, I've been trying out new routes and ideas to bring back the goods parts of me that people liked (had to figure out what that was first) and at the same time I had to be myself/ who I want!. I used to be very shy and nice but now I am more annoying and sadly, sometimes obnoxious!. So now I try to bring back my kindness and bring it up a notch, also I am attemting to be more sociable yet not as annoying either!. Another thing I've done to be myself is to express myself through something I love to do, whether that be me dancing or performing magic for people or just to practice it to myself!. By expressing yourself, people with the same interests will want to be friends or at the east take some interest to who you are and what you do!. Just keep on moving in your life and don't stop at any point, a feeling of hopelessness(sp!?) is just an obstacle but you can get by it!. Try making some sort of goal and give a full effort in achieving it, this will help you feel better and maybe a new route will open up!. This could lead to new friends!. Trust me, just keep on believing and be a thoughtful person, you'll definitely improve with time!. Best of luck with things!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I had a time when I wasn't myself either!. I was once very outgoing, and then I all of a sudden did not feel like myself, and I just felt like I was on the outside looking in!. I stayed like that for a couple of months, thinking that I could change it myself, but one day I just lost it and broke down and told my mom everything that was going on!. She then took me to see a therapist and took me to the doctor, and after 2 sessions and a couple of medications, I feel totally fine!. I am not saying that you are depressed or anything, but if you think this is a serious situation and you feel helpless and you have done everything you can, talk to someone!. This may also just be a transitioning time in your life since you have just started high school!. It is a big change and I lost and made many new friends!. Just wait it out a little bit, and if it does not get better, just tell someone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You sound a lot like me!. I am a pretty quiet when I am not around my friends!. And that is okay!. You can be quiet and confident at the same time!. Don't try to act weird because you think people won't like you if you don't act a certain way!. The truth is, if you just act like yourself, (if you are a quiet person, then don't try and say too much just to get people to like you) and people will see you for who you really are!. People will appreciate you, and you will appreciate yourself, if you just act like yourself!. Don't worry about boys either!. Trust me, if you are as beautiful as you say, then getting a boyfriend will be no problem!. Guys are probably turned off by your insecurities and think that you don't like them!. Just relax, be yourself, and don't adjust yourelf to how you think others want you to be!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't know what to tell ya!. I can sometimes be the same way in school!. Since 3rd grade to probably about 8th grade, I was as shy as can be, and couldn't show my real self to people!. I just was not confident!. Ever since I started high school last year though, I have a lot more friends, but not like really close close ones!. I have become more confident and don't even worry much!. For some resone every body likes me!. I can tell you this, I'm just nice to people, I talk when I believe its a good time to talk, and just don't worry!. Some days I can be the same way you are!. I can be tired, shy, and less confident around people some days!. But lately I'v been feeling good and more confident!.
I got my first girl friend earlier this year, but it only lasted for three weeks!. The problem was that I was speechless on what to say to her!.
Some days I ask the same question to myself!. You have to experiment with your self!. I believe the amount of sleep you get makes a big difference!. One night try getting 8 hours of sleep, and the next try getting only 6 hours of sleep, unless its effects your grades!. It may help you!. Just experiment, and TRY to get into conversations!. You may get somewhere!.
I am still working on ware I want to be, and I have shown improvement!.
Like the person above me sead, you will improve over time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I got my first girl friend earlier this year, but it only lasted for three weeks!. The problem was that I was speechless on what to say to her!.
Some days I ask the same question to myself!. You have to experiment with your self!. I believe the amount of sleep you get makes a big difference!. One night try getting 8 hours of sleep, and the next try getting only 6 hours of sleep, unless its effects your grades!. It may help you!. Just experiment, and TRY to get into conversations!. You may get somewhere!.
I am still working on ware I want to be, and I have shown improvement!.
Like the person above me sead, you will improve over time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I was the same way! Wow! Except I was kinda the other way around!. Before high school, I was very quiet!. Not neccessarily shy, just a quiet person!. Once I got into high school, I find it hard to shut up!. But there are some people I can get around, and just not know what to say!. I feel nervous around them and I just!.!. Lock up! But anyways what I did to make myself talk more, was I just be myself!. I am learning to never be afraid to express myself, and to just open up to people!. And never be afraid of what people think of you!. We each have our own personalities, and that's just who we are!. Real friends will accept you for who you are!. So all you have to do, is just be yourself and you will find it much easier to make friends! =)
And you don't have to worry about being in the 'Popular' group to actually be popular!. There are 2 types of popular!. Popular # 1, everyone has heard of you because you are the richest prettiest girl in school!. And popular # 2, you are so nice, that everyone knows you and wants to be your friend!. I would rather be popular # 2!.
So, to sum it all up, I would just say to be yourself, and not be afraid of what people think of you!.
Good Luck! And I hope this helps you out! =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
And you don't have to worry about being in the 'Popular' group to actually be popular!. There are 2 types of popular!. Popular # 1, everyone has heard of you because you are the richest prettiest girl in school!. And popular # 2, you are so nice, that everyone knows you and wants to be your friend!. I would rather be popular # 2!.
So, to sum it all up, I would just say to be yourself, and not be afraid of what people think of you!.
Good Luck! And I hope this helps you out! =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
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